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For thinking MIL is BU for not using her Tesco points for us anymore

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elizaregina · 07/01/2013 17:51

Big on going Probs with PILS, they have one of our clubcards - they spend alot at tesco and with thier points and ours we were able to take DD to some fab places last year there is no way we could afford to without them - for instance - lego land, warwick castle etc, etc...

They seem to use the card depending on if we are in or out of favour, It has been explained to them in detail how much you get in value for points etc...and how it goes on days out for DD.

AIBU for thinking MIL not using her card when she is upset with us is petty beyond belief, and only affects the DD she is supposed to love, and its a way of doing something great at no cost to them and also hardly any effort save scanning the card at checkout! BTW i dont think they would benefit from the points themselves at all - as quite well off.

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elizaregina · 07/01/2013 21:11

with points you have an account on line which tells you how many points you collected on your spends - so x place - x amount. we know its her where she lives. when you check points generally you see where picked up.

Other people that collect our points alone they wouldnt add up to much - all the people collecting for us all the time gets us about 60 quid a year which translate to alot of points...

PILS use tescoe slightly more with slightly higher spends as two of them, the others are single.

its the beg of the year, i know if she is using card then we would have been able to go to some nice places later on this year - however with her usage stopped - less points - less places....

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drownangels · 07/01/2013 21:17

Don' rely on others for your social life.
Sure it was nice while it lasted but there are tons of day out that are free or join the National Trust. When we were skint we had loads of picnics and played bat and ball and other games after our food, we had bike rides for the day, went to museums. I bought a family rail card and had cheap train fares to the Lakes and to seaside resorts.

Make your own fun

hermioneweasley · 07/01/2013 21:19

Agree with stunt girl.

LittleBearPad · 07/01/2013 21:19

YABU

wewereherefirst · 07/01/2013 21:20

I can't see on my clubcard account where each point was put on. Just where the vouchers were used. Hmm

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elizaregina · 07/01/2013 21:22

my points - current collection details....

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lockets · 07/01/2013 21:25

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mercibucket · 07/01/2013 21:30

maybe she's got her own card too

yabvu

i never thought to ask anyone to do this. surely they would want to save their points for them to use?

Anonymumous · 07/01/2013 21:34

Sorry, but if I was your MIL I would be pissed off with your entitled attitude and would probably deliberately "lose" my Clubcard just to annoy you and relieve my own irked feelings. Oh look, that's exactly what your MIL did. What a coincidence... And then you got her another one...

Take the hint, dear!

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elizaregina · 07/01/2013 21:56

Yes she has annoyed me - because I think its really childish and stupid and DD is the one who doesnt get the nice day out...

Some one said thier DP and PILS did it for them, I thought it was a great idea, I asked my DF who more than happily obliges - another friend and DH asked his DP's. We always profusley thanked them for this and told them about how dd had enjoyed the vairous days out - and where possible - invited them along too ....

The post wasn't about whether she should or shouldn't use the card to give us points - she had already agreed she would, it was the fact she stops using them when there is a problem!
I also never asked her to get us points - I ask and talk to my side about them and there is no issues or problems!

INFACT we had a slight disagreement with my DF over xmas and I noticed he still used his card after it.

She asked my DH if he had another one - I didnt want her to have one - DH did - i dont like being beholden to them - but I thought of DD and the fun she had had....

I dont understand the entitled attitudes!

I just think its a good job we never did accept thier offering to to pay for any extra classes - if this is what they are like over club card points - I cant imagine what they do in the middle of a term paying for classes.....and there was a problem.

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wewereherefirst · 07/01/2013 22:03

Oh for heavens sake, its a day out. Your daughters eternal happiness isn't based on a trip to a theme park!

On one hand you say you didn't want her to have another card and on the other you say your daughter is missing out- which one is it to be?

If your DH hadn't given her another card you would have got your own way and no extra sodding points.

Just save £1 a week in a jar, you're then saving it for a day out that you have self funded.

Anonymumous · 07/01/2013 22:03

But if she decides to stop using her card when she's annoyed with you, that's her prerogative. They're her points, after all. You should be grateful for the ones you do get, not moaning that you don't get enough.

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Pancakeflipper · 07/01/2013 22:09

how do you check other people's cards?

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elizaregina · 07/01/2013 22:10

No

I am moaning about her attitude behind it. I know what she is like but new examples crop up that never cease to amaze me...

We are def going to self fund in future - its just a real shame thats all.

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elizaregina · 07/01/2013 22:13

Lockets

its really hard to explain, if you have a club card there is a page where you see how many points you have - they send you vouchers every collection period - so next one is end of jan , every now and then i check to see what we have accumulated so i can plan what we will do with them and when...

it also shows collection details - as explained earlier - where each card holder who all live in diff places - has spent the money to get the points....

x place - x amount accumulated that day...

i dont check to see what they are spending but its hard not to see it - on the list...

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DioneTheDiabolist · 07/01/2013 22:14

OP, you are stalking your MIL (who you have fallen out with) and your DF (who you have fallen out with) to find out if they are still contributing club card points to your family's future days out.

If anyone sounds petty or maybe a bit obsessed, it's you.Sad

Pancakeflipper · 07/01/2013 22:15

But do you know they are shopping at that supermarket? Perhaps they are shopping elsewhere or perhaps they have forgotten whose card is whose and confused themselves?

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elizaregina · 07/01/2013 22:16

Lockets I cant help but Smile at your impression of all these phone calls going on about varisous movements in and out of tesco.....

My DH doesnt sit outside tesco either in a black van with a disc on top - in a covert operation monitering shopping bags!

We are coming up to end of this collectin period which is usullay every three months and i noticed we are down on points then saw why...

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Anonymumous · 07/01/2013 22:20

Maybe they are not pissed off with you at all, but are fed up with the quality of the food at Tesco. So, being well-off, they have been visiting Waitrose or local farmers' markets instead...? How would you know?

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Pancakeflipper · 07/01/2013 22:22

They might have lost your card?

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notactuallyme · 07/01/2013 22:23

It sounds as tho you have no other means of taking your dd out except via tesco points. Do you really check how many you have quite regularly? Its like a mini industry! All these worker bees collecting points to get you to legoland! Just save up and go. If you're that skint you should prob use the points on food.