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AIBU?

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To be unnerved about this man....

154 replies

Everythingwillbeok · 07/01/2013 15:33

One of my neighbours who I only know in passing has started cooking for me,I am not elderly nor do I live alone.
I am married and have 2 DC.Its not full meals or anything like that just samosas,onion basis things like that.
Initially I was very grateful and just assumed they were for all of us to share and perhaps he was lonely.

He is about 45 and very friendly,he does live alone with no children that I know of,but recently he has been dropping off food and commenting its only for me and has been very flirty and is constantly saying I am beautiful.I am now not eating the food anymore it just doesn't feel right. This only happens about once a month by the way it's not as if he cooking stuff every night.

Also he pushed a Christmas card through a couple of weeks ago which had all our names in spelt correctly including our DCs. Didn't know he knew their names.

It's all really come to a head now as I saw him last night in the street and he was again very flirty and telling me I'm beautiful. I felt so uneasy,bearing in mind he has never touched me or tried to enter the house AIBU?I don't know what I think will happen but it just feels inappropriate somehow. My DH hasn't really said much about the situation and is mildly amused although he doesn't know I saw him last night.

He seems like a very nice man but I'm worried for some reason.

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MusicalEndorphins · 27/01/2013 04:27

Revolting.

Toughasoldboots · 27/01/2013 05:18

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CheerfulYank · 27/01/2013 05:32

I...I just... Shock

I've never thought of myself as a prude before BUT.

TheFallenNinja · 27/01/2013 06:31

45 year old men who live alone and start giving gifts to women are not to be trusted, sorry, it is weird.

Unleash hubby, mark his card.

Montybojangles · 27/01/2013 07:23

Can honestly say that tipping cold conjealed spunk onto my steak in a restaurant is never going to rock my boat Fauntle

zignzag · 27/01/2013 07:30

Fauntle ... Your obviously telling big fat tales!! Great imagination .....

Maybe you could get this guys address and pay him a visit. You would make a great couple and problem solved for op!! No more spunky cuisine.

MariusEarlobe · 27/01/2013 07:47

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RuleBritannia · 27/01/2013 08:05

Thanks, Fauntle. You have put me off my breakfast. I'm glad I don't know you.

ClartyCarol · 27/01/2013 08:10

What a load of balls. That was to Fauntie obv.

OP, hope you've managed to put your admirer/stalker off.

stifnstav · 27/01/2013 08:11

I'm retching at fauntle!

Seriously, cut open a cake and see if any white liquid comes out? Like a spunk-based melt in the middle pudding?!

I would bin anything he gave. I don't eat things made by children, let alone potential sex-chefs.

catladycourtney1 · 27/01/2013 08:17

I hope he's adding his special ingredient before he cooks the food, and not after... what if he has something nasty? Eww. Well actually, I hope he isn't adding it at all, but I think that's probably being too naive.

Maybe it's just a cultural thing? Not even cultural really, but to do with his upbringing. Maybe he equates feeding you with showing love and affection. Maybe he's a feeder! He's trying to get you so fat that your husband won't want you and then he can get you to go round and crush him with your belly.

I think my imagination is working too hard for this time in a morning. You should definitely get your dh to step in, though. He might not be quite as harmless as you think.

Softlysoftly · 27/01/2013 08:22

Great why did I catch up on this thread at tea and toast time? Now all I can see are the words "slightly salted" on my butter :(

GetOrf · 27/01/2013 08:34

Fauntle is taking the piss - don't believe it, he is probably a 17 year old lad having a wank at all our Shock faces.

ChristmasJubilee · 27/01/2013 08:44

I must have led a very sheltered life!

OP don't accept anything else from this man. When he next speaks to you tell him you find his attention inappropriate and that it has to stop. Don't worry about being rude or upsetting him, his behaviour is not normal.

Are you on Facebook? Are your settings secure. Could he be a friend of a friend. It's better that he is not getting any information about you from anywhere else.

LindyHemming · 27/01/2013 08:58

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scratchandsniff · 27/01/2013 08:59

Hmmm mefinks Fauntle is telling porkies. Can't see how you could eat at a restaurant with friends and them not notice you putting jizz on your food.

You should definitely bin any future offerings from the neighbour.

Fakebook · 27/01/2013 09:13

Fauntle, you must be really fucked up in the head to make up a story like that. How pathetic.

RuleBritannia · 27/01/2013 10:07

Fankly, Fauntle, that's the sort of thing that should be reported to the Police. Mumsnet officers, what's your opinion?

RuleBritannia · 27/01/2013 10:08

*Frankly

MimmeeBack · 27/01/2013 10:19
Envy
wewereherefirst · 27/01/2013 10:44

Fauntle- bullshit and lies.

The rest of this thread has had me Grin

HoHoHoNoYouDont · 27/01/2013 10:56

I was on the Fauntle line of thought from the beginning. I would feel uneasy eating something a virtual stranger had made for me in these circumstances. I can't believe this guy gives you the beautiful spiel knowing you have a DH. Pretty cheeky if you ask me.

GetOrf · 27/01/2013 13:28

I doubt this bloke has jizzed in your samosas.

But he is overstepping the mark. Tell him that his remarks to you are inappropriate and as a married woman you are offended, and want him to stop.

bootsycollins · 27/01/2013 13:39

He's grooming you, sounds really weird

Callycat · 27/01/2013 13:58

Holla: I know what you meant, my British Indian bf calls his 'Indian Indian' friend "brown boy" as part of laddish piss-talking. I wouldn't use it myself but it is a common in-joke in some circles.

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