To be unnerved about this man....

[Everythingwillbeok]

One of my neighbours who I only know in passing has started cooking for me,I am not elderly nor do I live alone.
I am married and have 2 DC.Its not full meals or anything like that just samosas,onion basis things like that.
Initially I was very grateful and just assumed they were for all of us to share and perhaps he was lonely.

He is about 45 and very friendly,he does live alone with no children that I know of,but recently he has been dropping off food and commenting its only for me and has been very flirty and is constantly saying I am beautiful.I am now not eating the food anymore it just doesn't feel right. This only happens about once a month by the way it's not as if he cooking stuff every night.

Also he pushed a Christmas card through a couple of weeks ago which had all our names in spelt correctly including our DCs. Didn't know he knew their names.

It's all really come to a head now as I saw him last night in the street and he was again very flirty and telling me I'm beautiful. I felt so uneasy,bearing in mind he has never touched me or tried to enter the house AIBU?I don't know what I think will happen but it just feels inappropriate somehow. My DH hasn't really said much about the situation and is mildly amused although he doesn't know I saw him last night.

He seems like a very nice man but I'm worried for some reason.

[Bluefrogs]

I guessed what you meant by 'proper Indian' even though it's not a term I think is acceptable,but 'brown British'?
I think the word you may be looking for is British.
Or British Asian.

[ResolutelyCheeky]

Eyes 'proper indian' husband with suspision.

[HollaAtMeBaby]

Sorry, really didn't mean to offend.

[ResolutelyCheeky]

It's ok, can't imagine he has been baking for anyone

[moodymai]

lol at ResolutelCheeky

[BJunction]

If a neighbour decided to cook me some food and give me a Christmas card, I'd be very grateful indeed. I like both food and Christmas. Use judgement with instinct, don't let paranoia ruin a perfectly good samosa but as has been said.

[Softlysoftly]

Im actually crying for the first time on MN and DH has left the room after wondering why the actual fuck im telling him he's now "Brown British".

My new favourite term btw.

[TinyDancingHoofer]

Someone i know referred to himself as brown british yesterday. I've never heard it before and now twice in as many days, is this some new slang i have missed?

[ResolutelyCheeky]

Dh not liking the term 'brown British' and reckons samosas are better served with raita not jiz

[HollaAtMeBaby]

I do know quite a few British Asians who refer to themselves as brown. I didn't just make it up! but I am sorry to have upset people.

Is "black British" OK? and if so, what is the difference?!

[ResolutelyCheeky]

No offense taken. I don't feel comfortable with describing anyone by a colour. I would be enraged if an adult referred to my dd as a colour. Different for young children, they tend to differenciate by colour of hair etc until they are taught differently.
I prefer Asian/British or simply British if they were born here.

[Softlysoftly]

Holla I'm crying laughing not offended though DH says he's Brown Welsh actually.

[Scheherezade]

I refer to myself as white skin with dyed red hair. Wouldn't be offended if someone pointed it out...

[Scheherezade]

If anything its like the people who say you shouldn't mention skin colour are saying ypu should be ashamed of having brown/black skin, its something to hide, like you wouldn't point out a persons wonky teeth or warty nose.

[bringbacksideburns]

BJunction - he's telling her she's very beautiful and flirting with her thiugh, which takes things a lot further. I think you need to address this yourself next time it happens if you can't afford it.
Say "Can i stop you right there? I don't like you saying that. It makes me uncomfortable. I'm married and it's not appropriate."
If he offers more food say thanks but no thanks. If your DP speaks to him he might think it's coming from him and not you?

[bringbacksideburns]

avoid it not afford

[TeeBee]

Ice lolly, that was my immediate thought too.
OP, I would be inclined to say that you can't accept anymore as your husband is getting fed up with it and you feel it may becoming inappropriate.

[Alisvolatpropiis]

The food is kind gesture,assuming there are no special ingredients,but the flirting is highly inappropriate. It's not just being friendly. He knows you have children.

Tell him to stop and if he doesn't,ask your husband to tell him. Not in an aggressive way,just firmly.

[ResolutelyCheeky]

Seriously, you need to involve your husband. It would be seen as very disrespectful if someone was giving this kind of attention to the man's wife (if he had been married)

[HormonalHousewife]

You know you have been far too nice too this guy.

Grow some and tell him firmly that enough is enough or get your dh too

[ShamyFarrahCooper]

fauntle wtf? why would he do that? That's just...vile

[LauriesFairyonthetreeeatsCake]

How could you find evidence of spermies?

You wouldn't notice anything, what with them being quite small....

at 'spunky' food though