To be unnerved about this man....

[Everythingwillbeok]

One of my neighbours who I only know in passing has started cooking for me,I am not elderly nor do I live alone.
I am married and have 2 DC.Its not full meals or anything like that just samosas,onion basis things like that.
Initially I was very grateful and just assumed they were for all of us to share and perhaps he was lonely.

He is about 45 and very friendly,he does live alone with no children that I know of,but recently he has been dropping off food and commenting its only for me and has been very flirty and is constantly saying I am beautiful.I am now not eating the food anymore it just doesn't feel right. This only happens about once a month by the way it's not as if he cooking stuff every night.

Also he pushed a Christmas card through a couple of weeks ago which had all our names in spelt correctly including our DCs. Didn't know he knew their names.

It's all really come to a head now as I saw him last night in the street and he was again very flirty and telling me I'm beautiful. I felt so uneasy,bearing in mind he has never touched me or tried to enter the house AIBU?I don't know what I think will happen but it just feels inappropriate somehow. My DH hasn't really said much about the situation and is mildly amused although he doesn't know I saw him last night.

He seems like a very nice man but I'm worried for some reason.

Can't believe no one's linked to the jizz cookbook yet! There are actually some weird people out there who really do cook with it.

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Honestly I would be horrified not excited. What a complete lack of respect for you/women he must have to think it's acceptable to put his bodily fluids in food for you.

I appreciate everyone has different tastes etc and if it doesn't horrify you then whatever floats your boat but seriously is what he did even legal?

This thread has put me off cake...

It's one thing if two people agree on it, but to sneak it in to food is just....

I know someone who wiped his cock on a steak he served to a very annoying and high-handed customer.

Not immediately after it was cooked i hope! That would buuurrrn!

I know it seems bad, but he was young and does seem genuinely horrified with himself. I actually admit I went on to try it with an ex and to be honest, I don't see the problem with it - if it's consensual of course! Goes well with chocolate!

fauntle you weren't angry that someone fed you a spunk cake

wonders if women who fancy men feed them period cake

80% angry, 20% interested!

wiping your cock on someone elses meat? (boom boom)

Wow. Every day is an education on mumsnet

I can't imagine wanting to ruin good chocolate with spunk. However you can buy that Lindt chocolate with salt in it, which is a similar kind of idea.

Its strange that he did it again and again fauntle like some weird experiment. Did he think he was going to make you want him or something?

I honestly don't know. The sad truth is that I did like him, and he didn't have to do that to get what he wanted! Too much time has passed now anyway. I am amazed that nobody else on here has tried it though, I mean surely if you swallow and you like to eat good food...well, you know!

Fauntle, how could you? I'm heaving at the thought.

OP, you have to be VERY firm and clear with this guy. I've had several experiences with men like this before, and it went on because I was too shy and polite and thought I could just avoid them till they went away. Eventually you just have to make it absolutely crystal clear that you are not interested.

Tell him that his compliments and presents of food are inappropriate, that you have not said so before because you didn't want to be rude, but that if he continues to give you gifts or compliments then it is disrespectful to you and it is disrespectful to your husband.

He'll probably give you a load of crap about how he's just being friendly, or maybe even that you led him on. Or really anything to put you on the back foot and make you feel like you're the one being rude. You are not, he is. Just be firm, don't concede any ground or he will take it as an invitation to be your own personal stalker. Nip it in the bud.

Fauntle,I think you may very well be on your own. Saves you seasoning though.

Your DP spuffs on your food?!

You take DPs spuff with you to add to your meal ON YOUR OWN ACORD??

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Let me get this right? Your dp spunks on your dinner & you take some kind of container of it when you go out for dinner. I have pretty broad minded friends & I don't know anyone who would do it or perhaps admit to it.

Wow. I really have heard it all now.