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Not to attend to the guests this morning

63 replies

Disaronno · 06/01/2013 11:41

Dh invited his brother and gf to dinner and sleep over. Yesterday I was a perfect host, entertained them, cleared up after dinner, as dh cooked and sorted out the blow up bed and clean sheets in the sitting room. Right now they are both awake in the sitting room alone and Dhabi is playing his games on his phone next to me and dd on bed. I'm upsetting and ddi is watching something. I already left the bedroom to have a shower and after that the gf knocked on the door asking for a. towel which I had to get up and get for her as Dhabi wouldn't move. Dhabi said he would do fry up this morning but now is asking me to do it as he want to stay in bed. I feel bad we are all in the bedroom and guests alone in the sitting room, but it was Dhabi who invited and promissed breakfast plus he is being rude to them and I'm tired of covering uo his rudness

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EuroShagmore · 06/01/2013 11:44

I assume Dhabi is your husband? He needs to get up and do breakfast, as agreed.

Original poster
Disaronno · 06/01/2013 11:45

Sorry Dhabi means Dh on my tablet and I wasn't upsetting, I was mumsnetting.

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cozietoesie · 06/01/2013 11:49

Get up and do them a fry up you meanie. They're guests in your house and whatever DH may have said it's not their fault. (You can deal with him later.)

Smile
NoisyDay · 06/01/2013 11:51

YABU that is very rude.just because your DH is an ill mannered buffoon doesn't mean you should be too.what kind of example is this to show your DD?!

OrangeLily · 06/01/2013 11:51

Unless he has the hangover from hell and desperately needs saving get him up. Take the phone off him and leave the room if possible.

Or get up, be polite to your guests and make them breakfast. Then give him bloody hell when they leave.

PippinWoo · 06/01/2013 11:51

They probably think you are avoiding them and that their presence is pissing you off especially as they know you're awake. Every minute you stay in your room whilst they are downstairs alone is probably making them feel more and more awkward and potentially hurt.

The next time they knock on the door, they will probably be saying they're leaving. Will you feel guilty?

Veritate · 06/01/2013 11:52

For goodness sake, if you're both lurking in bed at 11.40 one of you has to break the deadlock - your guests must be wondering if you've both died. If you can't kick dh out, as cozietoesie says, do it yourself but make sure he knows he's going to suffer for it.

RyleDup · 06/01/2013 11:54

Go make the breakfast. Or kick his butt out of bed and tell him to do it.

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Disaronno · 06/01/2013 11:55

No I'm sorry I don't think I should dh get away with it, he invited, he planned, so now he has to deal with it. I went shopping for his ingredients and the blow up bed on my own while he was relaxing at home and cleaning up (which consisted to throw all my stuff he didn't think ""looks nice" in the sitting room, on the side of my bed)...and he didn't even help me put the shopping away. Obviously my stuff went straight back to where it was before.

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FiveGoMadInDorset · 06/01/2013 11:56

either do it yourself or kick DH out of bed. Or do it yourself and then tell DH he is a lazy prick, either way one of you FGS go and entertain your guests.

Veritate · 06/01/2013 11:56

So are you seriously planning to lurk in bed all day if dh won't do it?

lunar1 · 06/01/2013 11:57

Don't worry you are both so rude I doubt you will have to worry about them coming again. Your guests are probably feeling so uncomfortable.

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Disaronno · 06/01/2013 11:57

And if I argue with him he would say there was no need for blow up bed as guests could sleep on the sofa (really uncomfortable) and he could have gone to the corner shop and buy the ingredient he needed (but how about food for the rest of the week? Obviously my fucking problem).

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kinkyfuckery · 06/01/2013 11:58

It's midday and the pair of you are lurking in bed whilst your guests are sitting probably feeling very, very uncomfortable. If I were them, I'd leave and not bother with you again. How very rude!

I can imagine your husband is in for a right kicking after your guests leave!

Original poster
Disaronno · 06/01/2013 11:58

He is up cooking but now seems to be annoyed with me, well I don't care.

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LadyBeagleEyes · 06/01/2013 11:59

I can't believe how rude you both are.

FiveGoMadInDorset · 06/01/2013 11:59

And quite honestly if I was invited somewhere and asked to stay overnight, and I knew that both hosts were upstairs awake, I would have been mightily pissed off and probably have left by now, or is that what the pair of you are hoping?

And this is turning into.

IABU
Yes
No I am not.

Fairyegg · 06/01/2013 12:00

I think your both being rude not getting up when it's nearly midday when you know your guests are awake. Yes I would be cross with dh, but I would deal with that later. And you have a dd as well, surely your guests are going to think you are avoiding them as surely with a child you Get up before midday?

lightrain · 06/01/2013 12:00

Yabu. It's nearly midday, get up and make some breakfast for your guests. I wouldn't stay at your house again if that's your idea of hospitality! It's not your guests fault that your DH is lazy (deal with that later though!).

thebody · 06/01/2013 12:00

You both sound lovely. Have you thought about going into the hotel business?

PumpkinPositive · 06/01/2013 12:01

So why are you asking if you're so convinced you're being unreasonable? What an awkward experience for your guests.

ArkadyRose · 06/01/2013 12:02

Good grief, you're both being a right lazy pair of slobs aren't you? Get off MN, kick him out of bed and BOTH go deal with your guests. And then don't bother having guests again until you learn how to be decent hosts. Not that I imagine your husband's brother is going to want to visit again anyway after your behaviour - I certainly wouldn't.

HildaOgden · 06/01/2013 12:02

So the hosts are in the bedroom,playing on their computers/phones and having a 'who cooks the fry-up' stand off,while the guests are in the sitting room on a blow up bed with their stomachs rumbling?

Go make the guests a cup of tea,and tell them your dh will be down in a minute to cook them breakfast.Then tell him what you've done...he'll have to get up Smile

PumpkinPositive · 06/01/2013 12:03

Er, "not being unreasonable". Grin

diddl · 06/01/2013 12:03

Bloody hell, I would have got my own breakfast by now & made yours for hosting last night.

Are you all adults??