Not to attend to the guests this morning

[Disaronno]

Dh invited his brother and gf to dinner and sleep over. Yesterday I was a perfect host, entertained them, cleared up after dinner, as dh cooked and sorted out the blow up bed and clean sheets in the sitting room. Right now they are both awake in the sitting room alone and Dhabi is playing his games on his phone next to me and dd on bed. I'm upsetting and ddi is watching something. I already left the bedroom to have a shower and after that the gf knocked on the door asking for a. towel which I had to get up and get for her as Dhabi wouldn't move. Dhabi said he would do fry up this morning but now is asking me to do it as he want to stay in bed. I feel bad we are all in the bedroom and guests alone in the sitting room, but it was Dhabi who invited and promissed breakfast plus he is being rude to them and I'm tired of covering uo his rudness

There was no need to mix the other issue but if you want to dk it, at least get the facts right. Oh, whatever....

So what happened? Has anyone actually got up yet or is it a stand-off situation?

I was wondering the same thing. Did the guests get their breakfast?

We all got up, had breakfast and they gone to the high street, I'm alone in the house doing bits and pieces.

I have read some of your other recent threads.

You have stated that English is not your first language.

Would it help to talk to anyone in your first language? Maybe someone from your own cultural background?

Would that be possible?

I just think the whole thing was rude, TBH. You don't lie in bed at lunchtime when you have guests - either of you. And neither do you argue over who is doing what. I'd have got up, cooked the breakfast and been cheerful to my guests and then argued the toss with DH after they had left. Talk about making people feel unwelcome! I would never go stay again with a couple who were both that pig ignorant.

You and your DH were both BU for still being in bed at 11:40 when you had guests! Really rather rude.

I would love to know why you are suggesting this complexnumber? And yes I understand I have been probably rude but so did H, and I didn't want to cover up for him. It was his idea to have guests so he has to take responsibility for it too.

But the thing is, OP, you agreed to the guests coming over - even if it was his idea. And therefore, having agreed to having guests to stay Sat night/Sunday morning you needed to be up and offering breakfast and polite conversation - not hiding in the bedroom on MN. And so should DH have been. Your OP asked, 'AIBU to not attend to guests this morning'? and the answer from everyone has been 'Yes. It's very, very rude'. Someone mentioned that English is not your first language - but TBH I cannot imagine that this is considered polite behaviour in any country or culture. It just really isn't an acceptable way to carry on. DH was very rude, certainly - but that doesn't mean you can be even ruder.

Yes, you were both rude. When you have guests you get up and make breakfast. Not stay in bed while you argue the toss about whose responsibility it is to be hospitable. It's not unreasonable to be irritable with your dh for failing to keep his side of the bargain but you don't make your guests suffer for his failings. After they have left you can make your feelings clear.

I also agree with sowornout that it is irrelevant whether English is your first language or not. Rudeness is inacceptable in any culture.

You both sound lovely. Have you thought about going into the hotel business?

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Basil!!!!!!!!

Stop it!!