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AIBU?

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To worry about my week abroad with children? New single mum.

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Cyclefaster · 04/01/2013 23:16

Recently separated and I have booked a week abroad in Spain for me and my DD age 7 and DS age 5. I want them to have a fantastic time and I do not want to be stressed out by the 24/7 seven days alone with them. Sounds weird but I worry I may ruin their holiday by being the sole adult. There is a kids club so I thought they could go their for an afternoon so I can have a holiday too.
I realise this may sound selfish but I want a holiday too! AIBU?

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MrsMushroom · 04/01/2013 23:23

Oh Gosh you're not being selfish and nor are you weird to worry. But I have to say well done for booking, lots of people feel nervous about going away with their DC when they're the sole adult.

Your DC won't question your situation and you'll all have a fab time. The kids club sounds perfect.....they'll have a ball and you'll probably find they'll make little friends on the beach and things too.

You're just beginning a new bunch of family memories...great ones.

ripsishere · 04/01/2013 23:25

Sounds great to me. I've taken my DD away without DH. We've always had a good time. She can be very demanding, so I always tried to find a place eith a childrens club and it worked out well.
Enjoy yourself.

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Cyclefaster · 04/01/2013 23:27

Aw thank you. Just worrying about it, but also really looking forward to it! Thank you for the reassurance!

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CogitoErgoSometimes · 04/01/2013 23:27

YANBU. I've been a lone parent for a long time and it's important for me on holiday that I get some adult company as well as DS having a great time with other kids. Have always chosen small hotels and activity type holdays so that there are things to do after he's gone to bed... otherwise I'd be on my own with a book. Kids club sounds like a great idea

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Cyclefaster · 04/01/2013 23:28

Aw thank you. Just worrying about it, but also really looking forward to it! Thank you for the reassurance!

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gordyslovesheep · 04/01/2013 23:28

oh you will have a ball - we went to a holiday village last year - me and 3 kids - had such fun we rebooked for this year the day we came home

simpson · 04/01/2013 23:29

No way are you being unreasonable.... You deserve a holiday too and they will probably love kids club ( my DS did at age 4)

Hope you have a good time....

kim147 · 04/01/2013 23:31

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Damash12 · 04/01/2013 23:33

Noooooo yanbu, go and have a bloody good time! I think if newly separated and they have seen or been privy to some upset it will be a fantastic time to let you hair down and be "down with the kids" so to speak. I bet they'll love having you all to themselves . X

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Cyclefaster · 04/01/2013 23:34

I have booked All Inclusive so hoping that will be easier. they can just randomly get drinks snacks etc!

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ledkr · 04/01/2013 23:34

First thing I did when x left. It was so good for my confidence and massive in helping me to move on.i ended up taking them away every year and got more and more ambitious each year.
Don't be worried its only Spain and I found it much more relaxing and sociable without my miserable ex in tow.

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Cyclefaster · 04/01/2013 23:35

damash12, already planning lilo fun and major sandcastle building!

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DollyTwat · 04/01/2013 23:36

You will have a great holiday

I've done it with mine when they were 3 and 6. It was hard work but worth it. The key is planning all the stressful bits in advance. So I booked valet parking at the airport to make life easier, I booked transport to the cottage (in Portugal) and I hired a nanny for some of the time so I had another adult to go to the beach with etc.

The nanny wasn't expensive either and I ended up paying her cash for a bit of extra time. It just made life easier to go and get food, or take one swimming that kind of thing.

Keep luggage to a minimum as you will be carrying it, pack snacks and stuff to keep them entertained. Keep something for the return journey!

I'll think of some more!

wannabedreams · 04/01/2013 23:38

take a portable dvd player and some sticker books, will be grand.....

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Cyclefaster · 04/01/2013 23:44

This is exactly why I love Mumsnet. Great help thank you all! Will invest in portable DVD player too! Fab idea!
DollyTwat how did you get hold of a nanny over there? ( great name by the way) x

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DollyTwat · 05/01/2013 00:50

I did a lot of googling! I found an agency. Worth calling the hotel or where you're staying to see if they know of anyone.
My nanny was paid about half if what I'd paid the agency so I was glad I had only booked half days then I hired her directly. She was English which was great

She just made it easier to go out for the day, sit with the kids whilst I queued for food etc. she was also good company for me!

happynewmind · 05/01/2013 00:53

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