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AIBU?

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To get annoyed with people who live their whole lives through fb

33 replies

2kidsintow · 04/01/2013 23:14

And I mean the BIG stuff.

My friend announced her major illness on there. Then every appointment, symptom and treatment.

And then 6 months later, her separation from her husband.

Each to their own, I'm sure. But it still annoys me.

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Chaoscarriesonagain · 04/01/2013 23:16

Delete it! I did, never looked back!

WhateverTrevor · 04/01/2013 23:16

Well unfriend her then.

MissyMooandherBeaverofSteel · 04/01/2013 23:19

Isn't that what FB is for?

Just delete her or hide her its no big deal.

MurderOfGoths · 04/01/2013 23:23

Hide or unfriend

Some people might find it annoying that others voice their every annoyance on MN

gimmecakeandcandy · 04/01/2013 23:24

Just hide her posts. Don't waste your energy being bothered!

fortyplus · 04/01/2013 23:29

I 'shared' the highlights of 2012 thing with a comment 'There have been good and bad times for me during 2012 - The bad ones didn't make it onto facebook' I had loads of likes for that one!

AnneNonimous · 04/01/2013 23:32

I can't stand people that update every single thing about their life onto Facebook - usually the same people that moan about everyone being in their business!

But updating people on your life is what Facebook is for surely? I probably bore all my acquaintances with stories of DS but they are there for my family who I don't get to see very much and they love it.

freemanbatch · 04/01/2013 23:35

on new year I put

''2012 has been a great year, here's to 2013

no really, but for becoming a single parent its been a good year and always look on the bright side of life and all that''

I had 49 people ask me when I'd split with my husband and how come I hadn't put it all on fb and lots of people liking it and congratulating me on being positive.

I use the place rarely because the competitive depression drives me mad!

usualsuspect · 04/01/2013 23:38

Hide her then,like I am now going to hide all the moaning about FB threads on MN.

ebersneezer · 04/01/2013 23:47

People use FB in different ways. One of my main uses is for extended family who live abroad and to keep them updated. I enjoy seeing pictures of my nieces and nephews that I have never met and hearing about the silly things they've done. I keep it very clean and light hearted, no way would I post that I'd had a crap day or any personal medical info.

I have some friends who update pictures of their food and every little thing they do, it's not my use but I'm fine with it. It's fun looking in on others lives, I often find the small things in life more interesting than the big news.

I think YABU. If she thinks of friends on her FB as proper real friends surely its the kind of info you would want to communicate. If my friend had a major illness I would be more than happy to hear about it, by email, phone or FB. It's one of the reasons FB is popular.

Southeastdweller · 04/01/2013 23:56

I have a dormant account on Facebook and keep earning to delete as I hate the bloody thing but in principal I can understand why people say stuff like that on there - that's if they're only Facebook friends with genuine friends and of course family. But when people broadcast really personal stuff to people they're aquaintances or colleagues with, or even never met them, then that's when I'm like

Findingmyself · 05/01/2013 00:10

I hate it too, especially when people take photos of every little detail of their lives, and air their dirty laundry via their statuses. I also hate the politics behind who replies to whom, and all the deleting as a friend bollocks. And when people keep changing their relationship status, that annoys me too!

I am only on there for two reasons; firstly to keep up with old friends, that live around the country, and secondly because I'm on a fantastic FB group, we de-camped to FB after being on another forum for years.

These days I rarely do a status and if I do it's a very neutral one that doesn't give much away. I post the occasional photo. But I rarely go through the newsfeed and like or comment on things, purely because other peoples' use of FB winds me up and I have no time for attention seeking.

ClippedPhoenix · 05/01/2013 00:12

I'm not a facebook fan either so I don't go on it. I use it to spy on my DS to catch up with relatives.

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BeerTricksPotter · 05/01/2013 00:20

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jessjessjess · 05/01/2013 01:53

My particular hate is people who assume you all have seen it and get shirty if you don't mention it.

SpringIsComing · 05/01/2013 02:42

I'm not sure how announcing a big change in life circumstances is 'living through fb'? It's an efficient way to communicate news to friends and family. I think posting endless minutiae or using it for attention-seeking or being a drama llama would count more as living through it. If she's your friend, how do you think she should've passed this information on to you? When XH and I separated, I told good friends by email in advance of letting people know. Also, for separation a lot of people might not know how to prevent 'X is now single' when relationship status is removed appearing on everyone's newsfeed, so it makes sense to make an update about it.

happynewmind · 05/01/2013 02:50

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EmpressMaud · 05/01/2013 03:17

I don't know. It's the minutiae detail I find most odd. I know of one person who boasts posts about every very minor achievement of their children. They don't seem to realise. Perhaps it is really for family, but I still don't understand it.

Although, I know of another person who frequently, and similarly, updates about everyday events, but in less aggressive, serious, style, and is often humorous, and that is a pleasure to read. The manner in which it is done can make all the difference, I think.

MammaTJ · 05/01/2013 03:42

I appear to put lots of my life on there but in fact only put little things my DC say or things that amuse me.

My DP moved out of our home for a year during reprogramming in order to correct some unacceptable behaviours. Most of my friends on FB didn't even know.

None of the more negative stuff in my life makes it on to FB.

catgirl1976geesealaying · 05/01/2013 07:47

I use fb all the time

I never post negative things

wannabedomesticgoddess · 05/01/2013 07:53

I hate the gushy "oh my childs so perfect and its all so easy" statuses.

Especially when you know that the child wont sleep in its own bed and that drives her mad, or that it has tantrums she cries about.

Why be so false? I dont get it.

onadifferentplanet · 05/01/2013 08:00

I hate the ones that say things like 'waiting at the doctors' or similar and then someone says 'are you ok' and then they say 'will pm message you' Why put it up in the first place ?

catgirl1976geesealaying · 05/01/2013 08:07

Yesterday my friend annouced she had gone in to labour

This morning she announced the arrival of her new daughter

My sister posted a picture of her in Sydney and that she 'd had a great time with my brother last night

Another friend has posted some pictures of his birthday in Dubai

I bloody love facebook for letting me know / see all of the above within 5 minutes of getting up. It's brilliant

I de-friend anyone who plays out arguments, slags people off or post those evil c&p wanky messages though

BornInACrossFireHurricane · 05/01/2013 08:08

I hate those as well onadifferentplanet- and the checking in 'sarah is at whatever hospital'.

I don't like facebook but I'm on it due to a couple of groups. Haven't updated my status for months though

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