To be really upset by this behaviour by "friend" at office party?

[reddaisy]

I got really drunk at the office party and I was sick. In the toilet of the venue. Without my knowledge a male colleague came in and took a photo of me and then showed everyone as I continued to be sick and wait for my DH to arrive to collect me. Another colleague was with me looking after me.

I have only just found out that this photo has done the rounds at work - not via email - and I am so upset. Obviously the incident was embarassing and I have taken the mick taking on the chin as that is to be expected but I think this goes over the line.

AIBU or should I attempt to laugh it off even though I find it outrageous.

Will do Scuzy

Just ask him if he has deleted it. Don't ask other people ask him.

And forget it if you aren't going to speak to you line-manager about it.

Cos' I bet the majority of people to whom this 'friend' said " hey wanna look at reddaisy puking?"
Were thinking "oh friend, you are well weird, taking pictures of puking people, I am making a mental note to avoid you in future."

sorry reddaisy didnt mean that to sound as bitchy but meant in a nice way ... dont let the arsehole get to ye!!

Oh dear. Laugh it off and then find his phone and delete it or accidently spill coffee on the phone...shame he will loose the photo of you. And it may teach him a lesson??

reddaisy, I think I would do my best to ignore the entire incident. If someone mentions it, stare cooly at them and say gravely " thank you for your concern, I was very ill. "
Btw..this man is a dick and everyone knows it..just don't address him at all..

He's got photographic evidence of him sneaking into the women's bogs with a camera, all ready for action.
I don't think you come out of this looking the worst, really.

Scuzy - I took it as authorative (spl?) not bitchy!

Thismummyneedssleep - that is actually a great idea! It was a work phone though so I am not sure I should risk it!

For once AIBU has been cathartic which was just what I needed.

If a guy at work showed me a photo of a colleague being sick at the office party I would think he was extremely weird and immature. He sounds as if he's still mentally stuck in the school playground. I would imagine most of your colleagues are more at his ridiculous behaviour than at someone being sick after a few drinks.

As for the Miss perfects, wagging their fingers and asking how could you have too much to drink at an office do........... just ignore them. We all make mistakes - some of us are human enough to admit that, others like to purse their lips and get all judgey.

If its a work phone then taking such pictures in the way he did can not be using the phone for work. So gloves off in imho and accidents happen......!

What a shit! At least you know now he isn't actually a friend at all. A true friend would have held your hair back, helped you clean up and not said anything to anybody. It's hardly crime of the century and sounds like he loves to whip up a bit of drama. I'd avoid him from now on (but keep your camera ready!).

At my last Xmas work party:
One bloke was so drunk he spewed into a co worker's open handbag (in the restaurant, in full view of everybody, managers/directors included).
A girl (who is a little . . . different) discussed her boyfriends c@ck size with our manager and cheerily announced loudly she'd only ever slept with 2 guys so didn't have much to compare it to.
Another bloke passed out in the toilets - a photo was circulating showing him passed out next to a bucket.
All true. I swear. And all these people are in their mid - late thirties.
Hope that makes you feel better OP !

How awful that he did this instead of checking you were ok in the loo! I think showing the photo to everyone would end the friendship.

What I want to know is...how do you start an orgy?