I know AIBU, I know this has been done to death, but if anyone else tells me I'm enormous with a shocked face - I WILL cry.

[ThermalMittens]

I'm 32 weeks pregnant and I'm FED UP of people telling me how big I am. I'm fed up of shocked looks when I say how far along I am.

Firstly, I'm really not that enormous. I'm going to get a lot fucking bigger in the next eight weeks, believe me. And if my stomach does stick out somewhat, it's probably because I was a bit fat before I got pregnant!

Next time a random stranger tells me with hushed awe that my child will be enormous, can I say that? "Actually, DS1 was fairly small. I'm just fat, thanks for pointing it out".

And if anyone else asks if I'm sure I'm not carrying twins, I think no judge in the land will hold me accountable for my subsequent actions.

I realise that this post makes me sound unhinged. It's just so fucking rude and I am exceptionally touchy atm.

YANBU. I was big with DD2 but huge with DD2 and people kept telling me I must be having a huge (emphasising the HUGE) boy, and was it twins, waiters in restaurants even commented on my size and the shocked look when I said I had 3 months to go 'surely you mean 3 weeks'. No, eff off.

Grrr. I was worried as I had a 9lb baby first time and was worried baby would be huge, it wasn't, I had another 9lb again.

Say what Snazzynewyear suggests.

Congratulations btw!

YANBU and tbh, in your stage of pregnancy, even if I thought you were I would keep my gob shut.

Not that I think you are, not for a second, just to make that clear.

Honestly OP, when pregnant with DS1, people who'd had babies used to say "wow that's a small bump - do you think he's ok? Has a doctor checked?" Yes, he was 8lb at birth and my bump never measured more than 32 weeks despite a three stone weight gain.

People who hadn't had babies and knew me only as a small woman in skinny jeans said "wow you're enormous! Do you think your stomach will ever go back?"

My SIL told me throughout my pregnancy that my stomach would be ruined after having kids. She didn't have kids herself but she'd seen her sister's stomach. My stomach was fine when I lost the pregnancy weight (let's not mention the thighs though). She still maintains that this can't be true.

People will say any old shit when you're pregnant. Now I ignore it all. One of my best friends said the other day that my 30week bump with DS2 is hardly noticeable....he followed it up by saying "mind you it was like that last time and then you got massive at the end".

I just think people forget how amazing a very pregnant woman looks as we see too many images of tiny pregnant women ( thanks Daily Fail)
Yes people are rude, but so what? Congrats and best wishes.

Yanbu. I got the same with dd, she was around 6lbs. With DS I was told the opposite, that I was so small, he was also around 6lbs.

I've been known to say to friends things like 'Wow, you look fantastic, what a splendid bump!' - is that allowed?

My own bump was huge as it did have twins in it btw.

YANBU. People can be SO rude. AFTER having DS2, I was asked when the baby was due and then when I pointed to the pram, I was told that I still looked pregnant.

People said this to me when I was pregnant. I WAS huge. But I had a face 'like a smacked arse' to quote my mum.
When someone looks as evil and grumpy as I did why you would anger me more by saying 'OMG you are sooooooooo massive' is beyond me.
YANBU.

I don't ever comment on a pregnant woman's appearance, unless it's to say I like her hair or her dress or something. Commenting on a person's body shape isn't ever polite IMO - it makes a person feel self conscious and under scrutiny. If a pregnant woman said "Oh I feel so fat," I might say "but you don't look fat you look lovely and pregnant" but other than that I just don't mention a pg woman's size or shape.

Oh it's beyond rude! A woman served me in M&S and asked how long I'd got left I replied 12 weeks. Cue - shocked face, and 'you'll never go another 12 weeks, you're massive' gee thanks!! She then went on to assume it was my first baby and then commiserated when she found out I was carrying my 3rd Ds!!! I told her in no uncertain terms that no it wasn't a 'shame'

Someone actually patted my stomach after I'd had DD and asked when the next one was due and 'hadn't I started quickly on the next one'. DD was a week old. I cried and had to walk off. I wish I'd punched her. Rude bitch.

It kills me when people comment on my size. I'm a recovering anorexic who is 32 weeks pregnant and I just crumble when people tell me how big I am, how they just 'always see me eating' and generally feel my body has become public property. Worst offenders are people I work with, but even lovely friends and family make remarks despite me explaining how much it upsets me. It's like they can't help it.

Sick of it. Sick of the emphasis on losing it all afterwards and the 'helpful' advice people give me on weightloss after the baby and not gaining too much before. Honestly- I don't know what I'd do if I didn't have my therapy sessions. I can't wait to have the baby, return to my size, and be invisible and unremarkable again.

I completely empathise! I was about 34 weeks pregnant and doing my Christmas shopping when the assistant exclaimed in an incredibly loud voice "Oh my God! Should I be getting towels and hot water or something!?". Am embarrassed to say I nearly cried, I felt so self-conscious as the whole shop was staring at me. She kept harping on and on and I just ran out of the shop, blinking away tears. I had taken a half day from work to go into town and got the first train home. Think tiredness and hormones played a huge part but it was horrid.

But back to you YANBU!!!!!

I almost blotted out the sun when I turned round! I do recall one girl recoiling in horror at how 'big' I was when 7 months pregnant - and I got lots bigger. Part of it, I agree with dearcathyandclaire is that many people don't see pregnant women very often and don't realise that how we look(ed) is perfectly normal (and very lovely).
I was proud of and happy with my bump, who incidentally did turn out to be a whopper baby too.

I reckon if these comments are upsetting to you, you're perfectly within your rights to either cry, or simply say that you find comments like that rude.

Perfect your gimlet stare and steer conversations away from your body and how you look. I think mine was sooo good in the end I had zero uninvited bump touchers either.

In my 1st pregnancy I showed quite early but was normal-ish size throughout, in my 2nd one it was much later becoming obvious but I did look very large towards the end and got loads of these comments.

Ignore them or glare icily and focus on the lovely baby you will have.

Shit usn't it. Mostly men have asked if I'm sure it's not twins or literally 'my god you are massive!!!!!'
I may have lost a twin very early-will never know but was suspected and they are in family- so every time hear the hilarious twins gaff just mock laugh and change subject.
Fuck em.
Bet you look fabulous! Nearing 27 weeks :)

i used to get told I had a neat bump. in pregnancy mybe, but i stil look 5 months pregnant 4.5 years on and there is no shifting it because I sit on my rse all day on mn .

and on the bright side. it is a bit hidden with winter woolies at this time of year. if not protruding from the front of your coat in summer it is really obvious.

Oh yes! My first pregnancy (ds now 27) I was told by a very helpful CUNT of a midwife and I can remember her exact words were, "you are going to have at least an 11lb baby!"

As you can imagine those soothing words terrified me!

DS was born a few days late, 8lb 6 fucking ounces!

Christ it makes me mad to think about it even now, so no YASNBU!!!

Ooh aiming that happened to me too, but in a lift..... Lady said I was very brave having another one so soon..... I told her I wasn't, she said I was, I said I wasn't. She shut up. And went and then had to wait for the lift to reach her floor. My dd was about two weeks old!

lilyvon I am a bit not proud of it, but secretly to myself, actually quite proud! Poor man not didn't knw where to put himself.

YADNBU

And I think we shoud be allowed to actually slap anyone who makes stupid comments.

It should be allowed BY LAW.

I know I've posted this before but the doctor at my DS1s 6 week check up asked me when I was due.

DS1 was next to me in his car seat.

Totally agree with you op, but be careful. I posted exactly the same thing when I was pg, and got flamed by a well-known but twattish poster (you know who you are twatface), in fact two of them who started taking about me to one another about how I must have body image ishoos that I was going to pass onto my unborn child! And that it was beautiful to be huge when pg etc, why wouldn't I want someone to comment in it? Ok then...

But you are so nbu. Don't think it is ever appropriate to comment on someone's size, pg or not pg!

And I didn't even post in aibu, I posted on pregnancy!!

Gah, the same colleague got me again today.

"My my, haven't we grown over Christmas."

...and I said...nothing. I chortled like it was the drollest observation, even though I'd been fantasising come backs on the way into work. I then had a meeting with a colleague who is also a friend, and before we sat down I told him not to even dare think about how enormous I might be. Bless him, he looked slightly confused about my vehemence .

One further observation - it's funny how I seem to go from the size of a small planet to, oh, I'm sorry, I didn't see you there as soon as I get on my busy train home...

That colleague?

Just slap her! And blame the hormones/tell her you were told on MN that it's the LAW.