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To ask how long you were with DH/DP before they proposed?

136 replies

Croccy1979 · 02/01/2013 15:14

I've had a couple of friends who've done it very quickly recently! Good for them
Just wondering what's average? Guess it depends on age.....

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motherinferior · 02/01/2013 21:18

God, I don't know...eight years? DD1 was seven, I know that. She was born 14 months after our first shag date.

I may yet take him up on his suggestion, but five years later still feel that matrimony isn't really my thing.

CommanderShepard · 02/01/2013 21:23

Got together in August 2002, got engaged October 2006, married March 2008. Seems relatively long but we got together during university and being in a relationship while 'in the bubble' is very different to being in the big bad world, I have found, and we weren't in a rush to get married. Very few of my university friends are still with their boyfriends/girlfriends from that time and I'm glad we didn't marry shortly after graduation only to find out that our relationship had a short shelf-life.

SocietyClowns · 02/01/2013 21:55

5 1/2 years. Now together 18 years, and married for 12.

grrrrrrrrrrrrrr · 02/01/2013 21:58

4 months, married after 6 months, been together 14 years :)

MrsNPattz · 02/01/2013 22:00

2 year!

JugsMcGee · 02/01/2013 22:05

5 years and 1 day :) 14 month engagement. Married nearly 3 years now.

Alibabaandthe40nappies · 02/01/2013 22:06

4 days Grin

And then he asked me properly with a lovely ring when we had been together 8 months.

We've now been together 8 years, married for just over 5.

greenplastictrees · 02/01/2013 22:36

Ten years to the day of when we first got together. It happened last October so I'm planning a wedding at the moment.

zipzap · 02/01/2013 22:54

apparently he decided within a day or two - took him a couple of weeks to ask. I was 21, he was 25 and we were both at uni. I told him not to be so ridiculous and that we were way too young to get married (subsequently discovered that he is the youngest of lots of siblings; of which all but two had married before they were 23 and one of the other two had had a child before then but never married the father so he probably felt like he was leaving things late; my parents and lots of friend's parents had all married in their late 20s to mid 30s and it had never occurred to me to even think about getting married until I hit that sort of age).

He left it a while and then finally proposed about 10 years later - I refused the first few times as it just didn't seem right or he chose horrible timings or places or both and I figured if I'd waited this long then I wasn't giving in just because. Then thought he would propose when we were on a cruise one night as it was the most amazingly romantic night - sailing out of Venice, fireworks dwarfed by a huge and impressive electrical storm, Carmina Burana being played by some mad violinists on deck, nobody else around, cocktails. all perfect but no.

I gave up eventually and said yes - got married after having been together for 14 years. Now been together for over 20 years; tend to find that we celebrate our anniversary of getting together (an easy to remember date) much more than our wedding anniversary (a couple of days after my birthday and also often co-incides with easter holidays)!

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Sianilaa · 02/01/2013 23:30

20 days after our first date, he proposed! With a ring and everything. Everyone thought I was mental but I knew he was he one for me.

We married 10 months after our first date. :)

Wishfulmakeupping · 02/01/2013 23:37

10 years- but he told me on a regular basis that he wanted to marry me me, and we were only 19 when we met and at uni so 10 years was right for us :)

TraineeBabyCatcher · 02/01/2013 23:39

We've been together about 2 and a half years, he's moving in soon, he was given strict orders that I wouldnt even consider it till we had lived together, but he has hinted that it won't be long after...

So I'll get back to you on that one

Longdistance · 02/01/2013 23:45

A year. We went to Antigua for our first anniversary together, and he popped the question there. We also bought my ring there.

Leonas · 02/01/2013 23:57

7 years after we met - hadn't been together for the full 7 years as it was on/off for a while etc

Tallalime · 03/01/2013 00:34

13 years.

Got together at 18 in 1998, he proposed in 2010, got married in 2011.

Seems like a long time but neither of us were fussed about marriage until we had DD, then we had to pay off the house, then save up for the wedding.

She was our flower girl (she was 3), now we can finally afford to try for DC no 2.

ripsishere · 03/01/2013 00:49

Met and married within six months.
Our DD was born 14 years later.
DD is now 11.

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 03/01/2013 01:22

Met at 19yo
Engaged at 24yo
Married at 28yo

In between we bought a house, a car and a rescue cat.
DC didn't roll along till we were 33 yo.

bruffin · 03/01/2013 01:25

Went out for 3years before engaged then married 10months later.

tumbletumble · 03/01/2013 08:31

Met when I was 22, he was 21
Started going out 8 months later
Got engaged when I was 28, married at 29
First DC when I was 31

ginmakesitallok · 03/01/2013 09:16

Got engaged 2 months after we met - 19 years later we're still not married (My Mum told me now to rush into anything Wink)

YouOldTinsellySlag · 03/01/2013 10:47

He proposed after six weeks, we married after being together eight months, and our DS1 was born just under a year after we met.

We've been together seven years and have DS2 as well.

I really love my wonderful DH. Sometimes you just KNOW.

QueenofPlaids · 03/01/2013 10:59

Proposed fairly early on & we talked about marriage but wanted to get established first. I told him not to ask until we could do things properly (e.g. Not worry that the money spent on the ring might be needed if the boiler broke down or something equally romantic! Blush

We bought the ring earlier this week. It's been almost 10 years and wil probably be just over 11 when we marry.

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jamdonut · 03/01/2013 11:25

6 months..We had just been to see the film Heartburn (Meryl Streep,Jack Nicholson) which was all about a very failed marriage. When we were walking home he asked if we could get married. I just laughed...then moments later realised he was serious! And said yes!
We were engaged for 4 years before we finally got married,though.Only because we needed somewhere to live,and it took that long before a Housing Association finally offered us a shared ownership scheme flat. Then we were married 5 months later.
We will have been married for 23 years in April, and have 3 lovely children,12,16 and 20.