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AIBU?

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Original poster

To think if you bring puddings, they should be served??

73 replies

lisad123 · 29/12/2012 22:19

Went to friends mum for dinner party tonight (friend live in other country and she's home for week).
I took two lovely puddings, and bottle of wine. Food was lovely, but mum had made cake and it was nice but that was only pudding served. So we have come home, and left two full puddings at house.

So if someone brings pudding, do you atleast offer it, or just shove them in fridge and eat later?

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dexter73 · 29/12/2012 22:21

I would offer all the puddings that had been made.

LRDtheFeministDude · 29/12/2012 22:22

That's odd.

So she asked you to bring pudding?

If you just rocked up with it, I can see why she'd serve cake instead because she wouldn't have known you were making it.

peaceandlovebunny · 29/12/2012 22:22

years ago, went for a day at a friend's house. knew she had no money so took a really good cold lunch. which she accepted, put in her fridge 'for visitors tomorrow' and doled out one tiny bit of chicken for daughter and i to share for our lunch that day.
not impressed.
so yes, your puddings should have been served. as should my lunch.

ZZZenAgain · 29/12/2012 22:22

find that strange, I suppose they thought altogether they had too much. I would have served your puddings

Fakebook · 29/12/2012 22:24

All puddings should have been served. What were your puddings? Maybe the host thought they were manky?

Goldenbear · 29/12/2012 22:25

YANBU, serve the puddings don't save them for winter!

I hate this. I recently took 2 expensive bottles of wine £25 in total for a dinner party. I asked the host what we were eating so I could get the right wine. It was clear they were for the dinner and neither of them were opened. We had even run out of drinks and no new wine was opened!

Goldenbear · 29/12/2012 22:26

Sorry fairly expensive, obviously not off the scale.

SantasENormaSnob · 29/12/2012 22:26

Was it the baileys one from Iceland?

musicposy · 29/12/2012 22:26

I personally think it's a bit rude not to offer it and YANBU.

I went to a friend's for a meal the other week and took cakes and a pudding. Neither was put out, just pizza and salad. Whilst in theory I had brought it for her and therefore up to her what she did with it, I did feel a bit miffed. I was doubly miffed in that I suspect that because it was from Asda it would have gone in the bin the minute we left.

Not sure what the consensus will be on this one, though!

Sparklingbrook · 29/12/2012 22:27

OMG it wasn't a Baileys Iceland Dessert was it?

The puddings should have been served or returned to you IMO.

ZZZenAgain · 29/12/2012 22:29

I think the wineyou bring should be served too. Just weird to store wine, cold lunches and puddings for another occasion IMO

everlong · 29/12/2012 22:30

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FestiveDigestive · 29/12/2012 22:32

Was one of them a Vienetta?

SCOTCHandWRY · 29/12/2012 22:33

Re wine - I was taught that wine brought to a dinner was a gift for the host/hostess, in thanks for the meal - not to be served, I would never serve wine people brought (unless we actually ran out), unless it was very informal (BBQ or similar).

ZZZenAgain · 29/12/2012 22:34

below - they ran out but it was not served

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lisad123 · 29/12/2012 22:35

It was a sticky toffee pudding and a lemon cheese cake. She asked me to bring pudding to ensure there was something for my kids to eat. She made a chocolate cake, which was nice (but needed cream or ice cream).
I thought maybe it was just me then, so glad I'm not odd

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ZZZenAgain · 29/12/2012 22:35

maybe we should all be doing this and stocking up for the week ahead.

Sparklingbrook · 29/12/2012 22:36

No you aren't odd-they are. They have nicked your puddings.

chandellina · 29/12/2012 22:37

This has happened to me and I've learned to say "oh do you want me to serve the (pudding I made.) ". It works at least.

ZZZenAgain · 29/12/2012 22:37

why weren't they even offered to your dc then? Strange

Sparklingbrook · 29/12/2012 22:38

Yes ZZZ. I will throw a dinner party tomorrow night and get everyone to bring a course and wine. Then serve 99p Pizza and Panda Pop from Aldi and use the stuff people bring for the next few days to feed the family. Genius!

IceNoSlice · 29/12/2012 22:39

I always serve food/wine brought by guests - but I find that guests often bring a bottle of red and a bottle of white then drink one or the other (or beer!) so you end up drinking every bottle of white in the house and having loads of red.

AnnaRack · 29/12/2012 22:39

Yes always eat, dont save for later, unlike wine which is a gift for the hstess.
Perhaps she thought your puds were too nice to share and wanted to pig on them in private?

CoolaYuleA · 29/12/2012 22:41

SCOTCH I was taught the same. Gift in thanks. When I have a dinner party I match the wine to the meal. A bad match can totally ruin the flavours of the food, which I won't risk.

Obviously if it's a less formal kitchen drunken supper with close friends then we open whatever we fancy drinking and to hell with matching .

Feelingdetached · 29/12/2012 22:41

Oooo it so should be served, this happened to me recently at an event lets say. I had been and purchased a veir naive chocolate item (tis all I'm saying) it never came out of the box, well I've thought worra bloody cheek. Have been wondering who they served it up to since.

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