to think this was a bit mean

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xmas eve my DNiece (5yo) spent all day practicing her charades for the family coming over that night she had the little mermaid, sleeping beauty and tangled all ready, so we start playing she's to shy to do hers but once she got into it she got up to do hers and DP guessed every bloody one without giving her a chance as in i'd told him what i taught her so he shouted it out as soon as she started her first word.

AIBU to think he should have let her finish before he guessed or at least get properly started since she practiced all day and was nervous and he was just being mean? He says he was playing by the rules (which he wasn't because he already knew) i say she's only little and he should let her have her turn then guess. He does thinks like this to his little brother (12yo) all the time i dread to think what he'll be like when DS is bigger!

I know it sounds daft but it's niggling me he found it so funny to ruin a little girls fun

Walk away. He's an arsehole - you know it.

His family have always bullied him. Now he's bullying in return. You don't want this for your own boy do you OP? You have to break the cycle now.

I'm sorry you've had a child with him, you are in for a rough ride :(

Cruel bastard.

You really do need to pull him up on this - explain calmly why it is a big deal - bullying behaviour towards a small child is not "character building" and just because he was raised in a horrible environment does not mean you'll tolerate the same for your DS. He needs to learn that all other adults outside of his family will have been looking at him and thinking what a twat he is.

He needs to know that you won't put up with it. If he does it again you will have to think about how you want your DS raised, if your DP isn't capable of treating his son well, then you might want to reconsider your relationship.

Personally, I couldn't bare to be with a man like this, not just because of the negative effect on my DS, but because I can't stand bullies, even if it's not me they are being mean to.

I would consider myself a failure as a parent if DS turned out to be as cruel as your DP, don't be surprised if he learns this is how "real men" behave if you let your DP continue to act this way and be involved in your DS's upbringing.

There is something really weird about a grown man taking pleasure in being spiteful towards a 4 year old child. I feel sorry for your son, growing up with this man as his father.

And nobody steps in to stop him bullying his 12 year old brother either?

Sorry OP, he isn't a real man. Real men don't need to delight in being hurtful to others - especially four year old girls.

He sounds like an arse. Please at least tell us that you dobbed him in to the opposing team so he didn't get to keep the points? Or were you on his team? If so, you're not guilt-free yourself...