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to think this was a bit mean

82 replies

lola88 · 29/12/2012 20:14

xmas eve my DNiece (5yo) spent all day practicing her charades for the family coming over that night she had the little mermaid, sleeping beauty and tangled all ready, so we start playing she's to shy to do hers but once she got into it she got up to do hers and DP guessed every bloody one without giving her a chance as in i'd told him what i taught her so he shouted it out as soon as she started her first word.

AIBU to think he should have let her finish before he guessed or at least get properly started since she practiced all day and was nervous and he was just being mean? He says he was playing by the rules (which he wasn't because he already knew) i say she's only little and he should let her have her turn then guess. He does thinks like this to his little brother (12yo) all the time i dread to think what he'll be like when DS is bigger!

I know it sounds daft but it's niggling me he found it so funny to ruin a little girls fun

OP posts:
Badvoc · 29/12/2012 20:33

I feel sorry for your niece, and your ds :(

Fairyegg · 29/12/2012 20:37

He sounds like a knob. Was he drunk? not that it would be an excuse.

DontmindifIdo · 29/12/2012 20:38

oh just seen you have a DS together. OK time for some strong words, tell him his behaviour was cruel and unacceptable. He's not one of the children anymore, he's supposed to be an adult. That was the behaviour of a nasty, horrible big brother (who is still a child himself), while when he did stuff like that to his brother that would make him look like a horrible child, but understandable because not all children are nice - you expect now he's an adult and a father for him to act like one.

dwagdays · 29/12/2012 20:39

Cruel and sufficient to make all other adults present wonder why you are with such a dick. I hope he grows up quickly and that he has some redeeming qualities.

MrsPnut · 29/12/2012 20:39

What an absolute cunt, I'd definitely think less of him for being pleased that he got he over in a small child.

Fakebook · 29/12/2012 20:41

I don't think it's just mean. I think it's fucking disgraceful. What a fucking arsehole for doing that.

He's going to raise your DS the same way, putting him down and not letting him get satisfaction from completing something himself.

DonderandBlitzen · 29/12/2012 20:43

What a nasty piece of work. Poor little girl.

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Gigondas · 29/12/2012 20:45

Wow- a prince among men. How utterly lovely.

Mspontipine · 29/12/2012 20:47

I was peed off when I let an older brother join in the games at my ds's birthday party (then about 5) and he tried too hard at the musical chairs. The boy was about 11. A grown man - I'd have killed him.

oldpeculiar · 29/12/2012 20:54

I think he was thoughtless rather than mean.But this is what men are like

jessjessjess · 29/12/2012 20:55

Beyond mean.

Whocansay · 29/12/2012 20:55

Ask him if it made him feel like a big man, bullying a 5 year old girl. What an absolute bastard.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 29/12/2012 20:59

There we are, OP... if you felt a bit irked before you posted, I'm sure you feel so much worse now that your choice of partner has been heartily and utterly condemned. There is no way back from this, you know, MN has spoken...

Onezerozero · 29/12/2012 20:59

When people complain about their DPs staying out all night and their DHs not picking up after themselves I think they perhaps don't sound like ideal men but maybe they aren't all bad.
This man, he would have to have more redeeming qualities than I think could exist before I'd be able to consider him a worthwhile human. Why did you choose this man to raise a child with? Is he made of cake?
What a knob.

JazzAnnNonMouse · 29/12/2012 21:02

What a twat

Kalisi · 29/12/2012 21:03

I'd be looking a lot deeper OP. Doesn't sound like a big deal on the face of it ( as I'm sure he will try to convince you if you bring it up) but seriously, that is pretty nasty and bullying behaviour. I'm surprised you didn't pull him up on it after the first guess.

whatsforyou · 29/12/2012 21:04

That reminds me of someone I know who was at mine once when the dcs were handing round a plate of biscuits with one fake biscuit on it. Everyone played along, picking the fake biscuit and spluttering and coughing which resulted in helpless laughter from the dcs. He watched all this then when they came to him, he smirked at them all smug and said, you won't trick me and took the real biscuit. Then, I kid you not, he looked round the adults like he wanted congratulating!
He is as arsehole in all areas of his life. I would have a serious talk to your dp. Especially because you have a ds together, is he going to have to always be the 'winner' in that relationship?

Alisvolatpropiis · 29/12/2012 21:05

That's mean.

I'm not sure it's bullying though. More being a thoughtless overly competitive twat.

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lola88 · 29/12/2012 21:05

His whole family are like this his dad has 5 brothers and were all raised to be 'real men' they all do this mean bullying slagging stuff and think it's so funny, he just doesn't see the harm. Luckily DN is not shy normally and proceeded to chuck cushions at him :)

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Alisvolatpropiis · 29/12/2012 21:06

It's also really weird if he enjoyed ruining her fun.

cardibach · 29/12/2012 21:06

oldpeculiar that is a bit of a sweeping generalisation! My exH had his faults but he would never do that to a little girl, and neither would any of the other men I know!
Terrible behaviour.

MissFenella · 29/12/2012 21:07

Such pleasure at spite aimed at a 5 year old would concern me.

cees · 29/12/2012 21:07

Ah that was cruel, it isn't funny to show up a child like that, what an ass. Not funny or smart at all, the great big dickhead you can tell him I said that Xmas Smile

yousmell · 29/12/2012 21:07

big meanie

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