To Be Annoyed about this (Poss SN) Childs Behaviour

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Ok so we went to The Panto last night which wasn't a cheap night out with the tickets costing £100 + for 4 of us.

We were sat 4 seats in with a family of 4 occupying the end 4.

The Father of other the family preceded to lift his DS aged about 10/11 over the seats (spare) to the row in front so he could get a better view and was now sat directly in front of my DP.

This child then spent the entire performance jumping up and down on the seat in front,shouting loudly for sweets,flapping arms,banding his head with his shoes which he'd taken off and generally distracting everyone around him. To give the father credit he did repeatedly tell the child to shut up /sit down and threaten him etc.

Although My experience of ASD is quite limited, I'm assuming the boy was on the Autistic spectrum and although the panto is a family performance and I expect to be disturbed by kids needing a wee,rustling sweets etc AIBU to be pissed off with our evening be ruined especially seeing the boy could have been seated on the end of the aisle where he would have disturbed others less ?

A bit of a ....?

No, a COMPLETE .... !

Ok Glitterknickaz! an UTTER .....!

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yohohoho you seem to be missing the whole point of this......why?

What point am I missing?

No amber i have not taken exception, I disagree with what you said, which I said on my first (maybe second post) and I reiterating.

The issue is Amber, in the new year I have a meeting with dds teacher as he and dh feel she is exhibiting some of my aspie qualities. DD would have, quite politely but firmly, told the man and his son that they were ruining the experience for her.
Had she done so, I would have told her that was not appropriate. She would have not seen the issue because she sees things as facts. and its a 'fact' she sees no issue in saying it. This is natural to her. I moderate and it is getting better.

I would not have said to the man 'she is a child with aspergers, you might be upset she said your son was ruining it for her but its her natural behavior'.

I have to moderate my own behavior as I work with the public. Everyone has to moderate themselves or their children at some point.

You didn't say I won't moderate some behaviors.

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Beanie what a truly nasty post. I am open mouthed that you could post that. I sincerely hope you aren't really that unkind and lacking in compassion in real life. I have never reported a post before but truly that is an awful thing to write. I have two dc with asd and we have very few places that are safe to go to. i must be over sensitive because your post actually makes me feel like crying.

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Cansu - I am also shaken by beanies post

Beanie despite everything, I still believe that most people are genuinely fair and nice. So good luck with that.

Fair enough Starfish.

You are one step ahead of me then because I don't have a clue what I would do in a situation where my son who has a disability was becoming distressed as a direct result of someone else who has a disability.

Apparantly it would make me disablist to suggest that a child who was upsetting my son should be removed from the theatre, even though the only reason my son would become upset is because of his disability. So the only thing I could do is remove my own son, but then that would still be disablist because I'd be removing him because of a disability.

Cansu I used to get like you. The tears and upset caused scars and callouses and now I am a bitter, angry tiger when it comes to my kids.

Yet the arseholes on this thread cannot see that my behaviour is of their own creation. I have no tolerance at their fuckwittery and they can get to fuck.

I would have spoken to the parents. People should not spoil the enjoyment for others. Sounds like the father said a lot but did nothing. I would not let my child disturb the people around them like that.

Of course it was, Starfish.

Mean-spiritedness tends to go hand-in-hand with cowardice.

I don't understand why this is a disabilist thread. All the dad had to do was lift his son out of his seat and put him back where he was originally.

yohoho

I doubt very much you would have had to explain much at all to a parent of another child with autism [in your hypothetical scenario]

Again Ill agree to disagree with you.

I don't agree with your way of seeing things.

your way wouldn't work for me.

My son doesn't have aspergers. he is autistic.

He sometimes does things like the boy in the OP and that is the sort of thing I was refering to not modifying, given that was the subject of the thread I really didnt think it needed clarification.

Well Jolly Good For You, Endorphins.
Give that Mummy A Gold Star. She's Obviously FAR Superior To Us Pesky SN Parents.