to be cross that dh spent 65 quid on sex toys

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We don't have that much money, especially not at this time of year. Our sex life is not brilliant, we have two kids, one of which is a year old and doesn't allow me much sleep. I'm still bf. I'm knackered and not that interested in sex, so I know dh is getin desperate. The last thing I want to do atm is engage in anything new, and the money spent has annoyed me. AIBU? Probably.

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Yanbu. When will men ever understand that the greatest turn on to a woman is to be treated properly and equally with respect and affection and admiration? Its NOT rocket science!!

What you really need is a vibrator of your own choosing,and a couple of half hours a week to ...emmm...relax.Once you get used to having regular orgasms (that you can just be selfish about),you'll get more in the mood for regular sex.Get one with a clitoral stimulator,that yoke in the link would put me right off

...oh,and he's probably a bit jealous of the vibrator after all that (especially if you seemed to like it more than him!!!)

That first link - what was it? If it's what I think it looks like, it's for him - good idea.

English women are so funny. You speak of not being bothered and wearing oversized tshirts to bed, and then, in a thread 3 months from now, you will be asking why he is having an affair. I will remind you of this.

I love my glass dildo. Try putting it in the freezer for 5 mins before using it

It actually feels so good to hear I'm not the only ice queen out there. DH also finds it hard to understand that I'd rather read a book and collapse at the end of the day rather than being a sex goddess...
The glass dildo fills me with dread too, I have to say...
FYI I'm not English lovelyladuree and what a crap comment to make.

In the FREEZER?

Dear god

That looks like the glass ornament thingy I bought DM last Christmas. It was for sticking in your pot plant or so I thought

Depends, Anne summers YANBU at all..

Myla? Rock on tommy! Have fun girlfriend!!! :)

Trekkie I know, right?!

He was uncomfortable with it, we've never really, erm, experimented with anything, anyhow before. And I think he realised somewhere between the argument about it and the unveiling of it, that he was way off the mark in terms of why I'm having trouble getting it on atm.

AfterEight I might show him your post - I would have said those words myself had I been slightly more capable of stringing words together in a proper way.

I read that a young man had bought his girlfriend a sex toy, with a clitoris stimulator and she says she prefers it to him, of course she does, as he hasn't got one.

The glass dildo is out of stock now, this thread is better than any advert

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with taking steps to reinvigorate a depleted sex pride after children, but it’s something he should have discussed with you first.

It might be helpful to have a chat about it - to work out how you want to proceed re sex, and for you to explain that he shouldn’t make unilateral decisions like that without finding out your feelings etc first.

*sex life, not sex pride

God I love zombie threads.

Might be helpful to have a chat about it (in the nine years since you posted).