to not be thrilled with necklace from partner

[deb630]

I dont know if i am being an absolute cow or not. Was given a locket, I smiled and said it was lovely, even though i hated it. I ltr took it off and when he asked did i like i ummed and ahhed, and tried to say in the nicest way, that its just not me,its gold, i only like white gold, its too big and showy, and fussy, i only like very plain and simple small things.He had a fit, said i was ungrateful,but if i have to wear something for the rest of my life,i would have preferred to have at least liked it.He and his family, have made feel like im the lowest of the low. Im not a nasty person,i just feel so awful over this. He walked out on xmas day, and our relationship is on the rocks, we are meeting to talk tommorow night

And I don't think for a minute that he knows what he is doing, if that helps.

Deep seated hurt like he has suffered is very hard to untangle even with years of therapy.

He might never stop behaving like this. It's a matter of whether he is able to apologise, whether OP is able to sustain the relationship when it means tiptoeing around someone quite emotionally damaged and a bit volatile, and how much they both actually want this relationship deep down.

"He and his family, have made feel like im the lowest of the low."
deb630, could you expand on this comment of yours a little please? Where does his family come into this and what have they done to make you feel bad?