I would never have thought I would be posting this, I am easy to please!
Me and DP have been together for 3 years, we have had a really crap year together. We relocated for his new (well paid) job and I have struggled to find one. I got a christmas job in retail and worked my butt off to be able to afford presents for him. He wasn't short of expensive suggestions for himself and I got him some really lovely presents. I spent about £100 overall from my wages- which has been a lot for me. I havn't bought anything for myself for a good 6 months- even crippled myself in heels for work as I couldn't afford flat shoes.
He is working today so I am at my parents. I have opened his presents:
-2 bottles of mulled cider
-a box of tea
-a single electric blanket
I am 23 not 83. We live in a mild area of the country, I just dont NEED one. I also know his mother paid for it as he said "he couldnt afford all of it by himself" (that got my hopes up it was a nice treat for me!!
He wrapped it up click and collect packaging and all. Hadnt even bothered to open it to make sure it was the right thing. Price was left on, £39.95. A couple of months ago he thought nothing of buying a £300 leather jacket for himself.
AIBU to just have wanted something pretty and nice for myself?
AIBU?
AIB ungrateful?
Hydrophilic · 25/12/2012 19:49
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Good luck flat hunting. 
He sounds awful.
You sound like you are handling it all very well.
At least he's incompetent to do anything himself! You may yet get away with this! Go, go, Hydro!
He sounds truly awful. I have been through a very similar situation. (My horrid thoughtless Xmas prezzie was a perfume that he saw me try in the shop and knew I thought smelled like cat piss but he bought anyway because it was advertised by Sienna Miller 
. He also tried to keep artwork I'd paid for. Tis now hanginh in my hall 
)
I know it's hard to leave a life behind and I know you truly loved him once, but you know what you want now and you CAN move out and move on. Go to your mums for now and sort the rest from there.
It'll all work out, it'll just be a stressy couple of months. But once it's all over you'll look at your sparkly new life and think "HELL YEAH! I did that!" It's a great feeling. Promise
My only problem now is that I'm so much happier by myself I don't want another bloke. Ever!
Hydro, I remember your previous posts - I look out for threads about living with OCD because we have a family member who suffers very badly with this.
Listen love, you've been posting here for nearly two years about your relationship problems with this man. Many posters have told you that he is selfish and controlling for not seeking therapy or medication and for expecting you to enable his rituals etc and put up with ludicrous restrictions on your domestic life because of his phobias.
You have told us that you've been supporting him while he qualifies as a doctor, and have relocated for his career. In return, he jeers at the jobs you are applying for and taunts you that your friends are no longer interested in you. He has reneged on his promise to support you financially until you find work. He is too mean to buy you a decent Xmas present or put fuel in your car (which he insists on using himself). He is trying to take away your posessions. He is bullying you.
You are only 23, you have a good degree and are hoping to go back to uni soon. Why on earth are you putting up with this nonsense? Please move back to your family and friends and make a new start for yourself. There are very few jobs available in the South-West. He has made it very clear he won't support you and is blackening your reputation amongst his social circle. You have nothing left to lose. Make this the year you get your life back on track! .
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