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To want to cancel Christmas day?

66 replies

D0oinMeCleanin · 24/12/2012 14:19

I have worked every single day and night for the last fortnight. I was away at college before that. Nothing is done, the house is still squalid, from the DC's attempts at "tidying up" while I was away. I have just eaten for the first time in three days because I have not had time to eat. I shouldn't have eaten, I should have cleaned up the mess DH and the DC left in the living room when they were sorting out the tree yesterday, but I was starting to feel faint.

I have an essay to write. The only time I have now to write it is tomorrow, I wanted to do it on Thursday eve, my only night off, but DH had a strop and I had to leave it, so I can't have a drink with Christmas lunch anyway.

There is no food shopping. DH has just told me he did not know that the PO shut early today, so there is no money for food shopping. He has now disappeared and is not answering his phone so I have no idea whether he has sorted the food money. Nothing is wrapped. I am working until 11:30pm so will be up into the wee hours wrapping and cleaning.

Customers are work are being fucking 'orrible because they've either drank too much or they are just as stressed as me. I've just been told I start work 30 minutes earlier tonight, which is really inconvenient for me and was the proverbial straw.

I give up. Christmas is now postponed until further notice.

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LaCiccolina · 24/12/2012 14:24

Blimey, sounds rough my dear. I don't really know what to say. A right pickle. All I can think of is step back a sec. Xmas is about being together and enjoying that time. So what if this Xmas isn't picture book? If u can get dh to agree to concentrate on each other the rest will come. Ur dc will be fine. Next year u will laugh about this I'm sure!

Big hugs xxx

Iggly · 24/12/2012 14:25

YANBU :(((

Rosa · 24/12/2012 14:30

Blimey YANBU- Hope DH pulls his finger out and you get the Dc to help tidy up..

D0oinMeCleanin · 24/12/2012 14:38

I don't want them to help clean up, as daft as that sounds, wrapping and shopping, yes. Cleaning no. They can't do it, they start 'organising' and moving things i.e they make more mess.

DH has now rang. He has money for dd2's main present. He didn't mention food. His phone has run out of battery.

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SolidGoldFrankensteinandmurgh · 24/12/2012 14:42

Is your H normally this useless? If so, how about making a New Year's resolution to get rid of him?

Softlysoftly · 24/12/2012 14:45

If 'D'H isn't working then opt out.

Find some way to get hold of him, tell him you will clean but that's it, nothing else. If he wants Christmas it's up to him. Food, presents, wrapping, the lot.

givemeaclue · 24/12/2012 14:47

You do your essay. Dh cleans up, get food and does the wrapping. You have an early night. You need a rest over Xmas

Hesterton · 24/12/2012 14:50

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OhlimpPricks · 24/12/2012 14:51

Maybe you should put college on hold until DC are older, if it is not even giving you 10 minutes to eat a sandwich.

Hesterton · 24/12/2012 14:53

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FrameyMcFrame · 24/12/2012 14:55

Leave the essay! Surely the deadline is not boxing day? I think getting food and pressies sorted is priority. Then get some sleep and rest. Cleaning can be done in the morning, they'll just make a mess with wrapping paper in the morn anyway. I feel for you, I've been in tears twice today and I was looking for parking spaces in town at 8 this morning because I had more to do. It will all be ok, don't worry.

Amothersruin · 24/12/2012 14:56

You didnt eat for 3 days and now feel you shouldnt have eaten at all as you could have been doing housework? forgive me for asking but do you have an eating disorder because that is not normal behaviour.

Ask for an extension on your essay-surely you dont have to hand it in yet what with it being the xmas holidays?

I am unclear about what you mean about the po and the money situation. Have you bought no presents at all?

I agree with other posters-ditch your dh-he sounds like a cocklodger....

lovelyladuree · 24/12/2012 15:11

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OhlimpPricks · 24/12/2012 15:17

You're not alone Ladyladuree....

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hobnobsaremyfavourite · 24/12/2012 15:26

Dooin your life seems to lurch from one crisis to the next, maybe it's just time to stop and realise that it's not working and you need shot of your DH.

BeataNoxPotter · 24/12/2012 15:27

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SundaysGirl · 24/12/2012 15:27

Oh come on you haven't been able to find 3 minutes in 3 days to have a sandwich?

Xmas Hmm

Also essay due in on boxing day is it? I thought colleges were not even open until the New Year from now. Sorry but never heard of a deadline being in the period between Xmas and New Year.

hobnobsaremyfavourite · 24/12/2012 15:28

Oh and I have never met someone one who wrote an essay on Christmas day, life is just too short.

PlentyOfPubeGardens · 24/12/2012 15:28
Sad

I recognise your name from the relationships board and seem to remember a thread from last christmas - still with him eh? I'm with Solid wrt what your new year's resolution should be.

I have no practical advice but sending you a (((hug))) and wishing you strength.

Be nice folks, OP is Not A Troll.

BeataNoxPotter · 24/12/2012 15:29

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TheAccidentalExhibitionist · 24/12/2012 15:31

I hope you and your DH have time to make a lovely Christmas for your DC?

It would be a shame for their Christmas experience to be affected by all the chaos around them.

Jingleallthejay · 24/12/2012 15:33

lovey you feel guilty for eating come on now get a hold of yourself is the house so bad that you can't leave it for them to sort unclench and stop and have a breather I hope you get your food sorted, your essay can wait till after christmas you wont be able to send it in anhway, is he always so feckless ,

Jingleallthejay · 24/12/2012 15:34

especially your course.

this i read when she was first going to do her course and he was being arsey about it,

WandaDoff · 24/12/2012 15:35

I thought you worked in a chinese takeaway?

Do you have a meal allowance there?