To want to cancel Christmas day?

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I have worked every single day and night for the last fortnight. I was away at college before that. Nothing is done, the house is still squalid, from the DC's attempts at "tidying up" while I was away. I have just eaten for the first time in three days because I have not had time to eat. I shouldn't have eaten, I should have cleaned up the mess DH and the DC left in the living room when they were sorting out the tree yesterday, but I was starting to feel faint.

I have an essay to write. The only time I have now to write it is tomorrow, I wanted to do it on Thursday eve, my only night off, but DH had a strop and I had to leave it, so I can't have a drink with Christmas lunch anyway.

There is no food shopping. DH has just told me he did not know that the PO shut early today, so there is no money for food shopping. He has now disappeared and is not answering his phone so I have no idea whether he has sorted the food money. Nothing is wrapped. I am working until 11:30pm so will be up into the wee hours wrapping and cleaning.

Customers are work are being fucking 'orrible because they've either drank too much or they are just as stressed as me. I've just been told I start work 30 minutes earlier tonight, which is really inconvenient for me and was the proverbial straw.

I give up. Christmas is now postponed until further notice.

Op you wrote last Christmas that you were worried you had spent too much on your kids. Cut down your hours, and spend a little less.
To work every day for 14 days without a day off is illegal. If a company is making you do that then they need to be reported to the local employment office.

Do you not have access to the money you are earning? Have you a friend who can lend you £ so you can have a Xmas meal? Forget cleaning, forget the essay fr the next few days. Look after yourself and the dcs. Is dh looking after the dcs when you work? Are you happy that he is caring for them properly? Sounds like you have too much on your plate, how long can you go on like this?

Whistlingwaves, 4 hrs a day would be ok under the working time directive. Working so many hours in the day (with no lunch break???????) 7 days a week is illegal.

Call in sick to work and take some deep breaths. The money issue I have no idea how to resolve. Food on credit card? Borrow from friends/family? The essay - just leave it. Speak to your tutor about your situation and see what you can sort out. You are going to make yourself very unwell if you keep going on this way. You and DH need to have a long chat about sharing responsibilities.

Whistling, entertainment, and media companies have different contracts. BECTU ( the actors/TV/theatre union oversee these contracts.) also armed forces, fishermen and oil rig workers have different contracts.
The maximum hours someone can work in a week is 48, unless they have signed a waiver, and choose to work more. They cannot be sacked for refusing to work 7 days a week, unless in the categories above.

So I am assuming OP Is choosing to work every day?

OP I remember your previous threads. I remember them because they are stand out shocking. And sad.

You surely cannot go on like this? What will it take you to leave?

OP your DC's deserve better than this.

OP your life just seems one crisis after another......do you actually enjoy the attention it brings you ? If not you seriously need to DO something. You and your children cant go on like this. - but methinks you would never listen as I think you thrive on the drama

As for 'not having time to eat in three days....really ? you work in a Chinese Takeaway FGS and get a meal a shift, so this is a ridiculous thing to say. If you carry on in this vain you are in danger if being the woman who cried wolf..... people will start to switch off

The essay is in the 7th but I really want to get it done in time to have it checked over and make any changes I need to make. Plus I get christmas day off and then am working again spilt shifts right through to NYE. I haven't got my shifts for after that but don't want to rely on having time off to do my course work, in case I don't.

He has borrowed money off MIL for food.

And no, DH does not seem to want me to pass/stick at this course.

And I agre with OldRaver

Op-why do you have no money? Surely you must have realised xmas was coming around and tried to budget? Can you answer my question about the eating thing-do you regularly go without meals?....

God this sounds like my sister. When I hear the other side to it from my bil, it's very different...

Sorry I see I cross posted with someone else-so actually you get a meal through your job so there is no need to go without a meal? if so then deliberately going without food for 3 days sounds a tad martyrish.

Can you please give us some more info about your financial situation? why have you left it until xmas eve to worry about food and presents?....

I had some shitty Christmas' as a child. I still remember them now. It stil makes me very OP if this is all true you and your DP need to take a long hard look at how you behave. Do you want your DC's to have memories like this?

There is always the local shops for food and your dp should be stepping up considering you are always at work. Then that would leave you free to wrap and get festive, tell him to get off his arse so your dc can have a nice christmas

why have you left it until xmas eve to worry about food and presents?....

This.

Did you not know it was Christmas? You have children who depend on you. You cannot blame your DP, you know what he is like and have posted abut how useless he is before.

Lots of people have to work and study, sorry. They still manage to chuck a few pressies together and do a roast. There's been late night shopping all week. I really feel for your dc tbh.

Also, what's with all the posters not having Christmas trees and suddenly all wanting one today?

I dont know any of the op's history but I do wish she would come back and give some more info or reply to questions-people on here may be abke to help her out...

We have all of the presents. I have not had time to wrap them. We have more than enough money for christmas food. In the post office. Which is closed. I dont know which card type it is. We cant use in cash points, only at the counter.

Yes I get free meals but I walk the dogs on my lunch break because it is the only time I have to do it. I dont like eating late on a night. It keeps me awake.

Don't write the essay till after Christmas. That's just being silly. Your daughter has a present. That's sorted. Food. I don't know where you live but is it getting to the shops or cash that's the problem?

And no, DH does not seem to want me to pass/stick at this course.

just keep at it dont let him ruin it for you and did you train those meerkats ?

DH has borrowed the food money from MIL and is out buying it now.

I hope.

He was not home when I was.

You say he has enough money for dd2's main present - why was that left til today?

I sat a degree course alongside a part time job & 2 children, the youngest which was 3 months when I started.

I know it's difficult, but stop being a martyr!

Why can't dh walk the dog?