To want to cancel Christmas day?

[D0oinMeCleanin]

I have worked every single day and night for the last fortnight. I was away at college before that. Nothing is done, the house is still squalid, from the DC's attempts at "tidying up" while I was away. I have just eaten for the first time in three days because I have not had time to eat. I shouldn't have eaten, I should have cleaned up the mess DH and the DC left in the living room when they were sorting out the tree yesterday, but I was starting to feel faint.

I have an essay to write. The only time I have now to write it is tomorrow, I wanted to do it on Thursday eve, my only night off, but DH had a strop and I had to leave it, so I can't have a drink with Christmas lunch anyway.

There is no food shopping. DH has just told me he did not know that the PO shut early today, so there is no money for food shopping. He has now disappeared and is not answering his phone so I have no idea whether he has sorted the food money. Nothing is wrapped. I am working until 11:30pm so will be up into the wee hours wrapping and cleaning.

Customers are work are being fucking 'orrible because they've either drank too much or they are just as stressed as me. I've just been told I start work 30 minutes earlier tonight, which is really inconvenient for me and was the proverbial straw.

I give up. Christmas is now postponed until further notice.

OP have some and and a boat load of sympathy. You have every right to be pissed off and references to your other threads etc are not helpful to you now.

I feel like cancelling the big day too, but for different reasons, I am and

Why do you not have a bank account?

I think Dooin needs a bit of space for a rant, and a sympathetic ear or two - not picking holes in her story.

D0oin - I hope your dh comes back with the essentials for christmas dinner, and you manage to have a good day together.

It doesn't sound like your life is functioning right now. Why is that? What needs to change?

I was paying dd2's main present off in installments. I had around £40 left to pay. I have had and spent the money a million times over but have not had time to get down and pay it. She has other presents. Lots of them.

I used to ask DH to help out with the dogs but the only DH is reliable at is lwtti.g me down. He consistently 'forgot' I don't bother asking now because elsewise I end up taking them at midnight when he forgets.

He has promised to tidy up and do the wrapping but I would rather assume he will let me down again than to expect it all to be done and end up dissapointed.

So why didnt you make sure either you or dh went and got the cash for xmas food so you didnt have to borrow it?-I am still confused. If your dh is not ehlping round the house then why havent you ripped him a new one? and you still havent answered my question about why you werent eating?...

If I have read correctly, D0oin's dh was asked to get the money out, but didn't realise that the Post Office shut early today - and didn't think to check.

Oh - and she has said that she doesn't eat in her lunchbreak at work, because she has to go home and walk the dogs (because her dh forgets), and she doesn't eat late at night when she gets home because then she doesn't sleep, which does go a long way towards answering your question.

And it's Christmas Eve - can't we just be sympathetic and supportive without all the questions?

Sorry SDTG I am trying to be supportive but its hard when op posts such a deliberately dramatic thread not to want to ask some questions as to why the op has allowed things to get to this place?...

I do get that, Amothersruin, and I wasn't trying to have a go at anyone - I hope I haven't offended you (or anyone else).

Not at all SDTG-I hope the op manages to enjoy xmas anyway and perhaps the new year will bring better things.

Okay, now it is quieter at work I will try and answer some of your questions. We have enough money for Christmas in a PO savings account. It has a purple card. Afaik we can only use this at the counter. I knew the PO closed early. I did not know that DH didn't know this. It is common sense imo. Yet again I made the mistake of over estimating him. MIL has bailed him out again. We now have food shopping.
I was away for college at the start of the month and came back only three days before we went again. During those three days I split shifts every day. I have done the same since I got back. I literally have not had time to organise anything and I came back from college to an enormous mess which dd2 delighted in telling me was "tidy up for you". I have only just managed to catch up on that. They had literally turned the house upside down. There was furniture from the dining room all over the house.

DH was supposed to have been wrapping all week but my dogs stop him leaving the sofa, apparently.

All the presents were ordered online weeks and weeks ago. The dc have everything they have asked for and more if we ignore dd1's request for a puppy, which she asks for every year.

I have applied for a council house and I am waiting to hear back from that.

I don't often go so long without eating but when I get stressed and things get on top of me time for eating gets pushed way down my list of priorities. I do not gave an eating disorder.

I will be doung my essay because I might get any more time off between now and my deadline and this is my way out of shit jobs like this.

I have not 'tore DH a new one' because I do not have the energy and frankly it makes no difference. No amount of pleading, begging or crying or talking or shouting or asking for outside agencies will help him see he needs to shift his arse and help. Hence the council house.

Work is better than I was expecting and we have food now so I am marginally happier, although if this christmas cd does not end up in the fryer by the end of my shift it will be a miracle

Christmas is not ruined for my children. I would kill before I let that happen. I did just want to sound off because things got too much.

Thanks to those who listened and merry xmas

Dooin,I've been reading your posts for the last 4 years.You're not happy,kids are not happy and your DH still seems to be a twat.Last Xmas or the one before,you took his bank card and said that you were biding your time untill you actually left.Didn't happen did it?Ain't ever going to happen is it?

It will happen, when she's ready.

It's none of our business, dooin clearly just wanted to vent, which is what mn is about :)

Have a lovely Christmas dooin xxxx