SIL PFB and bedrooms at PIL (again)

[MsIngaFewmarbles]

I don't believe I am writing this but here we go again.

SIL has previously tried to insist that their PFB had to sleep in the spare room by herself at PILs house over Christmas whilst our 4 DC slept in rhe dining room on airbeds. Anyone remember this?

Anyway this year we only have DS for Christmas Eve/Day as our DDs are at respective other parents and with us from Boxing Day when B/SIL will be leaving to visit SIL family. Great I thought, no problems then, DN can sleep in cot in spare room, DS can have the bed, all sorted.

SIL mentioned yesterday that DN is so settled and sleeping so well that she doesn't want to risk disrupting this by having DS sleeping in the same room. FGS will it never end? I am hosting Christmas next year so I don't have for deal with this crap.

Oh God - this would drive me batty.
Yanbu. Is she generally entitled and self important, or is this just since having pfb?

What do PiL say? It's their house so I'd have a word with them, ridiculous to sleep on an air bed when theres a bed going spare!!

Oh and we asked that other parents deliver DDs to us by 9.30 on Boxing Day so that they can spend a bit of time with B/SIL before they head off (an hour earlier than usual) and SIL said that won't work as they are leaving at 9.30 this year. I asked if they could just stay until 10 so the DDs could say hello and open their presents from them and apparently this is not feasible :(

I remember this - what happened in the end last year?

She is so ridiculous, I remember your previous thread.

Is this at your PIL's house again? Can't they tell her tough?

For your turn, do you have a shed? I'm sure that or something similar would be lovely and peaceful - lots of fresh air.

Pictish, always been a bit precious but worse since DN arrived.

I remember your previous thread too. YANBU

Lord. That would drive me crazy.

PFB neice is now a year old? A couple of nights sleeping in the same room as her parents is not going to disturb her routine.

Last year PIL put their foot down and DN spent the nights with her parents. Much martyred tiredness from SIL :)

This year MIL seems a bit fragile (health) so I don't really want to involve them in it. I know DS can sleep on an airbed in our room and he is a good sleeper but it just seems ridiculous when PIL have very kindly sorted a room for their DGC to sleep in.

Neice is just 2 now

Thank you for the update. I was wondering how this year was going!

What's PFB?

I remember that thread too.

One of my sil's is a bit like that - always has to have a certain room at my parents' house. I've always wondered if it's so that there can be a fall out and she doesn't have to come again.

So far we indulge her whims.

YANBU
I remember last years thread too

How old is the niece now?

anniewoo
Precious First Born :)

You could just ignore her and talk loudly about how thoughtful it is for PIL to have arranged a bedroom so both grandchildren can have proper beds

Everlong I have 2 DDs from my first marriage and DH has one from his. We alternate Christmases.

This is ridiculous.

She doesn't get to dictate when it's not her house.

I would just tell her "there's no way he's sleeping on an air bed, when there's an actual bed available...ds will be in the bed!"

She can like it or lump it. Who cares?

Oh I remember this. So now the child is 2? Surely she is so settled into a routine by now that very little would disturb her.

Why is her child's sleep more precious than yours. Maybe you should chuck in that ds gets disturbed by you in the room and so the kids will just have to share.

Fwiw my eldest dd was a dire sleeper and at the chance of sharing would have been leaping around at midnight but I still wouldn't have said no.

I remember your thread last year, glad your MIL put her foot down. Just tell your SIL she is being ridiculous and if she wants her PFB to have her own bedroom then maybe she should give up hers.

I just don't want her to make a scene by throwing a tantrum or crying with the DC and PIL around.

I AM DOING CHRISTMAS HERE NEXT YEAR. I AM DOING CHRISTMAS HERE NEXT YEAR. I AM DOING CHRISTMAS HERE NEXT YEAR. AAAARGH

Sorry that's better.

If she makes a scene she'll look like a moron, I say put your foot down and say they'll both be sleeping on the room