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Supermarket weep

90 replies

ditziness · 24/12/2012 00:00

Went to supermarket earlier to do christmas stuff with husband, baby and 3 year old. Children have both been ill all week with coughs, vomiting. Today I have sore throat, headache, aches, sickness etc. but manned it up to go get stuff for Christmas. I actually quite enjoy the Christmas food shop. I like cooking, enjoy choosing things.

Within a couple of mins of getting into the fruit and veg bit the baby starts whining, so I pick her up to comfort her, then look around and can see no sign of my husband anyway. Literally we've been in the shop five mins, I'd only put a bag of satsuma son the trolley. So I look around the fruit and veg got him, try to pick up veg, realise I can't carry anything as he has trolley and I'm holding baby. So think he must have gone into the next aisle or two. So I go look, no sign of him. Cue then half an hour of me looking round entire supermarket without seeing him, feeling increasingly ill, angry, panicky and worried. At one point have to dash to toilet due to sickness. Eventually I get the customer services to call him on the tannoy.

Turns out he just decided that it'd be quicker to do the shopping on his own, saw me comforting the baby, thought I was taking too long and left me. Taking my bag, phone, the trolley. He knew I was ill. I'm also short sighted, didn't have my glasses and the place was massive and heaving.

I'm surprised that the whole thing freaked me out so much that when he heard the tannoy call and came got me, I ended up having a panic attack and bursting into tears, almost fainting.

He thinks he did nothing wrong. AIBU to be fed up with him? Surely you wouldn't walk off and leave anyone like that without saying, let alone your ill wife and baby?

OP posts:
AgentZigzagHasABigYuleLog · 24/12/2012 03:37

People do all sorts of things you think they wouldn't/shouldn't Tough.

pumpkinsweetieMasPudding · 24/12/2012 03:42

Me & my family have had dv 3 times this year, it is absolutely vile.
Without meaning to sound rude, why did you not stay at home with the dc?
Your dp was bu, but he was more U to take you in the first place as now, half of the supermarket will have had it. It spreads like wildfire, imagine all the customers that would have gone on to push your trolley, and catch germs from your hands?

If you were single or had no babysitter i could understand it, but you have a dp, of whom could have done the shopping himself instead of sending you, not only to expose supermarket to dv, but also he was very selfish in the fact he didn't care for the fact you should have been recovering.

I just hope it wasn't my local supermarket as i don't think i could stand being that ill again this year, especially with 4dc who normally catch bang on to coincide with me....especially at christmasConfused

pumpkinsweetieMasPudding · 24/12/2012 03:45

And what about the health risk, you have delibratly imposed of nutrapenic cancer patients, elderly, babies & those with low immune systems?
You do realise norovirus can kill the vunerable?

HollaAtMeSanta · 24/12/2012 10:04

Sorry you had a fright but Jesus! who takes a sick baby and a sick 3yo out in the cold to do a big supermarket shop right before Christmas when not necessary? Why didn't you shop on line, or one of you stay at home with the children? People like you are the reason I only go to Tesco after 9.30 p.m...

happyinherts · 24/12/2012 10:15

Both of you acted totally selfishly actually - neither a thought for each other or anyone else in the whole supermarket.

No excuse for any of it

McChristmasPants2012 · 24/12/2012 10:26

you should have written a list and got your DP/DH to do the shopping.

I just hope there wasn't anyone who was autoimmune shopping.

MerryCouthyMows · 24/12/2012 10:36

For everyone moaning about spreading germs - you'd love my family today.

DS1 has a migraine. DS2 has croup. DD has tonsillitis. After seeing the GP at 12, I have no choice but to go to Tesco afterwards, because that is the ONLY pharmacy in walking distance.

And while I am there, I will be sticking up on milk, bread and more bloody nurofen meltlets as DD can't take proper pills.

Shall I print a sign to attach to us all saying "Ill family, please give a wide berth..."?

MerryCouthyMows · 24/12/2012 10:37

And no, as a Lone Parent, on Christmas Eve, I do NOT have anyone else to have the DC's!

MerryCouthyMows · 24/12/2012 10:37

And I can't leave DD without the Antibiotics she desperately needs, either.

happyinherts · 24/12/2012 10:43

MerryCouthyMows - sympathies to your situation.

As a lone parent you have no choice and that is understandable being that you're trying to get medication from a prescription.

I think it's a different ball game taking the whole family out on an expedition for a whole Christmas shop when you have a partner who could have looked after children or sat in car with them outside - and that is why OP is getting flamed.

Sincere sympathies for your situation, hope the family get better and enjoy Christmas

HairyGrotter · 24/12/2012 10:45

I'm glad I'm made of stronger stuff, what a fucking performance!!!

YABVU, grow a vagina and woman up a bit! OR, as you have the luxury of having another responsible adult in your family, use that resource!

Groovee · 24/12/2012 10:48

My husband did the same to me yesterday. Left him in M&S food hall and as told to by him went back to the car after purchasing the flowers and gift card I needed to buy. We were supposed to weigh in after that but he went and weighed in himself then came back all chuffed with himself while leaving me fuming.

MsElleTow · 24/12/2012 10:49

Why on earth did you go out with a vomiting a bug? Absolutely no bloody consideration for anyone else in this world apart from your self!

Couthy, Your situation is totally different!

BerryChristmas · 24/12/2012 10:53

I am appalled that you went shopping with 2 sick children and were vomiting yourself. Bloody Hell - no Christmas Spirit towards other people from you was there? I'm glad I went yesterday and avoided you.

pumpkinsweetieMasPudding · 24/12/2012 11:27

Like i said if you are a single parent or have no other person to babysit, thats totally different and completely acceptable Couthy, but op had the luxury of a dp who could have done the whole shop for her.

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