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Supermarket weep

90 replies

ditziness · 24/12/2012 00:00

Went to supermarket earlier to do christmas stuff with husband, baby and 3 year old. Children have both been ill all week with coughs, vomiting. Today I have sore throat, headache, aches, sickness etc. but manned it up to go get stuff for Christmas. I actually quite enjoy the Christmas food shop. I like cooking, enjoy choosing things.

Within a couple of mins of getting into the fruit and veg bit the baby starts whining, so I pick her up to comfort her, then look around and can see no sign of my husband anyway. Literally we've been in the shop five mins, I'd only put a bag of satsuma son the trolley. So I look around the fruit and veg got him, try to pick up veg, realise I can't carry anything as he has trolley and I'm holding baby. So think he must have gone into the next aisle or two. So I go look, no sign of him. Cue then half an hour of me looking round entire supermarket without seeing him, feeling increasingly ill, angry, panicky and worried. At one point have to dash to toilet due to sickness. Eventually I get the customer services to call him on the tannoy.

Turns out he just decided that it'd be quicker to do the shopping on his own, saw me comforting the baby, thought I was taking too long and left me. Taking my bag, phone, the trolley. He knew I was ill. I'm also short sighted, didn't have my glasses and the place was massive and heaving.

I'm surprised that the whole thing freaked me out so much that when he heard the tannoy call and came got me, I ended up having a panic attack and bursting into tears, almost fainting.

He thinks he did nothing wrong. AIBU to be fed up with him? Surely you wouldn't walk off and leave anyone like that without saying, let alone your ill wife and baby?

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sixlostmonkeys · 24/12/2012 00:21

This is what I hate about this time of year - people going out shopping when they are ill and so passing it on to numerous other people. It's selfish.

ditziness · 24/12/2012 00:23

The kids are better. I wasn't , yes. I agree, should have stayed home. Everyone I know at the moment has hot some bug or other though, you kind of get to the point when you think that it's everywhere. And life goes on, there was stuff I needed. Point taken though. Fair enough.

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MrsKeithRichards · 24/12/2012 00:24

What's pillocky about thinking 'oh dw has her hands full I'll zoom round and get what we're here for so we can get sick children and wife home'?

AgentZigzagHasABigYuleLog · 24/12/2012 00:24

It's no fucking place for an adult if the truth be told worra.

Sky News had a piece live from a Morrisons (it's that slow a news day Grin) and it looked like Hell On Earth Shock

RachelHRD · 24/12/2012 00:26

YABVU to be going out to a packed supermarket two days before Christmas when you actively have a sickness bug. I'm sure the people who you have passed it on to who will be coming down with it on Christmas Day will be thrilled you made that decision.
Why on earth didn't you just send your husband? No wonder there is so much norovirus around at the moment - it's plain selfish to go out and about when you have it.
I hope you feel better soon but please please stick to the 48 hours at home after illness rule in the future.

MrsKeithRichards · 24/12/2012 00:26

The supermarket is not a family day out. Fact.

PartridgeInASpicyPearTree · 24/12/2012 00:26

He was a rude numpty to walk off without saying anything, but it was a rather extreme reaction, probably because you were feeling shite and shouldn't really have gone. So, YAbothBU.

dickiedavisthunderthighs · 24/12/2012 00:26

Why would anyone in their right mind with a sickness bug take that sickness bug into a heaving supermarket two days before Christmas? OP, it's bonkers.

LadyBeagleBaublesandBells · 24/12/2012 00:27

And what Worra and others said too.
Instead of dragging your sick children and yourself round the supermarket when it sounds that you've got a lovely, capable partner to do it for you, I mean why would you?
Oh, and I also agree with Holly, I hope you haven't given everybody in the supermarket your bug, just in time for Christmas.

F0xyLady · 24/12/2012 00:27

And TBH, as much as I love shopping before Xmas I would never do it with kids in tow. Not at this time of year.

I always do as much as I can online. And if I forget anything I either go on my own, or send DH on his own.

I wouldn't dream of taking my 5 year old round a busy supermarket before Xmas.

AgentZigzagHasABigYuleLog · 24/12/2012 00:27

He could have been MrsK, but then he didn't share that info with his DW so she could go and take her manky lurgy germs Grin. and shut her eyes in the car while he worked like a Trojan.

sixlostmonkeys · 24/12/2012 00:27

The main reason it is everywhere is because ill people go out because they think they need something.
Sorry to be harsh, but this really really annoys me.
I've just visited my elderly aunt today who is once again ill at xmas. She said she was in the shop the other day and someone was shopping, coughing spluttering etc... lo and behold my aunt now has the bug.... so, xmas alone and ill.

WorraLorraTurkey · 24/12/2012 00:27

Well everyone I know at the moment is trying to avoid catching the vomiting bug at the moment OP Hmm

Live goes on and there was stuff you needed.

You also actually quite enjoy the Christmas food shop, like cooking, enjoy choosing things

But what about everyone else?

Deciding to 'man up' and deciding to put your own pleasure before everyone elses are two completely different things.

ditziness · 24/12/2012 00:27

Yes it was morrisons. It was hell on earth. Given the decision again I would stay home.

I didn't even buy anything in the end. Don't have anything I wanted to cook. Ridiculous episode.

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MrsKeithRichards · 24/12/2012 00:29

I don't know anyone with a bug.

WorraLorraTurkey · 24/12/2012 00:30

AZZ it was Morrisons I was in this morning Xmas Grin

I was quite lucky in the end cos after 20 mins of queuing, they opened another till and I shot towards it like a stray dog to a horny bitch Grin

ditziness · 24/12/2012 00:31

Ok, fair enough, you're all right. I should've thought about not passing it on.

Now I feel even worse. Sorry!

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georgie22 · 24/12/2012 00:31

If I was ill and still vomiting I'm not sure I would really feel up to looking around the supermarket and choosing food to cook.

I know there are loads of colds etc. doing the rounds at the moment and there is no way you can quarantine yourself with a cold but I really don't think you should have been out in a busy supermarket if you had been vomiting.

StuntGirl · 24/12/2012 00:32

Your husband was still a twat for just doing one OP, frustrated or not!

MrsKeithRichards · 24/12/2012 00:33

You're right, totally ridiculous episode just draw a line under it, enjoy Christmas

ditziness · 24/12/2012 00:33

I was sick last night. Today I felt sick and had dodgy tummy. And sore throat, head. But ok with paracetamol to carry on.

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ditziness · 24/12/2012 00:35

:-(

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FridgeBenefits · 24/12/2012 00:37

I'm going to look like a wanker now when I face morrisons in the morning wiping the trolley with dettol wipes.
OP, YAVVVU to spread your germs. I hope no-one needlessly comes down with your lurgy and has a shite Christmas because of it Hmm

LadyBeagleBaublesandBells · 24/12/2012 00:38

Do you and you're Dh not have mobiles, Op?
Many is the time with my ex when we'd phone/text each other to say "I'm at the sausages/fruit and veg/booze aisle etc."
We always met eventually. Grin

AgentZigzagHasABigYuleLog · 24/12/2012 00:39

Aww, you weren't thinking right ditz, forgetting your glasses shows that.

Like MrsK says, time to forget what a prick he was and move on Smile

It's Christmas Eve! Smile Smile (technically speaking)

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