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to expect DH to see to my "bedroom needs" while I'm pregnant?

79 replies

HormoneHell · 23/12/2012 08:50

I'm pregnant with our third and this pregnancy my hormones have gone crazy. My libido is unrecognisable. I've gone from a once every ten 10 days kind of person to needing sex constantly. It's driving me crazy.

When I wake in the morning the only cure for my nausea is an orgasm but as I'm feeling sick at that point I can't move much so DH has kindly been starting the day with, er, oral favours. Then I find myself thinking of nothing but sex all day long. It's torture and on return from work, as soon as the kids are in bed, I jump DH for a long session of anything he pleases. I also need it to get to sleep later each night and to return to sleep after each pregnancy induced wee wake (once or twice a night).

So far DH has been utterly obliging but we are about to go to his parents for Christmas and he says there can be nothing while there. I'm actually in a panic and have been crying all morning. I feel utterly out of control. Like I have a physical illness he says he won't treat.

AIBU to ask to cut down how long we are away for or am I an hormonal lunatic who needs to deny herself? I fear the latter.

This is not a wind up it's really serious and totally alien to my normal life.

OP posts:
BreconBeBuggered · 23/12/2012 22:22

And take your electric toothbrush, in case of any further bathroom hormone surges.

nurseneedshelp · 23/12/2012 22:28

Boots do the little bullets for about 7 quid and they're amazing!

Moominsarescary · 23/12/2012 23:15

I'm so glad it's not me, I'm 32 weeks into a no sex pregnancy so crazy hormones would be a nightmare

HormoneHell · 24/12/2012 07:28

Is that no sex for medical reasons Moomin? I chose not to have sex throughout my first pregnancy. This time I think I'd spontaneously combust.

Just to prove DH has not been unfairly pressured I'd like to put on record that after 24 hours where I forced myself to be a paragon of virtue, DH jumped me. He clearly missed his new wife/life.

Now we are packing the car for our trip to the in laws. DH is still maintaining the no sex at his parents line and I never got a toy so wish me lots of luck.

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LovesBeingAtHomeForChristmas · 24/12/2012 07:50

Op I understand to a degree, I was very similar when pg the first time however was a girl. Dh wasn't as interested and I never had to do it at work

Moominsarescary · 24/12/2012 07:59

hormone yes I have a cervical stitch, good luck!

fuckwittery · 24/12/2012 08:44

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Bettyintheburbs · 24/12/2012 10:51

Good luck OP. My libido was like that too when I was pregant.

financialwizard · 24/12/2012 10:52

When pg with DS I was a raging nympho all the way through my pregnancy, with my dd not so much, and my libido also took longer to come back after having dd than DS.

Fakebook · 24/12/2012 10:53

Hmm cue everyone sharing their pregnancy sex stories....

HormoneHell · 24/12/2012 21:43

Good way to kill a thread Fakebook. Sorry to offend you.

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Zorra · 24/12/2012 22:09

Yep, I reckon it's a boy. I was the same when prgnant with DS, definite insight into a life with testosterone! It didn't wear off until after the birth, but then it definitely went out the window.

HormoneHell · 22/02/2013 22:56

Hi

I'm resurrecting this thread that I started several months ago. I'm now in my third trimester and still at the mercy if my rampant libido. In many ways its been a fabulous experience but as I get bigger and less comfortable it is harder to act on how I'm feeling. Those who experienced this issue in their pregnancies can I ask if it really last until delivery or whether my hormones will start to reflect my physical capabilities soon? I can't talk to anyone in RL about this which is hard as I normally share most things with my close friends.

TIA.

OP posts:
HairyHandedTrucker · 23/02/2013 00:21

going to have to make personal friends with the shower head I think

Oodsigma · 23/02/2013 08:18

My libido doesn't match what I'm physically capable of, very frustrating!

Ashoething · 23/02/2013 08:28
Hmm
determinedma · 23/02/2013 08:30

Electric toothbrush is the way to go

utopian99 · 23/02/2013 08:55

I have a fairly exuberant libido regardless of pregnancy, but found towards the end the trick was to lie sideways to support the bump with dh kneeling up. Sorry if far tmi so early in the morning! Also more non penetrative options if it's uncomfortable...

Unfortunately my libido wasn't pg-induced but the tiredness/stitches definitely worked as their own passion killer for the first few weeks!

QOD · 23/02/2013 08:57

I like that when I saw this thread title, it had 69 messages next to it

Spyrofan · 23/02/2013 09:06

I remember this thread....how did you manage Christmas with the IL?

Sorry no help!

ChaoticisasChaoticdoes · 23/02/2013 09:21

QOD Grin

LangenFlugelHappleHoff · 23/02/2013 09:27

QOD Ba ha ha ha Grin

Assassino · 23/02/2013 10:12

This was the best thread to read with a cup of tea on a Saturday morning. toasts you with tea But seriously whoever in this thread suggested a lelo vibe is on the money - all of the friends that I have who own one rant about them so much that I feel like my life is the lesser without one!!!

Catchingmockingbirds · 23/02/2013 10:18

Yanbu OP, my libido has quadrupled in the past few weeks and it's all I ever think about (and I'm definitely having a girl so the tesosterone theory is out the window!). I'm 26 weeks at the moment but I was like this with DS until the end too so you may have this for longer than you expected!

Youcanringmybell · 23/02/2013 11:43

Op
Make sure you gat a vibrator with a main adaptor...otherwise you will be bankrupt for buying batteries...

You could get one of those vibes that work with a remote control...that way no one will have to know Wink