6mo at Christmas meal Update

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For any of you who is interested.

Baby cried practically from the moment he arrived, until he fell asleep while the mother was holding him, therefore she could only eat with one hand.
Live music starts and its too loud for him, so hes grumpy and crying most of the night. He was obviously tired from the beginning, yawning and rubbing his eyes.
Mother finishes her dessert and leaves.

Had an ok night, but not the good night I was hoping for.

My opinion is still very much that it is not an appropriate place for a 6mo.

Agree. If you can't bear to be parted from your 6month old, stay at home with him.

I read your original thread, and I don't want to sound like I'm making a standard MN response for the sake of it, but your OP comes across as a bit 'I told you so'.

Could it have annoyed you more because you were looking for signs it wasn't as good as it could have been?

Did the mum have a good night regardless do you think?

i really hope no one else had the "i told you" face on during the meal and actually made them both feel welcome

Ah op, you are in the wrong for telling us you were right. I'd hide this now, before we rehash how it's perfectly normal to take all babies out late at night to busy restaurant but they will be v v v well behaved. (Only they won't be)

Merry Christmas!

X

People asked for updates on the original thread.

And I clearly stated for anyone who is interested.

Never had an I told you face on. I held the baby for a while, I got things from the pram so the mother wouldn't have to get up. I asked about her plans for Christmas.

As far I know she had a good time, but it seemed like she was never fully relaxed. Which is a shame.

I am very happy that I got to see my friend. She gave me a hug when she left and thanked me for the Christmas present I bought the baby.

InLoveWithDavidTennant everyone was made to feel welcome.

Just because I disagreed that it wasn't the right or appropriate place to bring a 6mo. I do not judge her decision to do so.

Good on you for updating ...

Thank god. Someone that updates.

Although tbh I didn't read the original thread. But I don't think its unreasonable to think where you went is not a gods place for a baby.

good not gods

I was looking for an update too.

What a shame for everyone.

This is what annoys me about MN.

People asked for updates on the original thread. The original thread is not accepting anymore comments.

People moan when they don't get updates, and then when you do an update they still moan.

I shouldn't have updated because I was right? ... but it would have been ok to update if I was wrong?

This place can be beyond ridiculous sometimes.

I remember the original thread, and loads of people ASKED for an update. So you get one, and people still moan?!
That old saying "can't please all of the people all of the time" appropriate for this thread!
The mum was selfish to take the baby out and definitely putting her wants before that of her baby.
Poor little thing will have been tired out, no wonder he fell asleep. Oh well, at least she got her night out, that's what matters

I appreciate the update. I even went looking for it .

Nor sure how you can report the situation went well if it didn't.

Yes my thoughts exactly.

I reported it as it happened. Perhaps from the mothers point of view, the fact that she manage to eat three course meant that it was a success for her.

I just didn't get that impression.

Also there was a big mix up with the food, so there was a further wait for at least 40 minutes, we had barely started desserts until gone 10.

And then to have a further 20 minutes drive home. No wonder the baby was moaning.

I appreciate the update.
I also think you were far more genrous to her than I would have been .
There are some new mothers that need to learn that life isn't 'all about them'. Not a popular view on MN, I know, but pretty normal view in RL.

What would you have done which wasn't as generous BackforGood?

Op its already been said. You can please all of the people all of the time.

I didn't read the thread and I even appricate you took time to update.

People who are annoyed that you have updated probably thought the baby would go unnoticed and are annoyed they were wrong.

Maybe brady

I dote on that little baby, he is a very cute and happy baby.

I do understand her predicament, but from watching how unsettled he was and tried and crying, it really wasn't appropriate for her to bring him.

If that meant that she would have to forfeit the night then she should have done.

Yay an update!! Thanks OP & sorry your night wasn't as good as it could have been.
As previously said, you can't please everyone all of the time.....

Agent - I doubt if I'd have been holdig and comforting someone else's baby, when I'd gone to the trouble of getting a babysitter for mine, and getting dressed up for a relaxing night out. To be honest, I'd have been really cross with anyone who thought it was reasonable to completely change the dynamics of the night out like that - it wasn't a mothers and babies gathering, but she thought it OK to change it to that.

I know, I know, I expect someone to come on and flame me for it

Did mother of 6mo drive or get a lift? Did you ask go home at the same time? (I may have stayed for a cheeky cocktail)

Not ask, all.

Yes the friend drove over and picked her up. Another friend took her home.

Definitely didn't leave at the same time, we stayed for a few more cocktails