Since having the DCs I've changed my mind and decided that actually I do want to get married to my DP. He's never been interested in marriage (MIL poisoned him from an early age but it was alright for her to remarry last year ) but agreed with my reasons for wanting to. So I asked if that meant we were getting married then? He got all huffy and said if he said yes to that question then that would ruin his chance of proposing to me! So I said ok and left it at that. Another time during an argument about it he shouted "fine we'll get married if that's what you want!", i replied i didn't want to if that was his proposal, but he told me it was my fault for pushing the issue! I'd like a nice proposal as I don't want to force him to marry me; it has to come from him. But I don't want to wait forever for it.
So now we're in this situation where I can't bring it up or I'll ruin it ( what??) but if I don't mention it will it ever happen? I first brought up the marriage thing about 18 months ago, and we last discussed it about a month ago, still no proposal! One reason he has given me before for this is he says wants to get me an engagement ring (even though I'm not bothered), but I don't see how that will happen for a long time because we're not exactly flush these days!
I have to add that I've said we don't need to get married as long as we can get something drawn up at the solicitors that will basically do a similar thing regarding the legal stuff; he agreed this was fair.
Who IBU here?