to think that, of all the personality flaws somebody may have, sourness is possibly the worst?

[MizK]

Today I have had enough! There are so many lovely, kind, wonderful people in my life that I am truly blessed. However there is one sour, woe-is-me miseryguts that I would truly love to shake at times.
EG Today, I made a lighthearted remark about my DD being a pain to somebody, grumpy overheard, and said cuttingly, 'glad you can laugh while you are slating your child, think of those parents in America who are burying their children today'.WTF?

Now, when people are bitter whilst being amusing, I can appreciate that. But I honestly can't stand people who seem to see bubble-bursting as their duty in life. Even on here, there are times when I'm enjoying reading a thread only for someone to make a horrible remark which totally spoils any lightness and humour there was before.
AIBU to wish that all those intent on spreading misery would remove themselves from polite society til they cheer the frig up? Obviously I don't mean that we should all go around permanently grinning inanely, but it really annoys me when I'm made to feel frivolous or silly for attempting to enjoy life :(

I am related to one of those.
My DC call her the Dementor

Some people have this personality. It is extremely wearing.

Some people who do this are Clinically Depressed. Also wearing, but treatable.

Oooh I really agree about seeing it on here. Someone posts something OBVIOUSLY light hearted and some misery comes along and gives them a virtual shit in an envelope.

I think sourness is particularly shit all round, but for me the worst flaw is being "open and honest I say it like it is innit I don't mess around me I tell you straight up if you're being a wanker I'll tell you to your face" IYSWIM

Have you tried "ooh, who sucked a lemon today then"?
said sarcastically.

I'm not keen on sour pusses.

Yes. The ' I say it like it is' sorts are most often thick and aggressive. I don't think I have ever met one who wasn't.

I think the inability to say sorry, and mean it is one of my least favourite personality flaws

yy to "I say it like it is" = "I am an arrogant unempathic dick"

i think you should just be grateful you've got fingers to type that post op, some people have to type with their noses...

i totally agree, i hate that just be thankful you aren't dead attitude, where do you stop? it's competitive misery.

Tell me about it StuffezLaBouche

I posted a couple of days ago because buying 'The Hobbit' and the checkout woman asking who I was buying it for, when I replied me, she said - you do know its hard to read right? Intentionally or accidentally implying that I looked a bit thick haha.

Found it hilarious. Posted about it. Included light hearted in the title.

And some killjoy had to come along and tell me 'get a sense of humour'

mood hoovers

YY absolutely agree.

I hate the "I call a spade a spade and I'll tell you what I think of you" brigade. It is not an excuse for rudeness. You can not like someone while still be being polite and civil.

Yup, forbidden just like that.

Oooh another kickable personality flaw is forced ditziness/revelling in being ignorant.

Try being married to someone called Mr. Grumpy. Was he always like this?

Maybe I made him this way...

oh god port you have reminded me of a corporate training session my work did, when we were all sick of being treated badly they did a session which could be summed up as 'just be fucking grateful you have a job and put up with shite and be fucking cheerful about it'. Apparently anyone not happy with being treated like shit was a 'mood hoover' and all that needed changing was their attitude. so it can be used as a stick to beat you with too ;)

Yes to the 'I'm just honest' types! Just bitch behind my back, its less painful,seriously!

Also I find sourness often goes hand in hand with ghoulishness eg reading harrowing details from the news aloud (eg baby p things that I deliberately avoid)and almost revelling in the awfulness.

I can be pretty sour I am clinically depressed, I hasten to add, and fairly confident I no longer go around thoughtlessly Dementing! I once saw an older woman in a car. This was years ago, and it was just a 20-second glimpse, but by god she stuck in my mind. She had the sourest face ever seen. She must have been sour all her life, for her wrinkles to have set in such an unequivocally mean-minded expression. Couldn't see the driver, but I bet you anything his face was set to 'dumb resignation'! Shudder.

YY to tell-it-like-it-is-ers. Are you listening, family members who are fond of saying "The truth hurts, doesn't it," with ill-disguised malice? And to people who can't apologise. I'm trying to give up working like a maniac to get something vaguely like an expression of regret out of them! A swift karate chop would be more satisfying.

My contribution: the professionally inferior. They love to assume everyone else's life is easier than theirs, that everyone else has a superiority complex, and to hate them for it. I think such people are literally delusional but there seems to be a lot of it about.

I should learn karate [evil grin]

Ohhh I love them this time of year, though. Even if I am feeling shit. If someone is being particularly miserable, a "And a very merry Christmas to you, my friend!" tends to scare the shit out of them

I used to work with an 'I'm straight forward, I just tell it Like it is' type who was actually one of the most two faced people I've ever met. She used to slag people off left, right and centre, but would always drop in 'I'm not being bitchy, I'd tell them to their face' as a get out clause, even though she never did.

I grew up with a Dementor. I concur with the OP

Having said that, the people I find most difficult are the ones who insist on being completely obviously falsely positive and saccharine at ALL TIMES, despite being completely obviously fucked off. (I lived with one of those for a year. It was a long year. SHe was also incredibly thick, which didn't help.)

They are the ones who tell you that you never get "given" (BY WHOM??) more problems than you can handle. That sort.

YES RedTinsel that is exactly like the person who inspired me to hate that trait so much. She was the cause of so much angst, back-stabbing, uncertainty, discord and bollocks. But the Head had no bollocks and she is still causing havoc!

"I tell it like it is" people quite often have some sort of personality disorder (I have observed from years of MNing )

God yes, I hate that. I'm hardly Ms Positive, but I don't think I'm bitter.

I also hate fake positive saccharine people. Bleh.

AND I fucking fucking FUCKING hate people who are all charm in one situation and a right bastard behind people's back. It sickens me.

I call them Energy vultures. Proliferate in my old job. It's much easier to naysay and find fault than it is to be positive and constructive.

My dad does this and it drives me absolutely bonkers. I'll say something, anything, and he'll put a dampener on it. He is very patronising at times and makes me feel like a naive little child, but then he can be so lovely and enjoyable company... for a while.

All of my BILs are dicks. Especially one who comments on my FB statuses with digs or negative comments. He's blocked now lol he really bugs me.