to think that, of all the personality flaws somebody may have, sourness is possibly the worst?

[MizK]

Today I have had enough! There are so many lovely, kind, wonderful people in my life that I am truly blessed. However there is one sour, woe-is-me miseryguts that I would truly love to shake at times.
EG Today, I made a lighthearted remark about my DD being a pain to somebody, grumpy overheard, and said cuttingly, 'glad you can laugh while you are slating your child, think of those parents in America who are burying their children today'.WTF?

Now, when people are bitter whilst being amusing, I can appreciate that. But I honestly can't stand people who seem to see bubble-bursting as their duty in life. Even on here, there are times when I'm enjoying reading a thread only for someone to make a horrible remark which totally spoils any lightness and humour there was before.
AIBU to wish that all those intent on spreading misery would remove themselves from polite society til they cheer the frig up? Obviously I don't mean that we should all go around permanently grinning inanely, but it really annoys me when I'm made to feel frivolous or silly for attempting to enjoy life :(

I don't know if this counts as sour but I can't stand the ones who

If they drop something its broken beyond repair before they have picked it up,

A trip over alway means a broken leg despite never ever ending up with one

A missed bus/ rain/ traffic jam means its the end of the bloody world

And everything no matter how run of the mill results in hours of bloody moaning and winging oh and nothing is ever there own fault its always somebody else.

They suck the life out of anybody and everybody they come into contact with and usually have bizarre temper tantrums when things don't go there way

Sockreturningpixie, unfortunately you have just described DS1. It is my life's mission to try to train him to be less negative as I don 't think other women not related by blood will put up with it.

Tonight, he wouldn't let me look for his missing school party ticket as it was definitely lost having fallen out of his " rubbish" wallet and I should trust him and not invade his privacy by looking for it. I found it after he had gone out, in his trouser pocket, sorry, just getting that off my chest.

dh is an energy vampire.sucks the life out of everything with his negativity. So depressing to be around

Wiggly

Perhaps just agree with him no matter what for a whole month. Don't look for things be really dramatic every time he trips/ drops something if you miss a bus real loud dramatic crying and hysteria

That should do it.

Urgh yes. I work with one.

Either I should 'try her life' if she can manage competitive misery, or otherwise remarks like in the OP.

My personal favourite was when she waltzed up to a group of us when we were having a bit of a lighthearted rant about internal beaurocracy & she came up as I happened to be speaking. She hadn't even heard what I was saying, and just deadpanned:

'Ah QoP, having a moan again? I've never met anyone with so many first world problems. You should try having 2 under 5 as well as working here.' because clearly that is not a first world problem

Total enery vulture.

love the phrase =- " competitive misery"

Ah that's interesting. My DF is a Dementor and my aunt (his sister) is Miss Falsely Saccharine. Two sides of the same coin perhaps?

They're arriving on Friday for Christmas, along with my mum, who is driven mad by both of them. So I'll be festive loins-a-girding to withstand his inability to ever say anything nice about my cooking EVER (or anyone else's for that matter), and for her patently false-sounding trilling......

My particular pet hate is people with whom you never know where you are. All over you one day, and blanking you the next. Manners were invented for days when you really CBA, so that you don't upset people,you fuckwits!

Fucking mood hoovers. They Hoover up all of the good mood in a room. Bastards.

I work with two of the most sourest, whingey people I've ever met and it sucks the life out of me sometimes.

They're not happy unless they're moaning, take three times as long to do their work then complain that they're snowed under. They whisper in corners and reject and offer of help that might ease their (already easy) day, lest they run out of things to whinge about.

One I have re-named Denise (a la Royale Family) as she's got that incessant way of saying everything drawn out and sing song. Grrrrr!

My mum's reaction when she first held PFB (first DGC) who was the picture of perfection at a few hours old?
"Oh, just look at him. Sooo lovely. Hard to imagine that one day he is going to be a smelly old man. And then he'll die."

for her.

And yes, she is now (finally!) receiving help for the depression I am sure she has had on and off for as long as I can remember.

OP, YANBU. Energy suckers. Joie de vivre eliminators.
Just imagine to have to live like that though...

I'm not sure I know anyone like that.

Also can't think of the worst personality trait....because then I start thinking of individual people and start weighing it up against their good traits and it all goes out of whack.....maybe just confidence to the point of being unkind. Like, they're surrounded by people so they don't have to make the effort of being kind anymore. Just shows them up for what they are really.

Manners were invented for days when you really CBA, so that you don't upset people,you fuckwits!

so true!

People are either radiators or drains.

The main personality trait I really find perplexing is rudeness. I have recently met one of the most unpleasant people I have ever come across.......just not friendly or polite at all. At first I thought they were shy but actually even shy people can say hello or smile when passing you in a tight corridor. I have given said person the benefit of the doubt (person is generally disliked and im trying to make my own mind up ) and try to be really friendly (but not ott) and helpful but absolutely nothing back. I spent ages finding a really funny and appropriate christmas card and didnt even get a thanks, infact never get a thanks at all.Can't understand people like that at all. Do some people really just not give a shit?

I don't know. A shit life sometimes makes you bitter. You have to feel sorry for those people. I can be quite bitter at times, it's not my fault.

Everlong,
That is tragedy affecting you though. I am so sorry you have experienced that. My sympathies.
Of course people can be made sad/negative/ sour by life circumstances
But I can vouch for some just being fucking miserable.

It actually makes their negativity even more irritating, that there's no justification. Some people just love it.

"A shit life sometimes makes you bitter" - yes, it can.
But you get pleasant people who had shit lives and you get joy suckers who have NOT.

DH and DS1 are DramaQueens: every bump a broken bone, every spill The End Of The World or at the very least the carpet.
DS2 is forever negative: nobody loves him, he is stupid and crap. I am really upset that he feels like this, but it's not down to a ship life. As of yet. But I can just see how this attitude can turn into a self-fulfilling prohpecy...

everlong . So sorry for your terrible loss. I don't know how bereaved parents keen going.
I think you comment about thinking before speaking/typing is v wise indeed.

keep going, apologies

everlong of course something so awful must make you bitter. V sorry for your loss.
Not aiming my post at people like you, I mean the fun sponges who get a kick out of killing somebody's mood.

The woman I posted about constantly moans and complains and takes pleasure in misfortune and tragedy and it just makes my skin crawl.

My own major personality flaw may well be intolerance I think!

I only see my DM once a year, but then it's a pretty solid 2 weeks. She starts off all fluffy and smiley but then the facade slips after about day 2 and she just goes BITTER. Everything she says is negative. She doesn't like ANYBODY anymore, has no friends and is really becoming a recluse. It is really sad. She can really suck the happiness out of a room when she is in one of her moods. She is probably clinically depressed to be fair.

Ironically, her late mother and my lovely Grandma, had a brutal life. Brought up in extreme poverty by fundamentalist Christians and basically treated like a slave until she left home and married a very difficult man- she was the loveliest, sunniest person you could ever meet. She brought joy to every room she entered. She had every reason to be bitter but she wasn't.

I think life circumstances just play a small part tbh, some people are just miserable and seem to enjoy their own misery. Sadly.

Well, apparently my 'relaxed' face is a real scowl - I think something to do with my visage and being vaguely short-sighted so often squinting/frowing when I am actually just wondering whether to have another cup of tea or not . I would never just a miserable looking face.

I think some of it is to do with the old 'Glass half full/half empty' thing.
My glass, in principal, is half-full. My poor mother's is usually half-empty.
AND she just loves it. Or at least that is how it comes acrosss....

judge a miserable face - I really MUST learn to always preview, for goodness sake