to think that, of all the personality flaws somebody may have, sourness is possibly the worst?

[MizK]

Today I have had enough! There are so many lovely, kind, wonderful people in my life that I am truly blessed. However there is one sour, woe-is-me miseryguts that I would truly love to shake at times.
EG Today, I made a lighthearted remark about my DD being a pain to somebody, grumpy overheard, and said cuttingly, 'glad you can laugh while you are slating your child, think of those parents in America who are burying their children today'.WTF?

Now, when people are bitter whilst being amusing, I can appreciate that. But I honestly can't stand people who seem to see bubble-bursting as their duty in life. Even on here, there are times when I'm enjoying reading a thread only for someone to make a horrible remark which totally spoils any lightness and humour there was before.
AIBU to wish that all those intent on spreading misery would remove themselves from polite society til they cheer the frig up? Obviously I don't mean that we should all go around permanently grinning inanely, but it really annoys me when I'm made to feel frivolous or silly for attempting to enjoy life :(

Oh gawd, yes, the rictus grin I produce when aspiring to look friendly and relaxed in a photo - deranged indeed . In fact, just like this ->

I think one of the people whose wound me up the most in my life was a woman I used to work with.

She was very good at her job, and obviously highly intelligent, and I actually really admired her at first (had only seen her give presentations), and then I saw the way she actually treated people!

Very sarcastic, superior attitude, think "You don't know that? Really? Thats just scary!" combined with sneering, and absolutely no attempt to actually help/educate the person.

Couldn't stand her after that!

Everlong. I am pretty jolly but my face in respose looks like a bulldog chewing a wasp. Ds1 once said 'it's a shame about your face'

Aww to the cross faces, pagwatch how sweet of your DS haha!
ifyoulike she sounds awful, I think its just bewildering to see certain people in action, almost find myself admiring their utter unwillingness to play nice.
Almost.
:)

I never judge when I see someone looking stern or sad. You never know what the story might be!

It's the near-bumptious joy suckers, the ones who so clearly take pleasure in cutting others down to size - and feel proud to do so.

'Oh yes, I tell it like it is. You have to take me as you find me!'

Thanks, I'll just leave you then, ta

I don't judge when I see someone looking sad - my face in repose is quite melancholy. It does make me more inclined to smile at them, which probably pisses them off - but it makes me happy if people smile back.

Can't bear the "I speak as I find" types or what I call the "pass-remarkables" - the "I'm not being funny, but you are completely socially inept, aren't you? You're just an awkward person, aren't you?" As if I'm going to bloody agree with them.

Ahem can I just add - I'm really selling myself on this thread - I'm extremely short-sighted and have very poor facial recognition. On the day I happily greet you by name, I'm wearing my glasses/contacts and you're wearing what you normally wear. If you either look different from usual or I can't see you, I won't know you say hello and you might well think I'm one of those hot-and-cold bad folks! Eek!

I won't know to say hello

My Evil StepMother-Inlaw is one of these. She's had a hard life though, so I try to be extra jolly when I see her...to counteract the toxic.

Oh, yes, I have been known to be obnoxiously cheerful to some sourpusses I've had repeated dealings with. It must annoy them no end!
I have actually burst out laughing at my mum when she made one of her woe-me announcements not that long ago - I must wind her up terribly .

garlic, you can not recognise me as long as I can squint past you. In my defence, my new glasses are on order...

Sriracha, I think that's the explanation for the Annoyingly Lovely Dementors mentioned here, like ladydepp's grandma and stubborn's aunt - frantic compensation!

I would at you Pacific, but I'm not sure if I'm supposed to know you!

Shame there is no [festice sourpuss emoticon] on here!

I like the 'Frantic Compensation' theory - where there is an action, there is a reaction

Whingers are my pet peeve. The ones who moan and moan, and you think 'Actually, I've got pretty similar stuff going in, plus x, y and z, but the only reason you don't know about it is that I don't bloody whinge about it constantly.' But you can't say anything, because that will make you just as bad, and a competitive mizzer to boot. So you just feel a bit irritated and buzzkilled, and then cross with yourself as well as them.

Oh, and boasters. The ones who shoehorn mentions of their expensive holidays/gifts/cars/home improvements etc into every Facebook status, for example. Again, I end up feeling annoyed with myself for letting it bother me.

I just want to be left to bimble along feeling happy, and not be prodded into confronting my own uncharitable thoughts and petty jealousies.

Oh yes BOF, I have a coursemate who ALWAYS has to have it worse than anyone. Her mentor HAS to be more shit than mine, her classes are SO much worse, her reasons for not getting a better mark on her essay just THAT much more trying than the rest of us. So fucking annoying after a bit.

Another vote for I tell it like it is because I am honest types and those that love to jump on grief bandwagons

Two things

1. My mum once said boys never asked me to dance as a teen because my face is "grumpy in repose" Thanks mum!

2. PacificDogwood - your story about your mum reminds me of when we were taking DS1 home from the hospital, going down in the lift and an elderly gent said "it's lovely now but it's all downhill from here"

I worked with a sourpuss. She could turn anything into a pity party. She also had a thing for pearl pink lipstick.

Once we were talking about licking the spoon after making a cake. She came out with 'I had a friend who did that, she died!'

I will never forget the time I came in after being in a minor car accident. She said 'You think your morning has been bad, there was a massive queue at Starbucks and I couldnt wait so I missed my morning treat'.

I have a colleague who is saccharine and sour all at once. A bit like those fizzy sweeties. But infinitely more annoying and less yummy. Also a complete and utter martyr. Ooooh, she does my box in!

My family does that very well, Opheliac. I was wondering if they're acting out both halves of a Frantic Compensation duo! You know, they hear themselves being sour and try to make up for it by being sweet ...

I don't like people who are ungrateful, never say thank you, feel entitled, don't recognise when someone has been kind. Very annoying.