To not know how to address the card for my married, gay cousin

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Is it "Mrs and Mrs xx" or "The xx's" or is either fine?

(this is for the envelope - the card is fine as first names)

It's not covered in Debretts.........

Why not "first name and first name xx"?

Did you genuinely look in Debretts?

Jane and Sarah X, if they have the same name? Or just Jane Y and Sarah X?

The x's I would be easiest though mrs and mrs is lovely and really no odder tham mr and dr etc

X & X Smith

(assuming the use the same surname)

if not.. then just send it to X & X without a surname if you arent sure..

Oh! No idea. Did they change to mrs do you know?

Or be informal and put first & first last name?

Why not just their full names? Ie Jane and Joan Xx or Jane x and Joan y if they haven't changed to one surname?

Just address it to your cousin?

I know that cards from my friends, addressed to Bike Surname, are for all of us, as it has all our names on the inside.

I'd just send it to the first names ie Joan and Emily, address.

do they have same surname?

They have changed to one surname (a totally new one by deed poll)

They've been married a while but only recently done the name change so this is thier first Christmas as the xxs

I thought Mrs and Mrs might be nice but didnt want them to think I was taking the piss

Then I thought I'd put the xxs but didnt want them to think I was ignoring the fact they are married

I might do "Jane" and "Janet" xx

I think Jane and Janet new surname is fine.

Thank you :)

I'm going with that

I was going to say first names but if they've both changed to a new surname I think I'd go with your the xxs idea, I like that.

Don't listen to me though, I have a card waiting to be posted addressed to "x and her lovely children"!

Lets say they are called Jane Smith and Ann Jones...
Envelope says J. Smith & A. Jones

If they are Jane Smith-Jones and Ann Smith-Jones
Envelope says J & A Smith-Jones

Easy :)

x post!!

Thanks Kitty

I just felt a bit wrong-footed as for everyone else I have put "Mr and Mrs xx" etc

You could just ask them what they would prefer - I would.

I would put initials and surname.

Ms. whatever and Ms thingy if they don't have the same surname,

or

Ms.P and Ms Q thigywhatsit, if they do have the same surname.

would be a good way of addressing until you have found out what title they go by.

buy them one of these each, then it will be easy next year

What others have said as I am clueless

Bit different but I once addressed a card to my newly engaged friend.

I addressed it to:

Julie Smith and Paul Heaton

Which was fine apart from the fact that her partner's name, although Paul, was not Heaton.

Paul Heaton is the lead singer of The Beautiful South and was the love of "Julie's" life for many a year (she was a massive BS fan). I always associate PH with "Julie" and had decided they were now an actual couple

I can imagine how much they appreciated my lack of knowledge (or seeming lack of interest) at their lives

There's a plural for Mr, so if they'd been guys they could have been Messrs. Phil and Godfrey Smith. Is there a Mss? Maybe we should invent one.

Excellent Brian! Did you get a card back the next year?!

• Apparently it's "Mesdames". You could've used something like "Mmes J. & S. Smith"?