To not know how to address the card for my married, gay cousin

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Is it "Mrs and Mrs xx" or "The xx's" or is either fine?

(this is for the envelope - the card is fine as first names)

It's not covered in Debretts.........

Oh Brian!

I agree Jane and Sarah Smith is perfect.

My ex-bosses are married and have kids, the kids have both surnames so I just send to the xxxx-xxxxfamily.

I'm a gay married and have a possibly.irrational hatred of Mrs. The Xs is lovely tho, acknowledges that they are a team who share one name.

Just my opinion, your cousin may not share it!

[firstname] & [firstname] [surname] seems a safe option to me. My married gay friends haven't changed their names so I just address cards to both of them.

Ooh I like Mmes [surname] too

Thanks Mama :)

I've gone with xx and xx XX

But I feel like there should be a collective word if there is one for men!

Bloody hell! Married heterosexual.couples just get "To Dave and Sandra, love Scheh and MrScheh"

This is so mumsnet.

That's on the inside Scheherezade

It's the envelope that had me chewing my pen

There is a plural of Mrs, it is Mistresses. Mrs Smith is short for 'Mistress Smith'
However, that might look rather odd in this day and age!
I like 'Mmes Smith' though, but it really means two lady relations, eg two sisters or cousins in the same house.
I used Mmes and Messrs all the time at work as there are still a good number of farms run by family members together, usually the older generation who never married (or left the farm in some cases).

No advice but Brian!!

We've had cards to Mrs & Mrs, to the NorthPoles and to Empress and Consort NorthPole. Any of those is fine with us.

BrianCoxIsAChristmas
bet your friend thought it was a joke- and hilarious too!

OP, I don't use Mrs unless I know the person prefers it. I always use MS

I wouldn't use Mrs as there's a good chance they don't use Mrs.

Have to say this was a fair few years ago and she does still send a card every year - thing is, I still can't remember their surname (I think it's a brain vacuum as I automatically think 'Heaton') so their cards, now they are married, are addressed to 'Julie and Paul' to be safe!

I like Mésdames X, myself. Two Mrses, that would be.

Oh Mesdames is nice

And Mistresses sounds rather sexy and old fashioned

I have posted it now

To xx and xx xxxxxxx

I know a couple with the same name. We just used to call them The Simons (not their real name).

Slightly off topic, but if I'm ever mistakenly addressed as "Mrs", I often answer to it (provided it's "Mrs Myname" and not "Mrs Dhsname"). I tell myself it's in the original sense of "Mistress" - an adult woman who manages her own household.

Bizarrely, my dh positively relishes being "Mr Myname" when he occasionally has to be my Plus One in a work capacity.

Oh so complicated these days. I'm a Mrs hater and have always chosen Ms, not that anyone takes a blind bit of notice. When I married, I chose to keep my own name, again people chose to assume I changed it or even guess that it was hyphenated.

I'm thinking a new rule of a 'We are now...' sort of card/announcement should be sent out after marriage/civil partnership to inform everyone of the couples new names/sticking with the old names/opting for Ms or Mrs.

It don't work though Fanny, that's the problem. DH made a hilarious little leaflet when we got married, with information about getting to the wedding, our new address, plus the fact that both of us were sticking with our own names, and it's really quite astonishing how many people (including married people with different names to their partners!) just totally ignored it..

I know what you could do.....

Send them a gaudy, obvious card, addressed to Mrs and Mrs... and inside sign it 'Love from Janet and Roy'

Then - if they bring it up in an annoyed way, you know that they don't prefer that title and you have got off scott free!

Plus added bonus of confusing them with the 'Janet and Roy card' scam...

Janet and Roy Inspiration

Oooooooooooooh panda that is GENUIS!!!