to give DC4 (aged 2) TWO bath/showers a day?

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He is usually drenched in the AM (even with a quick nappy change before I go to bed) and there is no way I could just wipe him over - he would stink all day so has a quick shower. He definitely needs a bath in the evenings as he poos and is generally quite disgusting so needs a good soak.

Anything less is skanky IMHO.

I did the same with the older DCs and then dropped the morning shower when they were dry at night although DD started showering in the AM as well as the PM when she started secondary school and I imagine the DSs will next year as well

According the SIL (who bathes her DCs perhaps 2-3 times a week - gross) it is ridiculous, too much work, too many wet towels and he must hate it (actually he loves feeling clean). Well how do you clean a nappy wearing toddler without putting them in the shower/bath? Who is BUR?

According TO SIL

sometimes it is quicker to put them in bath/ shower than try and give them a good wash so i don't think you ABU. Maybe SIL kids don't get as smelly!!

I personally think once a day is enough. But each to their own :)

Its way, way too much!

Up to you.
Less washing is better for dc's skin (or so my GP told me), so bear that in mind before you criticise your sil's ways. Not having a bath every day doesn't mean they aren't washed btw.

I would in this case. Can you try potty training?

It does sound excessive. 2 showers a day for your dd is too much IMO. I'm with your SIL.

I think you might be able to do a better job with wiping dc4 during nappy changes?

It's a personal choice.

I bath my children 2-3 times a week. They are not gross.

2 is too much and bad for the skin,if soaked from wet nappy then fair enough but i wouldnt bath twice a day every day

I often do the same, for cleanliness reasons, but also as it means they actually sit still in one place and it's relatively peaceful for a few minutes!

What business is it to your SIL how often your kids bathe? Unless they were being unhygienic?

Maybe she thinks it's 'gross' that he pisses on himself so much that he stinks of piss in the morning?

YABU 2-3 times a week is fine. Have you never heard of a cloth and hot, soapy water?

Potty training has been attempted twice so far (little bit early). We will reattempt after Xmas. He is wiped during nappy changes.

I only bath my DD 3-4 times a week as her skin gets very dry if I do it more often. She is still clean and has a wash the days she doesn't have a bath.
Do what works for you and ignore SIL, and leave her to be 'gross' if that's what works for her.

My dc have a bath or shower every other day - more than that dries their skin out - they are not gross! Wash your child as often as you see fit but YABU for criticising others for giving their dc fewer baths.

Too much washing is bad for their skin and dries it out. Surely a quick wash with a flannel would do?

DS is 3 and has 3 showers a week and certainly doesn't smell.

My dd had really bad eczema and I was advised once a week maximum for a bath when she was a baby but until she developed eczema she had a bedtime routine of bath bottle bed every night. Ds always had that routine to and then with him wetting the bed every night till he was four he needed a good scrub every morning to.

I never had really grim exploding nappys type of babies and they were both potty trained in the day before 2 to so never had levels of grimness and poo everywhere. I don't really see the difference between a shower or a wash down though.

YABU, that is way too much washing!

Do what works for you!

but we must be "gross" too as ds only has 3 baths a week. i don't even bath everyday. I don't have flies flying round my head. lol

YABU 2 showers a day is incredibly wasteful and unnecessary.

YABVU.

My 2 year old has a bath twice a week. He is not gross and does not smell bad - quite the opposite, he smells lovely, especially the back of his neck.

When I change his nappy I clean him - no poo = no smell.

My 2 youngest DS's have a bath every other day - tho obviously wash in between that too!! I dont think thats 'skanky'. They certainly don't smell. I don't bath my 14 week old DS every day either but alternate his baths with topping and tailing. Eldest DC had very bad eczema when younger and I got a ticking off from GP for needlessly bathing him daily. Whatever floats your boat tho - if you can be arsed to bathe him twice a day then go for it!!

there's no harm in being clean.

what does worry me is the way you talk about him. i'd get some help with that, see a counsellor. two baths won't hurt him but a mum who thinks negatively of him will do lasting harm.

Way too much. Far too harsh on his skin.

I bath my 19 month old twice a week (baths bring him out in hives) and he is absolutely not 'gross'. Are you 12?

The fact that your secondary school daughter feels the need to shower twice a day just shows that you are passing on your cleanliness obsession on to her.