To not know what to say?

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Dd7, sensitive, nicely 'young' for her age asked how you make a baby.

What do I say? She isn't at all worldly wise and she's a bit of a worrier.

I only want to give her the info she can handle but also don't want to lie.

IME, children take factual detail on board. They don't worry unless we worry. So don't worry

... sorry that was meant to say factual explanations, not factual details

I've got a book by Miriam Stoppard called something like : Questions Children ask. It covers all sorts of "tricky" subjects like bullying, death, divorce, sexuality, sex, and gives guidelines for answering questions at different ages.

I don't see why going down the special cuddle route is lying, this is exactly what me and dh did, unless your a wham, bam thankyou person!!!

Ds was ony 3 at the time, hence the special cuddle, when he's older (will be sometime this year) I will be saying that the special cuddle is man as women having sex as all what this entails in a understanding for his age.

I was raped!!! So special cuddle for me is more appropriate than just saying a man put his willy in mummy and squirted!!!

Ds knows that the people doing the special cuddle both have to want it, and if one doesn't its no longer a special cuddle.

I don't really see why even a sensitive child would be upset by biology- unless the adult portrays it as something shocking. My parents had to tell me about the digestive system after I cam home from infants in tears after being told if you swallow chewing gum it gets wrapped round your heart!

She is 7, just tell her the basic facts in a way in which you use age appropriate language. I thought you were going to say she was 4 or something!

Ok well we did the special cuddle thing but with a twist.

DD was IVF and i always wanted her to grow up knowing this, so that if fertility issues were prominent in her life... then she would know it was my fault. (BTW this wasnt something i'd thought about before she was Born!)

So Mummy and daddy have a special cuddle but it didnt work and we had to get a specials doctor to help us!