To have filmed my ds1s preschool nativity play even though

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We were expressly told no filming.

I did zoom in on just him ( as much as was possible ) and only filmed a few short clips, not the whole event.

I felt I would have really regretted not having captured the memory, and my son loves watching himself on film, and has already enjoyed watching the clips and singing along to the songs.

And I just don't see how a video of fully clothed children would be satisfying viewing for a peadophile. With this vein of thought surely we should start making our children wear burkas.

I am a proud mummy of 3 year old DC1 and there was no way I was leaving there without a photo! .... I didn't feel these reasons were sufficient for me not to have a record of my child's performance.

All of you that think your child is so special that you can disregard the safety of other children should be banned from school performances. I don't care how "sweet" the video is, from comments made on this thread it is perfectly obvious that people will put their videos/photographs on social media since it is clear that whatever the school asks, there are still enough stupid parents that think that sensible rules don't apply to them.

YA all U as well as being entirely selfish and self-obsessed.

That's awful photos and a good example of why schools planning for the worst is important.

As well as the should be obvious child protection issues, there is also the fact that watching the Nativity through a sea of video cameras and smart phones is shit. Put the electronics down people and live in the moment. You have this thing called a brain and it conveniently 'remembers' things for you.

I am a very very proud mum. Last year dd was in panto with an ex soap actor she has danced in an opera with a touring Russian company and sang in a choir with an X factor finalist.

None of which were able to be videoed.

Dressing room photos in costume were tsken& I have my memories.

Performances are meant to be seen properly not through a tiny video with umpteen others videoing getting in the way

Very very selfish.

Does anyone else actually have photos/film of themselves in school performances?

I've got masses of photos of myself as a child, as well as cinefilm, now on DVD. I don't have one single picture of me in any of the school performances I remember being in before sixthform, which would strongly suggest that photography wasn't allowed back then either.

I have backstage photos of me in amdram but not school performances.

Who says OP is going to post it on YouTube and Facebook?? It is a personal recording to be shown in the privacy of your own home for your own memories. Not everything needs to be shared online.

YABU. There are children at my school who are at a very real risk of being abducted and taken abroad. We have photos of people who can/can't collect them, passwords and many other measures to safeguard them. It is children like these who need protecting. I'd be completely against the school saying they couldn't take part so that parents can film their own children.

Yabu why should you be able to break the rules and have these memories preserved on film whilst other more rule abiding parents miss out!! Things like this piss me off royally!! Great example to set your Dcs OP.

photosandvideos - Tonight there may well be a child at direct risk because of your actions No there wont. Not if the OP hasn't uploaded it to the internet.

There is absolutely NO risk to any other child what-so-ever with what the OP has done. She has already said she wont upload it to the internet.

Sorry I agree with Sorry for exactly the same reason - my adoptive DCs safety is tantamount to me. I know OP has said that the video won't go on any social networking sites but it could be shown to neighbours, work colleagues etc etc and it just takes one person to 'think' they recognise a child .......

Sorry OP don't mean to be really judgey but this is something adoptive parents have to be aware of at all times

Exactly Jack - 3 degrees of separation and all that.

I think the problem is some schools using it as an opportunity to flog you a DVD and schools doing it for child protection.

MY DS's school sent a photo out of him in the school newsletter (I had ticked that it was not ok to take photos of him for use in school brochures and literature) for all to see, children dropped copies in the road on the way home. I asked for a colour copy to keep (He was holding a fucking falcon!) and was told no due to child protection. I kicked up and got a copy for my own. Everyone else had one so I wanted a nice copy.

Situations like this, where the School shows no common sense give parents a skewed sense of why certain rules are in place and who they are protecting.

oh give the poor Op a break
if people don't ask, how will they learn?

Manic there are always understudies for the lead parts so one would play the lead in the school performance, and the other in the public performance.

Which if I remember rightly, they do anyway to give as many kids as they can a fair go.

DD and I were once in a very vulnerable situation. I used to see a lot of nursery / school play videos and DVDs in charity shops and was always made to feel like a nutter by the staff whenever I raised a concern. I took to quietly buying and binning them instead.

I've just realised they thought I was a "peedo-on-every-street-corner" merchant

Thanks for answering WorraLorra I like the idea of sharing parts like that -a LOT of extra rehearsal work though!

kungfupanda Yes, I have some videos and photos. I have the videos of my nursery school nativity (1987), several dance shows (1986-2001) and 2 different school plays (about 1995 and 1998 I think). So it did used to be allowed in at least some schools etc

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What's to learn? She was asked told not to and did it anyway.

And I'm pretty sure she'll do it again. As with the others that think it's their god-given right to what they want as far as their precious DCs are concerned.

Lots of responces - Apologies if this has been said already. If the school said no photos/videos but then are willing to sell the video to people, surely this negates any child protection worries.

I dont think the OP is being unreasonable and Im glad there are people with the guts to stand up to and break stupid rules. If there are child protection issues on hand then without wanting to sound too heartless - that shouldnt be any concern to the OP.

I hope when my kid gets older I will be able to video/picture these moments. I dont see much difference between this kind of event and other events such as weddings etc. Also, Id have no qualms about putting them on the internet.

My dd's suffered serious sexual abuse by a family member which their father discovered and covered up to save his family's 'good name'.

He now has no access to either of them, but I'm pretty bloody certain that if he found out where I had moved us to he'd be here like a shot as he lest feel he I'd any wrong.

Selfish people like you OP put my children's safety in jeapordy, I hope you're proud.

If it was to protect the schools rights to sell the DVD then that should have been raised in the proper channels, not sneaking around in an underhand manner which makes YOU look suspicious because if I'd caught you filming i'd have knocked your block off.

That should read, 'he doesn't feel he has done anything wrong'.

Facebook is the work of the devil. Fact.

I have nothing else to say...

bunchamunchy - just because you say its a fact doesnt make it so!

Shame you think that about Facebook, some would say this about MN, I dont believe either is the case. Both are actually excellent ways to communicate with other people.