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To think that my reprobate cousin shouldn't be having a baby?

318 replies

BaublesAndCuntingCarolSingers · 06/12/2012 10:27

My cousin (I don't have a lot to do with her tbh because she is a chavdoes my head in) has just announced on Facebook that she and her "hubz" (boyfriend) are having a baby. She is not even 8 weeks pregnant Hmm

My reasons for this are:

  1. A few weeks ago she was doing FB statuses berating "the hubz" for hitting on other gyals and doing those wanky "Y wud u go lukin 4 burggers when u got stake at home???" statuses. She is a child in a childish relationship.
  1. About an hour after announcing her news on FB she updated her status saying "2 all de haterz out dere imma gonna be a GOOD MOM stop PMing me ur hate not intrested BYE"
  1. Neither of them work.
  1. She is immature. For example, at a relative's funeral a few weeks back, she sat texting through the whole thing. It was painful to watch.
  1. Apparently, according to her Vicki Pollard mates who've been writing business all over her FB wall, my cousin has being trying to conceive for TWO YEARS! WTAF?! Why would you be trying THAT hard to conceive when you live in a flat, neither of you have a job and your boyfriend sounds like a penis? Why?
  1. Her twin sister announced the pregnancy on HER FB before her sister had even done it. My head is spinning with confusion. I wonder how I share genes with these people.
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SantaIAmSoFuckingRock · 06/12/2012 11:55

and you say your cousin is immature?

BaublesAndCuntingCarolSingers · 06/12/2012 11:55

Yep.

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FanjoTimeMammariesAndWine · 06/12/2012 11:55

You're so immature Bupps

BaublesAndCuntingCarolSingers · 06/12/2012 11:56
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Cortana · 06/12/2012 11:57

Arf @ "your face".

gail734 · 06/12/2012 11:57

flameproof pyjamas warming on the radiator. I secretly judge anyone who announces a pregnancy before 12 weeks. I did not tell my HUSBAND (he can't keep a secret). Getting so excited that you can't keep your mouth shut smacks of intense immaturity to me. If I were the OP, I would just defriend the cousin.

BaublesAndCuntingCarolSingers · 06/12/2012 11:58

Don't be immature, Cortana.

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FanjoTimeMammariesAndWine · 06/12/2012 11:58

I am now LOLing at my own South Park voice saying "you're so immature"..now THAT is the pinnacle of immaturity

FanjoTimeMammariesAndWine · 06/12/2012 11:59

"If I were the OP, I would just defriend the cousin"

or she could support her a bit and try to give her the benefit of her maturity (although i forgot she is "so immature)

BaublesAndCuntingCarolSingers · 06/12/2012 11:59

I defriended her before and she added me again and I felt too guilty to hit decline Blush

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BaublesAndCuntingCarolSingers · 06/12/2012 12:00

Pack it in now, Fanjo. You're so immature and CHILDISH. Grow up.

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icclebabyjesusheave · 06/12/2012 12:01

Ignr haterz Bups.

She sounds a delight. Also sounds like a very immature cousin of mine who got pg and changed her name on FB for a good 8 months to NameLuvzherbubzName. The bubz she luvz is now with foster parents as her crack dealing Hubz is in prison and she was incapable of not going out on the piss or putting her Bubz's needs first.

There are some brilliant young parents out there who are excellent mums and dads. Sadly there are also some complete fuckwitzzz who shouldn't be allowed to have children.

SeasonallySnowyPeasant · 06/12/2012 12:01

You should stay in her good book OP, she could be queen mother some day Wink

Oh and YANBU but it's a bit late now. Send them a really nice congratulations card and the Rough Guide to Babies.

TheCortanaThatStoleChristmas · 06/12/2012 12:02

Ner ner ner ner ner.

EasilyBored · 06/12/2012 12:03

Sounds like my husband's cousin, who writes on FB just like that. Except in a Scottish accent. It makes my eyes hurt.

I'm sure there is a chance she will turn into a wonderful, loving, involved, stable mother. It does happen, of course. But I wouldn't bet my house on it.

FanjoTimeMammariesAndWine · 06/12/2012 12:04

[moons]

NirvanaSmellsLikeTeenMother · 06/12/2012 12:04

Not read the whole thread, will do soon!

Just wanted to share my opinion.
Its people lime this that really loss me off because they are the ones who give young mothers like me a bad name, they fit perfectly into the Vicky pollard stereotype and that's why so many people tar us all with the same brush.
I agree that she shouldn't be having a baby in these circumstances and shouldn't have actively been trying to get pregnant since the age of 18 (sweet Jesus!)
Im 18 and got pregnant due to my contraception failing and hate it when people judge me as being a Vicky pollard mother, I am not a chav nor do i sit on my arse all day expecting the state to fund my children. Admittedly at the moment, i do rely on benifits for me and my daughter to live but i study four days a week and am looking for a part,-time job. This is not a permanent soloution for me, but so many people think it is!

I get judged because of people like tour cousin and its bloody annoying!

NirvanaSmellsLikeTeenMother · 06/12/2012 12:06

Ffs bloody phone! LIKE THIS and PISS ME OFF

Frontpaw · 06/12/2012 12:07

Is this a joke thread? Just so I know before I add my tuppencde worth.

I don't understand textspeak. I only speak English. Can someone please transate for me?

BaublesAndCuntingCarolSingers · 06/12/2012 12:09

Nirvana, age isn't really the issue. I know 30 year olds that act like 12 year olds and 18 year olds that are wiser than I will probably ever be. I'dbe saying this if she was 30. She really isn't equipped to have a baby, emotionally or financially.

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TheCortanaThatStoleChristmas · 06/12/2012 12:09

Thanks Nirvana. Been there. It's hard at times with the judgy-pants making assumptions. Good luck with your studies and your job hunting. There are positives in the future though, DS is up to my shoulder now and it's hilarious when people find out I'm his Mother, they assume I look good for my age rather than being a teen-parent. Someone thought I was his big sister the other day

TantrumsAndBalloons · 06/12/2012 12:13

I get that with dd stealth boast

ooh are you sisters??

I love it

HoHoHokeyCokeyPigInAPokey · 06/12/2012 12:17

Op are we related?!

I have several cousins like this who i try my best to avoid at all costs i see very rarely.

They all had children when they were teenagers. None of them work, none of their partners work, the ones that have them, they survive on benefits in council flats and live on the same estate.

I cannot decipher what they say on FB as they can't spell as they never really went to school.

Some of them are good mums but some are awful whose daughters will grow up to repeat the cycle.

It makes me unbelievably judgey and glad i don't live near them.

SeasonallySnowyPeasant · 06/12/2012 12:17

Nirvana I was 22 when DS was born. I wanted to walk around with a big sign on my back letting everyone know that I was on maternity leave from a good job, have a mortgage and yes I know who 'da baby daddy' is because I'm married to him :o

BaublesAndCuntingCarolSingers · 06/12/2012 12:21

LOL at "da babby daddy"

If you don't know who da babby daddy is, <a class="break-all" href="http://www.google.co.uk/imgres?um=1&hl=en&sa=N&tbo=d&biw=1366&bih=620&tbm=isch&tbnid=G9_VqQaCuOhxHM:&imgrefurl=en.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:Jeremy_Kyle.jpg&docid=lahL92YZzLR18M&imgurl=upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/2/20/Jeremy_Kyle.jpg&w=460&h=300&ei=mo3AUOaBMYbm4QTI04HQBg&zoom=1&iact=rc&dur=228&sig=108139748324866721186&page=1&tbnh=131&tbnw=195&start=0&ndsp=21&ved=1t:429,r:10,s:0,i:183&tx=107&ty=87" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">someone is on hand to help

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