To think that my reprobate cousin shouldn't be having a baby?

[BaublesAndCuntingCarolSingers]

My cousin (I don't have a lot to do with her tbh because she is a chavdoes my head in) has just announced on Facebook that she and her "hubz" (boyfriend) are having a baby. She is not even 8 weeks pregnant

My reasons for this are:

1. A few weeks ago she was doing FB statuses berating "the hubz" for hitting on other gyals and doing those wanky "Y wud u go lukin 4 burggers when u got stake at home???" statuses. She is a child in a childish relationship.
   

1. About an hour after announcing her news on FB she updated her status saying "2 all de haterz out dere imma gonna be a GOOD MOM stop PMing me ur hate not intrested BYE"
   

1. Neither of them work.
   

1. She is immature. For example, at a relative's funeral a few weeks back, she sat texting through the whole thing. It was painful to watch.
   

1. Apparently, according to her Vicki Pollard mates who've been writing business all over her FB wall, my cousin has being trying to conceive for TWO YEARS! WTAF?! Why would you be trying THAT hard to conceive when you live in a flat, neither of you have a job and your boyfriend sounds like a penis? Why?
   

1. Her twin sister announced the pregnancy on HER FB before her sister had even done it. My head is spinning with confusion. I wonder how I share genes with these people.
   

[SantaIAmSoFuckingRock]

nope i'm happy to say i am not related to OP.

[ErikNorseman]

Some immature silly teenagers who have babies mature overnight to become good parents. Most don't. If you are a selfish, silly person with no sense of responsibility then having a baby won't change your fundamental personality. Time and life experiences might, but it's not fair for a child to be the thing that teaches those lessons. While the parent is growing up the child is missing out.
YANBU at all.

[BaublesAndCuntingCarolSingers]

What is preggers and peng please?

[EverlongLovesHerChristmasRobin]

I'm confused.

Santa so you are saying that this young girl is ok? Her situation is ok? Her attitude is ok? Or not.

[ErikNorseman]

It means she will continue to be sexy although she is impregnated. Nice.

[BaublesAndCuntingCarolSingers]

LOL oh my christ. Sometimes I am glad I am not a youngster of today.

[MrsGeologist]

Those saying that she might mature could be right, but it is not the babies responsibility to force the mother to behave like an adult.

[TuftyFinch]

peng?

[SantaIAmSoFuckingRock]

her situation is her situation. it doesn't make her a bad parent when the time comes. there are many different types of people all over the country raising children and doing a great job at it despite what people who only pick the bad points of their fb wall think they know about them. i say let her have the child and raise it before you start judging whether she's any good at it. judging on something like announcing the pregnancy before you think she should is just a bit, well i dont know what it is, desperate for something to judge about maybe?

[TuftyFinch]

Goodness gracious.

[EverlongLovesHerChristmasRobin]

But it wasn't just about announcing her pregnancy early.

There were quite a few other valid reasons why the OP was a bit dismayed if you read the first post again.

[OutragedAtThePriceOfFreddos]

Of course her situation makes her a bad parent!

Not being able to provide for the child you have just conceived doesn't exactly say good parent, does it?

[BaublesAndCuntingCarolSingers]

I hope she will grow up and be a great mum and prove me wrong. Honestly, I do.

DH's nephew and his girlfriend had a baby (he was 19 and she was 18) ayear and a half ago. It has not ended well. Don't want to say too much but he i now a single dad to their DD and she has fucked off and left him with the baby, because "she wasn't ready to give up her life" Fucking cow. Guess what. She is now shacked up with someone else and PREGNANT AGAIN! Whhhhhhyyyyy? You can get free jonnies, girls and boys.

[BunnyLebowski]

YANBU Bups

I got the flaming of my life on here for expressing similar sentiments about DP's 16 yr old half sister being pregnant a few years ago.

I was wrong. She's now 18.

Has 2 babies by 2 different boys. One is in jail, the other is a drug dealer who owns a dangerous dog that is allowed around the children unsupervised.

She has no job. She will hand the children over to any vague acquaintance who offers to babysit so that she can go out on the piss. Even overnight.

MIL did every night feed because she was too lazy to get up with her own baby.

She doesn't play with them, parks them in front of the telly, strapped into their buggies.

2.5 year old can't speak properly as she gets a dummy shoved in her mouth 24/7.

Yeah, I was so wrong

[BaublesAndCuntingCarolSingers]

Those poor babies, Bunny :(

[TantrumsAndBalloons]

preggers and peng- pregnant but still sexy

UGH UGH UGH UGH

Cant believe I just typed that

[EverlongLovesHerChristmasRobin]

Oh is that you bups

[EverlongLovesHerChristmasRobin]

How does peng mean sexy?

[TantrumsAndBalloons]

I dont know

Peng, butters, skeen, brap, I dont know what they mean, I am too old

I have to get ds1 to translate

[BaublesAndCuntingCarolSingers]

It is me Bups, yes.

I LOVE preggers and peng. I wanna be preggers now so I can write that on my FB.

[Cortana]

In your cousins defense:

I knew a girl at school. 4 children with different fathers, in quick succession. Some of the fathers are in prison now. She was very young when she had her first. She writes like your cousin (haterz n da lyk), she has never worked a day in her life, and used to spend her time drinking, fighting and taking drugs, on paper she looked like a useless waste of space.

She has raised 4 wonderful children, they are well mannered and well dressed (clean and tidy rather than designer). They all do well at school, the Mother may not be able to do basic maths but she goes to every parents evening and makes sure all homework is done on time. The wall of her living room is covered in pictures of her children, and their merit and attendance certificates. The children eat a good diet and she goes to a lot of effort to cook wholesome healthy meals on the small budget that the benefits give.

YANBU to be sad at the idea she may not cope well. But YABU not to give her a chance.

[SantaIAmSoFuckingRock]

"I hope she will grow up and be a great mum and prove me wrong. Honestly, I do."

but then what will you bitch about on MN?

[FanjoTimeMammariesAndWine]

People who just want an argument and don't get what she is saying maybe?

[BaublesAndCuntingCarolSingers]

Your face.

[EverlongLovesHerChristmasRobin]

Oh there's loads more to bitch about.
Loads.