To think that my reprobate cousin shouldn't be having a baby?

[BaublesAndCuntingCarolSingers]

My cousin (I don't have a lot to do with her tbh because she is a chavdoes my head in) has just announced on Facebook that she and her "hubz" (boyfriend) are having a baby. She is not even 8 weeks pregnant

My reasons for this are:

1. A few weeks ago she was doing FB statuses berating "the hubz" for hitting on other gyals and doing those wanky "Y wud u go lukin 4 burggers when u got stake at home???" statuses. She is a child in a childish relationship.

1. About an hour after announcing her news on FB she updated her status saying "2 all de haterz out dere imma gonna be a GOOD MOM stop PMing me ur hate not intrested BYE"

1. Neither of them work.

1. She is immature. For example, at a relative's funeral a few weeks back, she sat texting through the whole thing. It was painful to watch.

1. Apparently, according to her Vicki Pollard mates who've been writing business all over her FB wall, my cousin has being trying to conceive for TWO YEARS! WTAF?! Why would you be trying THAT hard to conceive when you live in a flat, neither of you have a job and your boyfriend sounds like a penis? Why?

1. Her twin sister announced the pregnancy on HER FB before her sister had even done it. My head is spinning with confusion. I wonder how I share genes with these people.

Of course she shouldn't be having a baby. She can't afford to look after it for a start.

Magimedi, the phrase that springs to mind when I read your post is

RTFT

I haven't even rtft, Baubles (well, only as far as the 'nice hair' bit, which made me chuckle), but am sure you have been flamed.

Of course YAtotallyU, but it's perfectly R to have a bit of a vent.

I'm just homing in on this: 'I wonder how I share genes with these people.' Yeah, I get this feeling too. Some of my extended family (there are bloody millions of them) are total nutters too.

Are you going to volunteer to be godmother?

Oh Op, you are usually a sensible and nice poster that is a lie but this thread is ill-judged

Can't believe I missed this.

If if wasn't by you, dearest Bupsy-Mae, I'd think it disingenuous.

Fanjo
What an excellent xpost.
(Have rtft now. The cockle-warming stories are making me go very ahhh.)

Hully, I am going to twat you one mate.

Well I should hope so too, princessF

Reading the OP only - I don't know.

But then I'm 39, single (wasn't, clearly, when I conceived) and don't use FB or talk in text language, and I think I shouldn't be having a baby.

It depends on more than her maturity. Which may well come with time.

All these people saying "her bubz, her life" myob, that's fine if she is adult, sensible and capable of looking after it, but she clearly isn't.

Who will pick up les pieces?

The taxpayer

"Who will pick up les pieces?"

Jeremy Kyle and Graham.

Also (getting cross now), it's stupid to say "her bubz, her life, stay away." That sort of attitude leaves space for children to suffer, we are all responsibnle for the children of the world and each other.

It takes a village to raise a child, not some po faced mares walking away smug in their own virtue.

I think people underestimate how hard being a mum is. And overestimate how much they are entitled to. Sadly when you are immature you won't be told! Life is so much easier - as you get older and have more life experience you are more synical and cautious.

Yes, Id love more kids - cant afford it! We get no benefits, pay tax, pay for every bleedin thing... But I certainly dont envy a teenage mum hoping for a council flat and benefits. Its her choice and we can only try to support families like this - its when they just can't cope that we have problems (neglect, abuse, even malnutrition).

Arf at jezza and graham picking up the pieces.

so your cousin and her partner have been trying for a baby for 2 years and when it finally happens all she is getting is hate and derision from her family and friends.Poor woman
Having a baby changes people, makes them ghrow up and develop responsibility.
she was texting at a funeral, but your comment 'it was painful to watch' means you were little better, sitting gawping at her!

Bloody hell, I find being a parent hard enough and we have money and a stable relationship. How much harder will it be for her with a wankaaaaaaah baby daddy and no moolah?

I think it's a bit of a myth that teenage mums get council flats. Maybe they did in days of yore, but I think these days they just get a b&b or summat.

('days of yore' seems to go nicely with 'reprobate', btw. Just proving that I have actually rtft and noticed that someone earlier asked Baubles if she knew what 'reprobate' meant)

Yes, she has been trying for a baby for two years despite having no money, no solid foundations, having lived no life.I think she needs taking by the shoulders and having some sense shook into her.

I don't need to sit gawping to know when something is happening. Are you familiar with peripheral vision?

Oh she is asking on FB how to get a council flat.

You're not going to get one, love. Just so you know.

EURGH at Jezza and Sinister Graham being the last chance saloon keepers.

Thank you for the Alex Reid link. I am still boggling.

I think that we all know too much about Alex Reid. He obviously thinks that we don't.

Idea for Alex Reid's next telly show: "Alex Reid and The Clap Clinic" Alex Reid and other never-weres visit a London STI clinic. Will Darren Day's gonorrhea test come back clear? Dean Gaffney has a nervous wait to find out if the chlamydia he contracted in his early '90s heyday has made a return. Narrated by Dane Bowers

To be fair, I have a cousin who got pregnant aged 18; the father was someone she'd known only for about 5 minutes (she met him while on holiday in his country). However, over 30 years later they are still together, parents of 4 and grandparents of 3; all of them have jobs (well, apart from the grandchildren of course). So I second those who say it can be done...

But not everyone's life pans out the same way, so I can see why you're concerned.

signed,
fence sitter extraordinaire

I would watch.

I would watch and then watch again on ITV4+1

When you are still a child, and starring in your own drama, and then you have a child, it doesn't tend to go well because you have the child as a reflection of yourself, whereas of course when one brings forth new life, one has to put its needs first.

When that sweet baby with its pink headband grows up a bit and becomes a person in its own right, it tends to go really really not well.

(Speaking as someone who worked with the debris)