To think that my reprobate cousin shouldn't be having a baby?

[BaublesAndCuntingCarolSingers]

My cousin (I don't have a lot to do with her tbh because she is a chavdoes my head in) has just announced on Facebook that she and her "hubz" (boyfriend) are having a baby. She is not even 8 weeks pregnant

My reasons for this are:

1. A few weeks ago she was doing FB statuses berating "the hubz" for hitting on other gyals and doing those wanky "Y wud u go lukin 4 burggers when u got stake at home???" statuses. She is a child in a childish relationship.

1. About an hour after announcing her news on FB she updated her status saying "2 all de haterz out dere imma gonna be a GOOD MOM stop PMing me ur hate not intrested BYE"

1. Neither of them work.

1. She is immature. For example, at a relative's funeral a few weeks back, she sat texting through the whole thing. It was painful to watch.

1. Apparently, according to her Vicki Pollard mates who've been writing business all over her FB wall, my cousin has being trying to conceive for TWO YEARS! WTAF?! Why would you be trying THAT hard to conceive when you live in a flat, neither of you have a job and your boyfriend sounds like a penis? Why?

1. Her twin sister announced the pregnancy on HER FB before her sister had even done it. My head is spinning with confusion. I wonder how I share genes with these people.

I have no problem with young girls having a baby. None.
I've got a young friend who's 21. She is a cracking mother. Her little girl is a credit to her.

I don't care about spelling either

It's the bad ass attitude that's the problem. The taking, the constant hand out expectation, lots of things. Gah.

Just wondering, especially in the light of the Tysonsmummy thread...

supposing Bups' cuzzie started feeling out of her depth, couldn't see her mum or sister being much use and asked MN for advice. How far do people think she'd get?

15 years ago I was a heavily pregnant teenager. Thanks to XP's idiocy, and my lack of confidence (should have kicked the wanker to the curb) I was also on bail awaiting charges. My housing situation was insecure. I had a job when I fell pregnant, but my morning (noon and night) sickness cost me my job.

The people around me were very stressed by my announcement. Barely a congratulations came my way.

Now I have a wonderful teenager. Unlike me at his age, he has never smoked, been raucously drunk, tried drugs, had sex, had a social worker.
He is beautiful, articulate, and just so wonderfully good and lovely.

Sadly XP remains a shit bastard. He won't support DS in any way shape or form
Thankfully, I'm different. I have secure housing, a good job, I'm educated, and I would lay down and die for my boy. I back him all the way, he knows he is loved and supported.

Yes, it would have been better with a secure relationship, decent housing and a good job. Especially the relationship. But there was no way I could have gotten rid of him, I loved and needed him from the moment I knew he was there, and he absolutely makes the world a better place.

I'm glad the thread took a light hearted direction, but I thought us former reprobates who are now raising wonderful children deserve a mention

But do you really think bups' cuz would be arsed with a place like this?

When she has FB to go at? I can't personally.

Not all young girls with a baby fail. With a good support network, good relationships with their family, an ability to listen to advice many make good mums. I've seen it first hand.

But many do fail their kids. Just as they have themselves been failed in many respects.

Firstly, there is nothing wrong with living in a flat, and secondly its none of your business

Thanks usual :)

Everlong I didn't have a good support network at all, my family was in an awful mess, and I have always been terrible at taking advice!

What I did have was a hunger to learn about my condition, and was completely driven by instinct. I sat for hours in the library reading up on pregnancy, fought long and hard against XP to make the right changes.
I let my instincts take over, and was an adoring and attentive mum. My DS was breastfed, he was never out of my sight. I just did what felt right and would not be swayed from following my instincts.

When I fell pregnant I couldn't cook, as I'd always worked in catering and had always been fed at work. I had a steep learning curve!

DS has always been clean, however due to his age this may no longer be the case He has always been well dressed, although I don't think he has ever worn anything designer! He has always had fitted shoes.

Ah I might go and horrify him with a hug

you sound a lovely mum shabba

"Firstly, there is nothing wrong with living in a flat"

Yes there is, where does one put one's trampoline?

Shabba, that's lovely to hear. I bet your DS loves you so very much. :)

Thank you both

However no matter what I do I'm embarrassing and harsh

And parents evening makes me feel very young!

I had a lovely flat and I used to bounce on the bed

SO FUCK YOU ALL

Oh and a baby.

My bub my rulez.

Baubles - and I have to say I've only read the first page & this last one - the immediate phrase that springs to my mind (and I am an agnostic) is:

"Judge not, lest ye be judged".

Buppers my lovely, you give good thread.

Ah I'm glad you're back stratters it was disconcerting when you were a strap on

I'm still confuddled as to why she shouldn't tell people.