To be bloody fuming that DH

[LadySybilPussPolham]

showers EVERY FUCKING MEAL I make in black pepper? Without tasting first?
Just had a row about it because I was unable to bite my tongue on this occasion, having made a delicious spiced carrot and lentil soup (roasted and ground the spices myself, put extra effing chilli and mustard seeds in for him), only to watch as he coated it in pepper and extra chilli before taking a mouthful.
I KNOW he likes a lot of pepper and I wouldn't care if he did this after trying it but he doesn't accept that it's rude. I love salt but I would never add it before tasting a meal.
Really really pisses me off. Can you tell?!

Ahhh i'm glad i'm alone with this one!! I actually find it really rude and insulting. I'd never do it to someone elses cooking, I think it is a criticism as if to say it doesn't have enough flavour.

I put salt, pepper and herbs into every meal and DH always adds more, or aromat. It makes me angry.

Actually it's incredible rude to season food before you have tasted it. It implies you dont trust the cook. YANBU.

Pick your battles is my advice.

Yanbu. I think it's rude. As someone said, it's like taking all the individual, carefully prepared, varied dishes you serve up day after day and turning them all into "pepperslop" I would be seething and planning to serve up value ready meals too.

Worcestershiesauce yes, fresh pepper does have a different taste than pepper cooked in. I cook then put freshly ground pepper on my own food.

I'm with you - very rude not to at least try it.

Maybe one day you need to just empty a full jar of chilli and pepper etc into his portion of food and make it mega hot (few of those very hot chillis chopped up into it just for good measure) and then see if he alters his behaviour afterwards.

I'm the complete opposite - I hate pepper on things as it makes my tongue itch and swell. My problem is that lots of things these days have loads of pepper already added to them, and once it's added you can't take it away, thereby rendering it inedible to me.

Even my own mother loves white pepper and adds loads to things like mashed potatoes or cabbage and would then complain because I wasn't eating my veg. Took me a loooooong time to train her to take a portion for me out before she peppered it because she thought I was making a fuss, to her it didn't taste peppery, just tasty. She didn't get that I didn't want to eat the veg because of the pepper, I did actually want to eat the veg but just without the pepper.

I think part of the problem is that pepper is effectively addictive - you become normalised to the flavour of it, so in order to get the same pepper hit you need to add more and more and more. Which is fine if everyone around you is doing the same. But if you are like me and hate pepper so don't have it on a regular basis you can taste it getting stronger and stronger. I think lots of people involved in food creation in the supermarkets like pepper and therefore don't realise how many ready meals, sandwiches, etc etc come with lots of pepper on or in, because they keep adding more and more to the recipes as they develop them to keep them at their preferred level.

Dh does this but it doesn't bother me, he's the one eating it. Ds seems to be following I'm his footsteps though and sits waiting for his black pepper to be ground onto his meal like he's in a restaurant. He's 3 ffs...

my dh and dd pummel bottles of hot pepper sauce onto their food. I wonder why I bother spicing it.

Me too, spend ages trying to get flavours right and everything ends up drowned in chilli sauce. Still, I enjoy the food and appreciate it even if he doesn't.

I couldn't give a well seasoned shite what anyone puts on their food once I've handed it to them.

As long as they don't put anything on mine, it's all good.

PEPPERFUCKERY UPDATE

DH took TWO mouthfuls of dinner tonight before seasoning.

Status quo is restored

@ PEPPERFUCKERY UPDATE

DH used to do this after I'd spent ages preparing a meal. It's different if you taste it and then add extra seasoning, but bloody rude to do so without trying it first.

He stopped doing it a few years ago when I asked him just to try it first. Now he doesn't add any to it without eating some first, and only if it needs it. All because he actually tried a meal once without drowning it in salt, pepper and chilli sauce and found that it was delicious!

Good job you're not married to my DH then! He puts Brown Sauce on almost everything. Recently he's taken to adding mayonnaise too. But it's the way he likes to eat things and as he usually compliments me on the underlying dish I can't see the point in getting offended.

Mind you, I always add pepper, even when I've cooked and seasoned the dish myself.

thankfully DH hates salt and pepper on his food - he's got an even more delicate palate than me!
he was siding with you LadySybil

we never add salt to our cooking.

the only seasoning we add afterwards is ketchup, and then only to chips and burgers kind of foods.

i like other herbs and spices in my food, for the flavour.

YABVU. It's his food. What's it to you if he puts pepper on it?

I shower every meal in black pepper. DH showers every meal in Encona hot peoper sauce. DS prefers ketchup.

Its not a crime to enjoy your food, is it?

Both my dh and I always condiment before trying food. We're eating it and have yet to overseason anything, if someone doesn't like it tough, they're not eating off my plate.

I have sat at the table with my ILs while they saltfuckered a FULL ENGLISH, the saltiest meal in the world.

DH has started hiding the salt when they visit.

YANBU it's rude and silly to not taste it first