To be bloody fuming that DH

[LadySybilPussPolham]

showers EVERY FUCKING MEAL I make in black pepper? Without tasting first?
Just had a row about it because I was unable to bite my tongue on this occasion, having made a delicious spiced carrot and lentil soup (roasted and ground the spices myself, put extra effing chilli and mustard seeds in for him), only to watch as he coated it in pepper and extra chilli before taking a mouthful.
I KNOW he likes a lot of pepper and I wouldn't care if he did this after trying it but he doesn't accept that it's rude. I love salt but I would never add it before tasting a meal.
Really really pisses me off. Can you tell?!

madbuslady

His dinner his rules.

But if he uses so much pepper-does he even taste the food?

I think I´d be pissed off if I cooked something & someone effectively couldn´t taste it-just the condiment.

Might as well just stick a sliced white loaf in front of him.

YANBU I don't like autocondimenting either.

I'm with HEC please post the video of his reaction somewhere where we can all see it.

I like to add pepper on top of my food - doesn't matter how well seasoned the dish is, it can always be improved with a sprinkle of pepper! Makes it look more appetising too :) wouldn't do it with salt though, I'm not keen on food that's too salty.

If a man told his dw how much she could season her OWN food, there'd be plenty of LTB's!

And what Hec said!

As an autocondimentor, YABU. Things are rarely Overseasoned enough to my tastes.

I'm aware that to most people, I render a meal indelible by the amount of s&p I put on it, but I just can't help it.

Could be worse. DP knows I don't really like pepper on stuff (with a few specific exceptions) yet still puts a very heavy handed dose in much of the stuff he cooks.

I don't get how they can taste the subtlety when it's smothered in chilli/pepper either (even though I like things pretty hot myself when they're the right things)

Please make him something with a shit load of pepper in and then wait while he adds his own. If he then finds it vile - lesson learnt. If he happily chops away then you can be smug, safe in the knowledge that he has a crap sense of taste.

Crucially - should I leave the bastard?

I pour hot sauce over everything before I eat with some people. I don't need to taste the food first to know that they don't make it hot enough.
My friends don't taste my food first before adding salt, because they know I never add enough for their liking.

Yes. LTB and a trail of peppercorns to the nearest recipe book

"I would have to say that YABU because I do this with salt, I never taste food first"

But why not? I never season food without tasting it first. I like salt on my food, but don't like it too salty.

Condimenty Fucker.
Leave the bastard!

I put fresh black pepper on almost everything I eat.. because I want to and because I like the taste of it.

My dad does this.

We tease him, and say " here are the painkillers" whilst handing him the tabasco. He is a smoker, and smokers have bad old palates.

Is your h a smoker?

Maybe you could sprinkle some valium on yours when he does it next

They should include it in the Dine n for Two offer, really.

I was in an Italian restaurant on Monday, the waiter asked if I wanted black pepper on my pasta as it was served. Was he being rude about the chefs cooking, or was I being rude by not tasting first?

It's not something worth having an argument about, a joke maybe.

Are there any other red flags your DH should be noticing about your controlling behaviour OP?

And is passive aggressive food sabotage the new official mumsnet advice for controlling your partner healthy relationships?

i can tell before tasting whether its got enough pepper in it. If its not covered in pepper, it needs more.. Why would i taste it first?

The reason is that if it is edible for normal people, I need to salt it.

Me too. I would like a salt lick for Christmas.

In my case, it's hypercondimenting..

How can it be rude to like your food differently to someone else? It's only food.

Outraged I wonder what other normal behaviour her DH is beat down over for being "rude"?