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Original poster

To ask for the money to repair my scratched car?

55 replies

skyblue11 · 05/12/2012 14:46

Yes, I know I was in the wrong to some extent....I was parked just on the zig zaggy bit, in a rush waiting for DD to come out of school. Old lady drives past, knocks wing mirror and pulls into her driveway leaving the cover of her wing mirror in the road. She then had a rant at me as I shouldn't have been parked there and I've just gone back to my car to see the back wing all scraped by her wing mirror. Should I go to her house and ask her to pay, I've a feeling she'll just give me another mouthful, DH will be sooo mad at me later

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skyblue11 · 05/12/2012 15:09

I won't ever bother to ask as I feel so ashamed at what I did anyway, I daren't tell my DH he'll have a fit

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MadameCastafiore · 05/12/2012 15:10

OFFS you can't just go crashing into cars because they are illegally parked no matter how cross you are at where they are parked - this would be bloody anarchy!!

MadameCastafiore · 05/12/2012 15:11

AAARRRRGGGHHHH what bother her actions have caused - she was hit by another car.

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skyblue11 · 05/12/2012 15:13

I'm really sorry that I parked there but I'm more mad at myself for taking a stupid risk that I would never normally have done.

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whattodoo · 05/12/2012 15:14

Agree with you madame.
No one should feel free to bash others' cars.
But if op hadn't been parked illegally, and dangeroysly

whattodoo · 05/12/2012 15:17

Pressed post too soon

If op hadn't been parked illegally/dangerously then nine of this would have happened.

Perhaps the old lady/bitch should have pulled up and waited patiently until op returned to move her car. But she obviously thought she could squeeze round, which was her mistake.

MadameCastafiore · 05/12/2012 15:17

Oh I can't bloody believe you guys - you really think that it is reasonable to smash a car up by driving into it because it is illegally parked. Can you imagine if someone came on here saying a car was parked partly across their drive and on yellow lines or zigzags and so they smashed into it and hurt one of the occupants - would you all be going - well done, good on you, shouldn't have been parked there anyway???

No matter where someone is parked it is never right to drive into another car on purpose.

Sallyingforth · 05/12/2012 15:18

As said above, she is liable for the damage. Even if you had parked in the middle of the road she would have been in the wrong to hit you.

However I also agree that you should suck it up. A lesson learned.

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skyblue11 · 05/12/2012 15:19

Yeah you're all making me suck it up, Christ I feel bad enough as it is!

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WileywithSageStuffing · 05/12/2012 15:22

Would it even be worth making a claim? Probably cost more on excess if the scratches aren't that deep.

bradyismyfavouritewiseman · 05/12/2012 15:23

Where does it say the woman did it on purpose.

actually you can't just park in the middle of the road and have the blame removed.

One of our neighbours parks with the back of the car in the road if he can't find a space big enough. His car got hit the other night, he wasn't covered by his own insurance and the other insurance company wouldn't pay out so he is now car-less.

from what he said, the police and insurance companies said that his actions contributed to the accident.

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skyblue11 · 05/12/2012 15:24

I shan't be claiming......

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bradyismyfavouritewiseman · 05/12/2012 15:30

But you only feel bad because your dh is going yo be pissed off and your car is damaged.

You should feel bad because ignored rules put their for own childrens saftey and their friends saftey.

No one caught hurt, so feel a bit daft and don't park there again.

Put head teacher has been known to stand outside school and knock on car windows of people driving stupidly (when they stop) or park illegally and ask them very loudly it they know they are putting their kids in danger.

Makes me chuckle. The police have also attendee and done this. We rarely have issues now.

Perhaps your school should do something similar since its sounds like a lot do itm

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skyblue11 · 05/12/2012 15:32

There were no kids around (I wouldn't have been there otherwise) I know that doesn't make it OK though, and I am mad as I normally park in another road nearby.

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whattodoo · 05/12/2012 15:35

FWIW OP, this is the sort of thing I would do then instantly regret when it backfires. I'm sorry your car got scratched and your DH will blame you.
I just didn't like the way you accused the lady of doing it purposefully, and calling her 'old' and 'bitch'.
I'm sorry I came on a bit strong, and sorry if you feel attacked.

bradyismyfavouritewiseman · 05/12/2012 15:38

Some kids must have been about or due to be about as you said there were 3 others there.

EldritchCleavage · 05/12/2012 15:38

Tell your insurer and give them her registration number and see what they make of it.
I'm not entirely sure why a car parked illegally can be treated like a dodgem, but then I'm not a driver.

VivaLeBeaver · 05/12/2012 15:39

I have a white line painted over my drive to stop people parking over the end of it. Idiot over the road keeps parking his huge van (bigger than a Transit) so its over the white line but not quite over my drive.

It makes it nearly impossible to get into my drive if I come along the street in one direction and very difficult from the other.

I've moaned at him several times and he says sorry and moves it. I've warned him that one day I'll end up hitting his van as I try to get into my drive if he keeps doing it.

It does sound like you made it difficult for her to get in her drive. So no, even though legally you might be in the right I think it would be unreasonable to ask her for money. Think of it as karma.

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skyblue11 · 05/12/2012 15:44

Sorry It's a bit unlike me to call anyone a bitch, didn't mean to offend, I'm a little upset, no excuses though, she was very posh though and I kind thought that she did it all the time as it didn't bother her in the slightest, and to be fair there was plenty of room she was a poor driver TBH.

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skyblue11 · 05/12/2012 15:46

I don't think it was difficult she didn't quite make it, I could see her coming in the mirror and though oh, S* her driveway was lower down.
Lesson learned, you can all stop having a go at me, I've beat myself up anyhow.

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DreamingOfTheMaldives · 05/12/2012 16:01

I would certainly ask her to pay for any damage caused to your vehicle even though you were parked illegally. Whatever happened to 'two wrongs don't make a right.' She damaged your vehicle while you were stationary, so she should pay for the damage. You shouldn't have parked illegally and would have had to face the penalty for doing so if you had been caught but that doesn't mean you should just have to accept that someone else has scraped your car.

The penalty for parking illegally and damaging someone's car are two entirely separate matters.

TweedSlacks · 05/12/2012 18:24

Hitting a stationary vehicle whilst moving is more of a civil type of offence . ( no police need to be involved , its between you and the thrird party ( unless there is an injury))
Illegal parking on a highway , Has to be a Policeman or Traffic warden so more criminal hence the potentila fine .

I would be wary of going through the insurance . I am almost certain , even though you are not at fault ( stationary ) it can affect your future premiums .

as to the poster who 's neighbours car got hit at night as it jutted out into the road, You are supposed to park in the direction of travel so your rear reflectors show your vehicle clearly . By parking sticking out he was contraveaning a traffic reg .

bummer , car repairs are costly and its chrimbo , but sounds like 'Dentmaster ' or somesuch could repair the panel easily enough. Have a look at 'Chips away' as they are similar and do just the local area to the damage for less than a night out . hth . good luck.

Bosgrove · 05/12/2012 20:20

My DM lives opposite the zig zag yellow lines of a local school. When she reversed into a car illegally parked on them she was still liable for the damage. As although a car is illegally parked, in a moving car driving into a stationary car accident, the moving car is alway to blame.

It didn't stop me pointing out to the people sitting in the parked car that they were parked illegally though.

mrskeithrichards · 05/12/2012 20:23

It never fails to amaze me how many people don't seem to acknowledge zigzags

McChristmasPants2012 · 05/12/2012 20:25

I daren't tell my DH he'll have a fit

what over a car

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