...to think my MIL is amazing?

[victoriaplum01]

There, I've said it. The woman is a saint. Am I the only person who has a lovely MIL?

I am v jealous reading this.

MIL hates me and makes no attempt to hide it. It's a shame because DH and I are so happy, it hurts to think she would rather him be with someone else (and has voiced that she has a specific person in mind).

Luckily, my Mom is amazing and I couldn't do without her.

Mine is nuts and completely lovely. She experienced horrible DV and struggled to make ends meet raising 4 children. She's never complains even though has failing health and is a fantastic proud grandma to our DCs - treats my DS as her own when he's from previous relationship. I'd do anything for her.

I too am very jealous. My MIL is one of the most selfish people I have ever met: every single conversation is about her and she seems incapable of even making polite enquiries into anyone else's life. When I had a very serious illness a while back, all I heard was how upset SHE was by it all and how much HER life had been put on hold by the worry (because two major operations and a long course of drugs with nasty side effects was extremely pleasant for me...).

On the plus side, DH has a great MIL ;)

Mine is absolutely wonderful, as is FIL. I think that's why DH is a pretty amazing human.

My MIL is great. She's helped me with my kids much more than my mum (even though they live the same distance away). I was ill after the birth of my second and I honestly don't know what I'd have done without her.

The only thing irritating about her is that she's so keen to help that she won't tell me what SHE wants! And I'm so paranoid that I then think that I'm taking advantage of her.

I ought to add that she deserves a medal for putting up with FIL too...

I'm ashamed to say my relationship with MIL wasn't always as it should have been. I took her excitement and enthusiasm as interfering.

Thankfully being older and wiser has shown me how wrong i was. She had always supported dh and I and is an amazing grandma, my boys are very lucky. she is generous to a fault and she and fil have bailed dh and I out over the years, without even being asked.

I'm very lucky, her own mil is vile to her and she's not that nice to me either!

I have a great MIL I have no problems with her and she never judges!!

I can't moan, I haven't any in-laws but when she was here her cooking was divine

Its my own parents who don't bother with us, so I thought , sod 'em we'll have a nice Christmas meal with just us 5. If it snows we'll go sledging and come back to have dinner and then sleep most of the day

MIL and FIL would be very proud of her 3 grandchildren, the eldest ds (22) is working at his Dad's factory, DD (19) is training to be a chef and the youngest ds (10) is undecide between a Manchester City footballer or failing that an engineer or policeman .

DH is the youngest of 4 with 3 elder sisters so was a bit pampered but he works hard to provide for us.

I would love to have seen her face when edlest ds graduated

I love mine, she?s fab. She often tells my DH I?m too good for him She has always been nothing but lovely to me from the first time we met, when I was a shy 19 year old, nearly 20 years ago now!

My MIL is fab too. She is incredibly supportive and lovely, though we have had to make sure the doors are locked as we kept going downstairs after DS was born to find her sitting in the front room! She is more than welcome here whenever, just like a knock on the door first .

Mine just put £200 in dh's bank account to 'make sure you have everything you need for the girls for Christmas', how could I ask for more?!

I have a wonderful MIL, she and her family have shown me what I missed throughout my childhood. My mother is a rampant bitch who spreads her bile far and wide so MIL is the closest thing I have to a mother figure. I talk to her every day even though we live hundreds of miles apart and she comes to stay with us every 6-8 weeks for a week. She is also a fantastic house guest! if she would just stop washing my knickers, 3 weeks out of 4 is fine but hands off the period pants!

I truly wish she would move closer to us, I do drop regular hints

She won't come to us for Christmas as her own MIL has been recently widowed and would be alone but I'm working on getting them to bring her too!

I do understand how people with awful MIL's feel though, my own mother was textbook vile and I recognise her in a lot of the stories I read on here sadly.

Three cheers for brilliant IL's though!

I have a wonderful MIL too. She never judges, never interferes, is fab with our dds and of course, raised a fabulous son for me to marry!

My MIL is lovely too :) She does lots of charity work, unfailingly tells me I'm doing good job with the children even when I feel like the crappest mummy every, knits lovely scarfs and cardigans for DC, gets on with my mum and most importantly brought my wonderful DP into the world. For the last point alone she gets full marks

Mines lovely, but she is 86 and was in hospital last week with heart failure. They have put in a stent , so hopefully on the mend.

My MIL died years ago but I still miss her so much

KRITIQ - that's what I don't get. DH is an amazing, amazing man. I don't get how, growing up in that house!!

My MIL and I are very different and don't really get on but having read all these posts I've realised I'm often being unfair to her. She's led an amazing life, is very kind, loves DH and our kids so much. I shall aim from now to put my own frustrations with her to one side, even if she does get the twins mixed up again (they're non-I'd)!

My MIL is a lovely woman, but I can't say the same about my own mother. Happily DH thinks my mother is funny doesn't see why my sister & I get so annoyed and upset by her. But then he hasn't had to put up with her bad behaviour for years.

My youngest nephew won't talk to his grandmother any more - years of greetings from her starting with "Hello Fatboy" . Of course she claims doesn't know what she did wrong...

I have 2 and they are both the most amazingly generous of women in all ways....if both a little eccentric at times My children really are blessed to have such lovely grandparents!

I also had a lovely MIL who died last year She was wonderful.
Having 2 boys it makes me happy to think that lots of people love their MILs as I would hate to think my boys wives will automatically hates me in years to come, (and most importantly, try to stop me seeing me lovely boys/ grandchildren)

My MIL is a lovely woman, takes a lot on the chin, and I've only seen her angry once in 7years (to be fair, we've lived abroad for 4 of those). She was always a homemaker though, stopped work when she got married to keep home, no ambition outside of it. I think she is rather confuzzled by me, and seems to think I work for pin money.

The poor thing suffers with anxiety now and impedes her life quite a lot. She's good company and easy going, never criticises us to our faces

My mother in law is great too, shes a great cook, lovely sunday lunches and puddings!, shes a great mother and wife, in fact my FIL is great too, I knew when I went to meet them (for sun lunch) with my then boyfriend that they would be great cos the house was full of love. I think she loves me like the daughter she never had. Im lucky to have met my husband and his family.