...to think my MIL is amazing?

[victoriaplum01]

There, I've said it. The woman is a saint. Am I the only person who has a lovely MIL?

[MrsAceRimmer]

I love my MIL. My PILs stay 2 streets away and are lovely. MIL in particular: looked after DS when I was hideously ill throughout my pregnancy with DD, is always willing to change her plans if I need the DCs looking after and many other things.
My PILs are very generous with their time & gifts. They spoil the DCs far too much, but hey, they're grandparents and damn good ones. :)

[Flossiechops]

I never ever bought a nappy (no not one), baby wipes or formula for either of my 2 dc. I haven't bought a loo roll or dish washing tablet in years. My cupboards are always stocked full of goodies. Yep this is thanks to my very kind and generous mil :)

[TwoHats]

My MIL is great, I have a huge amount of respect for the way she raised her DC (her DS has turned out very well ) and she often seems to 'get' DS1 in a way not many people do. I have a lovely mum as well, her and MIL sometimes meet up without us which, I think, is a good sign!

However, I do have a SMIL who is very hard to get along with...

[funnyperson]

I have a wonderful mother in law. My husband is an ex but my mother in law never will be. I love chatting with her and she is supportive and funny and understanding and remebers birthdays and festivals and is - well - as nice as my own mother only not as serious, so it has been really great to know her. Thank you MIL.

[threesocksfullofchocs]

my MIL is lovely....
example.
my mum died when I was 18. my sm died a few months before my dad.
when my dear old dad died I asked MIL if she had a coat I could borrow for the funeral.
she gave me money to buy one saying as I didn't have a mum she had to fill the gap. and she has. she is great

[edam]

My MIL is lovely. She has been supportive without being at all pushy ever since dh and I got together. Really came into her own when ds was a baby, when she was just delighted and made it very clear she adored him - which is obviously the way to my heart! Sadly she's very frail, rather confused and vulnerable now and I feel constantly guilty that we don't do enough for her.

[CuriousMama]

Exmil is wonderful. Sadly she doesn't have long to live. I visited her last week though. Am gutted as she should be having a more comfortable end.

Dp's mum is lovely too, really get on well with her. But exmil is the best Mil and gran in the universe.

[Cahoootz]

My MIL has never ever been the slightest bit rude, judgey, bossy or mean to me. She tells me I am beautiful and that she is happy that I am married to her son. She also buys me sweets

I am nice to her too.

She is irritating though but only because she NEVER stops telling the same stories over and over and over again. . I just play on my iPad and smile and nod occasionally

[Cahoootz]

Isn't this a lovely thread

[Morloth]

I have a great MIL.

We get on brilliantly.

When my boys grow up I hope to have the same relationship with their partners.

[HoldMeCloserTonyDanza]

My MIL is also lovely. Really wonderful. She is just a really gentle, kind person.

PIL, SIL and her partner are all staying with us over Xmas and while they are all very nice, I can bet all of them will get on my nerves at some point over the holiday - except lovely MIL.

My own mum is also great. Though I suspect not as great a MIL as she is a bit more pushy. It doesn't bother me because I'm used to ignoring her, but it's fortunate DH is so easygoing

[Alligatorpie]

My mil is fantastic too. She talks incessantly, but is a wonderful nan to my children - kind, caring and generous. She also as the best work ethic of anyone I have ever met - she just gets on with things! I am very lucky!

[PeshwariNaan]

Mine is a saint too!!! I love her dearly and am so lucky to have her. She's so sweet to me.

[Alligatorpie]

My mom is also wonderful, unfortunately we live in a different country that both her and pil. But she is the bet grandma ever! I could talk to her every day and I we never argue.

And - really not bragging, but my SM is also a wonderful grandparent. I am really, really lucky.

[SkaterGrrrrl]

Mine is an angel. Love her so much and admire her hugely. My mum is a few swans short of a ballet, so its great to have wise, kind MIL in my life.

[SomersetONeil]

Mine is really lovely. Very thoughtful.

[dotty2]

My MIL doesn't always get it right, but she was a huge practical help in the early days when she and FIL were more able, and she still tries really hard to do and say the right things. And, let's face it, it's not always the easiest of jobs is it? So many elephant traps...

(PS - love the 'few swans short of a ballet' phrase. Not heard that before!)

[GrumpyOldHorsewoman]

My MIL is away with the fairies, believes in angels, talks incessantly and has woeful taste in men. She has had the worst life of anyone I know (Her mother died when MIL was 3, passed around grandparents/married aunts, married an arsehole at 19, 4 kids in 5 years, separated, FIL died leaving everything to his new GF, married another arsehole) but she is the kindest, gentlest person and not the least bitter or disappointed with the life she's had. She drives me mad with her sunny outlook and how she just seems happy to do next to nothing every day (she's a domestic slattern) but she's also really kind and thoughtful and adores her family, whether or not they deserve to be adored. I don't know how a woman like that could have thrown a borderline narcissistic, driven and hyper-confident person like my DH.

[posyplum]

My mil is bonkers - works as a teacher and night carer, almost 24/7. Shoots to tesco at 3 on the dot every day to hover by the poor boy marking stuff down, ready to pounce, and gets to the car boot sale at 7am every sunday. Will haggle something down to 10p from 20p! Scoots around town on a little motor scooter visiting needy friends in what little spare time she has (FIL doesn't get much of a look in though!). She drives me mad sometimes but I'd miss her if she wasn't here.

[LadyMaryCrawley]

I love my ILs! MIL is mad but so grounded, kind, generous, loving, positive and caring. And FIL can mend anything and always has a smile on his face. And they are so much fun! They're always off doing things, meeting people, planning things, and talking and LAUGHING all the time!

My own parents are kind and loving, but they never laugh, and they are a bit doom-mongerish, and completely antisocial and don't ever have fun a bit quieter than my ILs.

[GetorfsaMotherfuckingMorrisMan]

I love my MIL dearly.

She is a wonderful woman, deeply kind and caring but with a cracking sense of humour as well.

She had 6 children (one has sadly died) and has 14 grandchildren and 4 great grandchildren all of whom think she is marvellous as well.

Very sadly my lovely FIL died 2 weeks ago but the whole family has rallied round. It is a really loving family. And despite me and XP having split up I am still am considered very much part of it.

[LittleWhiteWolf]

DHs mum is a great MIL. Always wants to help, never butts in, is always considerate. But she's a terrible mum and a very stupid woman so sadly that all overshadows her good MIL attributes.

But I don't want to spoil the thread so may I offer my mums MIL, my nana? My dad cheated on my mum while she was in hospital for 6 months recovering from a double lung transplant and abandoned us all after she got out. My nana never ever lost touch with my mum and although they lived far away they kept in touch and nana always insisted that "you'll always be part of my family" to mum, which she really needed. My nana died last week and we are going to her funeral tomorrow. It will be a difficult day, but she was a terrific woman and we shall miss her.

[catsrus]

My MIL was the perfect MIL, she did used to say she'd had the perfect DIL when she became an exMIL she said 'well, we'll just have to be friends then' which we are. I love her to bits and she's the most wonderful grandmother. I've been amazed how many people have been surprised when they hear I still see her about twice a week. We've been part of each other's lives for 25+yrs and we like each other.

[TygerTyger]

ROFL. We have a relationship of mutual loathing. There are worse things in life.

[musicposy]

I had a difficult relationship with my MIL at one point which has improved massively over the years. When I look back, I have to say I think we were both at fault, not just me. She for being a bit too unwilling to let go control of her son and me for being very touchy and precious over the DDs when they were very young. As we've grown older we've all got more secure in our roles and our places in DH and the DDs affections - there's not the competition I think there once was.

I have loads to thank her for. She's grounded and down to earth. She brought DH up in a happy, loving home. She taught him that being a boy with two sisters didn't make him any more immune to housework than them. She loved him but never pandered to him and he had to pull his weight along with the rest. So, of course, she created a wonderful husband for me. It's not always been easy but I hope we get closer as the years go on. :)