to have fed my baby here?

[ariane5]

Went shopping yesteerday.ds1. Jas a blu badge so we parked in a disabled space.went to shops and back to car couple of hours later. We have 4 dcs and the baby 7 mths started screaming and was hungry.by then the car park was packd. I started to feed ds while dh got other dcs in car and an elderly couple drove past and politely asked if we were leaving, dh said sorry not yet then 2 other drivers did the same but the fourth stopped got out and said please could we hurry up, I explained that when I had fed ds we would be going but she was really angry and said a disabled space is not just for sitting in that we should go immediately. I was only another ten mins fding ds it is hard enough going out as all dcs have same condition and ds2 was really screaming I had to feed him as it was a long drive home. Was I being unreasonable?

Do you not think it is of benefit to the disabled badge holder to be sitting comfortably in a car for 10 minutes while the baby is fed rather than having to stand/sit on the floor in busy shopping centre then?

No, the baby is not the badge holder, the badge is granted for the use of the children of the family with SN, of which the baby is one as he has SN. Your pendantry is astounding merrymouse

I'm sure OP wouldn't have made the others stand if they were unable to SamSmalaidh, she only seems to think that it's OK to inconvenience others with disabilities from what I gather.

But nolittle would you shout at a bfing woman that she was hogging a bb space if there wasn't one there for you? That is the question here. Op was well within her rights to do what she did. The first couple were well within their rights to ask if they were just about to leave, and accepted ops answer that they were not. The second couple however, were rude and entitled and had absolutely no right to abuse the op just because she wasn't doing what they wanted her to. They are the ones who were being unreasonable, not the op.

OP you do not need to justify yourself any further. You have done nothing wrong.

The badge we used yest was ds1.dd1 also has bb.dd2 and ds2 have same condition but no bb yet as only 7 months and we have only just applied for dd2 dla now that she is 3 and still in buggy all the time with other significant problems.

I wouldn't have shouted at OP, but I would have expressed my feelings of annoyance either by asking her to move politely (and if I knew the area politely suggest somewhere that she could park) or by shooting her a look. I cannot use a 'normal' parking bay btw.

Amazed that anyone could call this OP self-centred or selfish, as I've seen two posters do!
It is madness to suggest you put a crying baby into its seat and drive away in order to double park on a road somewhere - where no doubt you'd be shouted at by a bus driver or cautioned by the police! (Who would be somewhat at your excuse that you'd had to leave a parking space to give it to someone else).
The disabled children in the car benefitted from not hanging around the shops whilst sibling was fed, or from being exposed to risk through parking on a road unnecessarily.
Reasonable for passer to ask if space would soon be free. Completely unreasonable to demand or shout about it.

If baby DS has SN, my point still stands.

Nolittle - I would not want to inconvenience ANYBODY with a disability. That wasn't what I set out to do I was simply trying to juggle the very demanding needs of 4 disabled dcs whilst out on a very rare shopping trip.perhaps bb should be redesigned a bit like top trumps cards then at least we would know who had priority?? Would that suit you then you could force us out of the space.

You sound very entitled NolittleBuddahs, if you think your need to have a parking space is more important than 4 children with disabilities.

OP's baby is not the centre of everyone else's world, MistressIggi as for having to drive so fast that she would be stopped by the police, get real!!! It does not kill a child to wait 5 mins and 5mins only. I did say I would ask politely Btw.

It doesn't kill other drivers to wait for a space to become free either.

I am disabled and have a blue badge and I think you were being selfish. I wouldn't sit in the car while the DC or DH ate lunch, taking up a disabled space that was obviously desperately needed by other people. You could have put the DC in the car and moved off some where else, it didn't need to be in the car park, or to go all the way home, there must have been somewhere else in the vicinity.

SamSmalaidh: I did not say that my need was greater than anybodies, I would have no problems if OP had been attending to a disability related need! As I have said all babies need feeding. The reason have such strong views on matters like this is because I get so annoyed by parents of DCs with SN who belief they are 'entiltled' to behave in a certain way because of it! I view myself as a 'person with a disability' and not a 'disabled person' so yeah I'm dead entitled me.

SamSmalaidh: I'll wait as long as you want and sit in pissed up clothes all day, is that better? (FWIW I can't change independently)

MsElleTow - would it have been better to find somewhere in the shopping centre to sit and feed before going back to the car? Given that there was nowhere to move off to the OP's other option would have been to get all the children back out of the car and into the shopping centre. Neither of these options would have freed up a space any quicker

Nolittle, you come across as very entitled if you believe your desire to park quickly is more important than the needs of the people who have already paid for and are using a space.

OP the top trumps idea is FAB, must tell my MP

Nolittle - the carpark was very busy, so whether the OP fed the baby in the shopping centre or in the car (or took an extra 10 minutes over shopping) would make no difference to the amount of spaces available.

Again if OP was attending to a disability related need of the DCs then all power to her, but otherwise she was being selfish and UBER entitled (as you guys seem to love that word) IMHO. Also I think the need to access a loo urgently is quite pressing myself.

What if the OP was just walking round the shops slowly? 10 minutes is 10 minutes, she had paid for a parking space, just like every other person in a space who was shopping, eating etc.

OP. they would have had to wait if you had delayed your return to your car to feed the baby. There is no rules about what you can and can't use the space for. YANBU.

If it was possible to move it woukd have been considerate and kind to do so of course but it is for YOU to weigh up wrt needs of your family and no-one has the right to harass you for it.

What would you have done if you didnt have a blue badge?

The reason for sitting there in the car while others were clearly waiting for the space was not disability related from what i understand. I can also see that it must have been very frustrating for the other disabled drivers waiting to park while you sat there feeding a baby.

The point is Sam that the baby started screaming when they got back to the car, so the OP fed him. She could have got her DH to have moved the car.

Obviously had she have fed him in the shopping centre the opportunity to move the car wouldn't have arisen, but it did, so they should have IMVHO!