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to have fed my baby here?

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ariane5 · 03/12/2012 11:08

Went shopping yesteerday.ds1. Jas a blu badge so we parked in a disabled space.went to shops and back to car couple of hours later. We have 4 dcs and the baby 7 mths started screaming and was hungry.by then the car park was packd. I started to feed ds while dh got other dcs in car and an elderly couple drove past and politely asked if we were leaving, dh said sorry not yet then 2 other drivers did the same but the fourth stopped got out and said please could we hurry up, I explained that when I had fed ds we would be going but she was really angry and said a disabled space is not just for sitting in that we should go immediately. I was only another ten mins fding ds it is hard enough going out as all dcs have same condition and ds2 was really screaming I had to feed him as it was a long drive home. Was I being unreasonable?

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MistressIggi · 03/12/2012 22:43

I know it's AIBU but it's not a game Sad Not meant to be 'fun'. And, it's not meant to be one person's show either (especially when that person is not even the OP!)

NolittleBuddahsorTigerMomshere · 03/12/2012 22:43

Goldmara, why did she come on a forum then? Anyhow, I've enjoyed the banter you guys are too ridiculously self righteous about child bearing and rearing at times! IMOH

EasilyBored · 03/12/2012 22:45

Charming nolittle. Merry fucking Christmas to you too.

NolittleBuddahsorTigerMomshere · 03/12/2012 22:45

Mistress, I would, does your point mean that if you FF and run out you are a terrible parent as you can't feed immediately ?

NolittleBuddahsorTigerMomshere · 03/12/2012 22:46

re one persons show, why did you keep responding then?

Goldmandra · 03/12/2012 22:46

Goldmara, why did she come on a forum then?

For support and reassurance after someone behaved aggressively towards her at a stressful time.

I'm sorry that you have taken this as an opportunity for a bit of sport. That isn't really what MN is for.

NolittleBuddahsorTigerMomshere · 03/12/2012 22:47

Thanks so much Easily, hope you have a good'un xx

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ariane5 · 03/12/2012 22:47

I only did what I thought was best for the dcs. I can see how it could be frustrating for somebody with bowel/bladder issues as part of their disability for example, I imagine th possibiloty of having an accident could cause you to become anxious about such a situation arising.I never set out to deprive anybody of a space and in the circumstances I do not think I was in the wrong as many others have agreed with what I did.I am not saying for one minute that having 4 disabled dcs makes me any more entitled to a bb space but it does make things very very difficult when something like this happens.

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NolittleBuddahsorTigerMomshere · 03/12/2012 22:48

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NolittleBuddahsorTigerMomshere · 03/12/2012 22:50

OP shall we shake hands? I have massive respect for any parents of DC's with issues, sometimes stuff gets under my skin and I have to let rip Grin

NolittleBuddahsorTigerMomshere · 03/12/2012 22:52

and the rest gave me a lot of oxygen, but OH is happy, you've given him a break Grin

takataka · 03/12/2012 22:54

its has nothing to do with being 'self righteous about child bearing/rearing'

its about OP being entitled to stay in the parking space for as long as she needs it, and not be hurried out of it by some gob-shite

MistressIggi · 03/12/2012 22:55

Am loving your attempt to introduce a ff/bf element, are you getting bored?
I'd be surprised if a ff parent ran out completely of formula to be honest, not great planning when you know you have a baby to be fed.
I have been unable to feed baby (driving on motorway) for some time and it was an awful feeling, wouldn't do that if I could help it.
You're right, shouldn't reply to you but so hard when you keep saying things I disagree with.

Goldmandra · 03/12/2012 22:56

I think you should find a different way to vent your frustrations in future NoLittle

Your need to 'let rip' should be fulfilled at the expense of others in this way.

NolittleBuddahsorTigerMomshere · 03/12/2012 22:56

TakkaTakka come on, I agree she shouldn't have been shouted at, sorry but you guys do seem to be quite self righteous on the whole. BTW am I a gobshite? Wink

Goldmandra · 03/12/2012 22:57

shouldn't be.... Blush

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ariane5 · 03/12/2012 22:57

I have no problem with you nolittle-like you said you are entitld to an opinion.I understand how some things can be a massiv sore point when you have a disability and sometimes I get angry on dcs behalf. You sound like you have a really hard time of it too.hand shaken.

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ariane5 · 03/12/2012 22:57

I have no problem with you nolittle-like you said you are entitld to an opinion.I understand how some things can be a massiv sore point when you have a disability and sometimes I get angry on dcs behalf. You sound like you have a really hard time of it too.hand shaken.

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NolittleBuddahsorTigerMomshere · 03/12/2012 22:58

MistressIggi I am pro choice when it comes to feeding methods, and that did seem to be your implication, whether you meant it or not.

RyleDup · 03/12/2012 22:59

my first AIBU has been a lot of fun!

oh yes, super fun. Because you are just a big barrel of laughs. Delightful to meet you for sure.

NolittleBuddahsorTigerMomshere · 03/12/2012 23:00

Come on you guys you don't really tall this seriously do you? I thought that was just Daily Fail propaganda Wink

takataka · 03/12/2012 23:00

you appear to be the self-righteous one here IMO

what exactly do you perceive people to be getting self-righteous about?

MistressIggi · 03/12/2012 23:00

Only if you are looking for controversy, as you clearly are. I wrote about bf as the OP's baby was bf. Feeding a baby this way is instant, unlike if she had had to get hot water to make up formula. Many (not all) bf babies are used to feeding on demand hence the screaming.

NolittleBuddahsorTigerMomshere · 03/12/2012 23:01

I've enjoyed are time together RyleDup xx

NolittleBuddahsorTigerMomshere · 03/12/2012 23:01

RyleDup are you the only one who can get ryled then?