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to have fed my baby here?

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ariane5 · 03/12/2012 11:08

Went shopping yesteerday.ds1. Jas a blu badge so we parked in a disabled space.went to shops and back to car couple of hours later. We have 4 dcs and the baby 7 mths started screaming and was hungry.by then the car park was packd. I started to feed ds while dh got other dcs in car and an elderly couple drove past and politely asked if we were leaving, dh said sorry not yet then 2 other drivers did the same but the fourth stopped got out and said please could we hurry up, I explained that when I had fed ds we would be going but she was really angry and said a disabled space is not just for sitting in that we should go immediately. I was only another ten mins fding ds it is hard enough going out as all dcs have same condition and ds2 was really screaming I had to feed him as it was a long drive home. Was I being unreasonable?

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RyleDup · 03/12/2012 22:27

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Goldmandra · 03/12/2012 22:27

How is allowing a mother to feed a child unhindered the same and not putting the child in immediate danger?

GlaikitFizzogTheChristmasElf · 03/12/2012 22:27

But by asking her to move whilst feeding her child goes against her right to feed unhindered. Which is also legislated for and protected, so which wins??

Goldmandra · 03/12/2012 22:27

the same as....

NolittleBuddahsorTigerMomshere · 03/12/2012 22:29

Is jurisprudential disability law part of your job rydump or just the application of the law after the issues have been worked out? If it is Jp then you should be able to find it yourself! Hmm

EasilyBored · 03/12/2012 22:29

So legally, she has every right to breastfeed whereever she wants, and the rights of her children to use the space as a 'refuge' and to be kept safe and contained are protected? So she's actually doubly in the right to use the space, yes? {fgrin}

takataka · 03/12/2012 22:30

but I would still have asked and expected her to move

even though, you still have no idea what her or any of her childrens needs actually are??

does her breast feeding her baby, cancel out all her disability needs?

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RebeccaMumsnet · 03/12/2012 22:30
NolittleBuddahsorTigerMomshere · 03/12/2012 22:30

your last post was not patronizing at all

GlaikitFizzogTheChristmasElf · 03/12/2012 22:32

Peace and love Rebecca, peace and love :)

NolittleBuddahsorTigerMomshere · 03/12/2012 22:32

Making a child wait a short time for food does not put them in immediate danger! It is not the same and trivializes situations where children are in real danger!

GlaikitFizzogTheChristmasElf · 03/12/2012 22:35

Right, I'm off to bed! G'night ladies, its been ...... Interesting!

EasilyBored · 03/12/2012 22:35

But forcing the children to hang around in a busy shopping centre (that they may find upsetting and challenging) while the baby is fed (on the floor Xmas Hmm ) could be dangerous.

I think the issue is that you are starting from the point that it is entirely reasonable that the baby should have to wait an unknown period of time (until they can find another space, pull over somewhere, get stuck in traffic on the way home etc) for it's main source of nutrition, and most other people are starting from the point that the baby should not have to wait, and the OP can either feed quickly in the car or drag everyone back in to the crowded mall and feed the baby there.

NolittleBuddahsorTigerMomshere · 03/12/2012 22:35

Easily bored, no. She wasn't going to go back in and the DC's had been out, so the refuge principle would not apply! There reason that DC should been in danger, they did not need to stay in the car park!

RyleDup · 03/12/2012 22:35

You really live in a bubble here don't you. With just you in the centre of it. No consideration for anyone else whatsoever.

NolittleBuddahsorTigerMomshere · 03/12/2012 22:36

Hi Rebecca my first AIBU has been a lot of fun! Grin

Goldmandra · 03/12/2012 22:36

As stated above the mother has the right to feed her baby unhindered yet your justification for saying she should have moved instead is that it would not put the child in immediate danger.

So how is the lack of immediate danger relevant to the right to feed unhindered Smile

NolittleBuddahsorTigerMomshere · 03/12/2012 22:37

Temper temper Rydum! I am what I am ....

MistressIggi · 03/12/2012 22:37

Car park rage is only going to get worse in the run-up to Christmas isn't it?
(Thinking may take LO to a feed-in in my local multi-storey to see what happens).

NolittleBuddahsorTigerMomshere · 03/12/2012 22:38

But she wasn't prevented from feeding, she could have parked alongside me I wouldn't have minded

NolittleBuddahsorTigerMomshere · 03/12/2012 22:39

immediate danger relates to rydump's thing about consideration

MistressIggi · 03/12/2012 22:40

What, feed near the baby near you with the attitude toward babies you've expressed in several posts on this thread? No chance!

Goldmandra · 03/12/2012 22:41

Hi Rebecca my first AIBU has been a lot of fun!

I don't think the OP thought the things you were saying to her were very much fun Sad

NolittleBuddahsorTigerMomshere · 03/12/2012 22:41

Takataka yep. Feeding not a disability issue here. Rydumps quote actually, used consideration in last point, not that one.

MistressIggi · 03/12/2012 22:42

Seriously if you have a breastfed baby in your arms and he/she is screaming, you put them to the breast. You do not attempt to strap them into a car seat and drive round looking for a space. Well, some people might, but not anyone I know.