to have fed my baby here?

[ariane5]

Went shopping yesteerday.ds1. Jas a blu badge so we parked in a disabled space.went to shops and back to car couple of hours later. We have 4 dcs and the baby 7 mths started screaming and was hungry.by then the car park was packd. I started to feed ds while dh got other dcs in car and an elderly couple drove past and politely asked if we were leaving, dh said sorry not yet then 2 other drivers did the same but the fourth stopped got out and said please could we hurry up, I explained that when I had fed ds we would be going but she was really angry and said a disabled space is not just for sitting in that we should go immediately. I was only another ten mins fding ds it is hard enough going out as all dcs have same condition and ds2 was really screaming I had to feed him as it was a long drive home. Was I being unreasonable?

This could go round in circles all night

And I'm sure that most peo

GlaikitFizzogTheChristmasElf, being soaked in BM is understandable for an adult, unpleasant but understood, my problem has a great deal of stigma attached. Babies cry, I spend lots of time with them, no big deal.

I was just thinking that makachu! But I'm waiting for the guidelines that back up nolittles argument.

And yet somehow, nolittle, amongst all those achievements, there is no medal for empathy, or reasonableness, or just general notbeingacowbagness.

There was no reasonable alternative for the OP and her family.

GlaikitFizzogTheChristmasElf are you suggesting I'm lying? Disability law is my job!

At least quote the right person nolittle. I have made no mention of bm.

Try again....
Im sure most people would move for you if you had to use the loo quickly. And I am sure most people would be kind about it too. Unlike you, who seems to find it impossible to consider anyone elses difficulties aside from your own.

Disabilty law is a big part of my job too. Show me the link!

No I am not calling you a liar, but I cannot find anything that backs up what you are saying, That op was breaching guidelines in using the space to provide for the needs of the non bb holder.

And a guideline is just that, a guideline, not a law. You should know that, what with it being your job.

also the guidelines are on cuddles post. The EA and disability access frameworks can be found on google.

Right, which part?

EA and guidelines are law btw. Its taken me years to become au fait with the subject but if you can find answers to jurisprudential issues in seconds, here have my qualifications.

And who is going to enforce this in the private car park?

Again I'll mention the right to feed your child in public unhindered. Who is going to move on the op? Because I cannot see how your argument can be backed up with legislation.

which docs do you have?

Nolittle, it must be awful for you, but show a little empathy for the OP, it's hard for her too. You must be able to see that the situation wasn't that straight forward. Surely the answer to the scenario that you or someone with similar needs were waiting for the space is that if you let the person in the space know the problem in a round about way i.e. said something along the lines of "I'm sorry but I need to use the bathroom quickly due to my disability are you going to be very long?" Then it would be clear that you or hypothetical person would have priority, but this wasn't the case so as it stands the OP had the right to use the space as her baby's needs will have had a significant effect on her other children.

Find me the part that says the op can't remain in her parking spot under the circumstances she has described. It says that you need to give consideration to other users wherever possible. It wasn't possible in this scenario. Care to add to that?

As I said you are not au fait with the subject and it shows, private car parks are business and are under the same constraints as any other, under EU leg. I know the right to feed a child is unhindered, but it wasn't hindered anyway, so your point? I never said it should be, she can feed a child outside of the parking space for as long as she wants. But access to disability space and priority are legislated for and protected, just as the unhindered right to feed the child is. I will NEVER be persuaded that OP was reasonable.

and it was reasonable the child has no nutritional issues and was not in immediate danger, she could have moved out of the car park

GlaikitFizzogTheChristmasElf I have said numerous times that I would have asked politely!

but I would still have asked and expected her to move

Isn't asking her to move from the space attempting to hinder her from breastfeeding though?

Nuff said nolittle I hope that everyone that crosses your path has a great deal more empathy and, dare I say it, good will to all men at this time of year than you do. Sounds like you've been dealt a shitty hand, doesn't mean you should share it around though...

Interesting discussion. Do the disabled children in the car not have the right to be kept safe? Should the op have driven the car in highpressure conditions (a screaming baby causes high pressure, esp in a contained space). So could you not argue that the space was being used appropriately as the disabled childrens' needs were being met at the time?