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Parents supplying teens with alcohol

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dinkybinky · 02/12/2012 17:33

One of the parents at school gave their DS a bottle of vodka to take to a party, he ended up in A&E and had to have his stomach pumped. Apparently there are quite a few parents that think its acceptable to give children under 16 alcohol and do so every weekend. AIBU to think that this is totally irresponsible ?

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EverlongLovesHerChristmasRobin · 02/12/2012 18:57

14 years old with a bottle of vodka.

That's just fucking madness.

No way would I do that. the vodka is mine

Seriously though that's wrong.

goralka · 02/12/2012 18:57

it's true they will get their hands on what they want anyway.....
son spent his dinner money on weed last week..I was Angry

AitchTwoOhOneTwo · 02/12/2012 18:57

ghostship, while no doubt you are telling the truth of your own and your brother's behaviour, the plural of anecdote is not data.

slartybartfast · 02/12/2012 18:59

DD Went to a party when just 15 and a parent was buying her and the other 15 year olds vodka and coke to drink - i was Shock and unhappy. apparently the dad lets the dd to drink vodka at home as well Hmm

baublesandbaileys · 02/12/2012 18:59

There were really dodgy flats/houses, some belonged to older teens some to parents of kids that didn't give a crap, and all kinds of lowlives went there... plus underage kids as there was booze etc

the ones that went there were the ones who were on the tightest leashes at home!

horrible places!

Oh and they went there during school time!

AmberLeaf · 02/12/2012 19:03

Id encourage my teen to drink sensibly.

I would and have bought him alcohol, but it was drunk in limited amounts and in my presence at social gatherings either at my home or close friends homes.

He is 16.

dinkybinky · 02/12/2012 19:09

Instead of encouraging him to drink safely why don't you encourage him to have fun without alcohol until hes 18?

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baublesandbaileys · 02/12/2012 19:11

and to just obstain from sex!
cause that tack works so well!

honestly the ones who had absolute no alcohol rules from home were the ones who binged the worst! and went with any dodgy wierdo who would buy it for them! Just like the "absolutely no sex" girls were the ones that ended up with teen pregnancies!

slartybartfast · 02/12/2012 19:11

i think to wait til 18 is naive and behind the times, even i drank cidar before 18.

dinkybinky · 02/12/2012 19:13

Brain Development and Alcohol Abuse

Research indicates that the human brain continues to develop into a person's early 20's, and that exposure of the developing brain to alcohol may have long-lasting effects on intellectual capabilities and may increase the likelihood of alcohol addiction.
The age when drinking starts affects future drinking problems. For each year that the start of drinking is delayed, the risk of later alcohol dependence is reduced by 14 percent.
Drinking and Driving

Car crashes are the leading cause of death among people ages 15 to 20. About 1,900 people under 21 die every year from car crashes involving underage drinking.
Young people are more susceptible to alcohol-induced impairment of their driving skills. Drinking drivers aged 16 to 20 are twice as likely to be involved in a fatal crash as drinking drivers who are 21 or older.
Suicide

Alcohol use interacts with conditions like depression and stress, and contributes to an estimated 300 teen suicides a year.
High school students who drink are twice as likely to have seriously considered attempting suicide, as compared to nondrinkers. High school students who binge drink are four times as likely to have attempted suicide, as compared to nondrinkers.
Sexual Behavior

Current teen drinkers are more than twice as likely to have had sexual intercourse within the past three months than teens who don't drink.
Higher drinking levels increase the likelihood of sexual activity.
Adolescents who drink are more likely to engage in risky sexual activities, like having sex with someone they don't know or failing to use birth control.
Other Risks

Teens who drink alcohol are more likely than nondrinkers to smoke marijuana, use inhalants, or carry a weapon.
Binge drinking substantially increases the likelihood of these activities.
Academic Performance

A government study published in 2007 shows a relationship between binge drinking and grades. Approximately two-thirds of students with ?mostly A?s? are non-drinkers, while nearly half of the students with ?mostly D?s and F?s? report binge drinking. It is not clear, however, whether academic failure leads to drinking, or vice versa.

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Dawndonna · 02/12/2012 19:14

My 16 year old dds and 17 year old have just enjoyed a glass of white wine with their dinner. But we're european a couple of generations back and were brought up that way.
The english make so much fuss about it as a taboo thing that it becomes a must have for the rebellious, were it a natural, normal part of everyday life, it wouldn't matter.

baublesandbaileys · 02/12/2012 19:14

but OP, they are MORE LIKELY to drink if it is banned at home
where its not they're often not actually that bothered about it, it does taste grim if you don't work though aquiring the taste (unless they are on alco pops I suppose)

Fifis25StottieCakes · 02/12/2012 19:24

I think friends have a lot to do with it as well, they did with me. My whole circle of friends drank on a weekend and there was a pretty good mix of people in the group from different backgrounds. It was more do with what the crowd do, same with smoking and weed. I was a follower looking back now.

dinkybinky · 02/12/2012 19:28

but OP, they are MORE LIKELY to drink if it is banned at home

The boy that ended up in hospital after drinking vodka supplied by the parents wouldn't have ended up there if alcohol was banned at home.

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baublesandbaileys · 02/12/2012 19:30

"The boy that ended up in hospital after drinking vodka supplied by the parents wouldn't have ended up there if alcohol was banned at home"

noone here is saying that the bottle of vodka = reasonable, the parent's obviously weren't introducing sensible drinking

but who's to say he wouldn't have ended up in hospital? he may have instead gone to a dodgy corner shop and bought dodgy spirits and gone blind or worse!

AmberLeaf · 02/12/2012 19:38

Instead of encouraging him to drink safely why don't you encourage him to have fun without alcohol until hes 18?

Because I have a good grasp on reality.

Remotecontrolduck · 02/12/2012 19:41

Sending a 14 year old out with a bottle of vodka is madness. A beer is fine, but bloody vodka?!?

There's no need to get uptight about under 18s drinking unless it's large quantities of spirits or they're coming home drunk. A beer or cider at 15/16 really isn't anything to get hysterical about. Or at least that's my view and mine (all over 18) seem to drink very little.

notanotter · 02/12/2012 19:41

I actually believe parents do it to curry favour with their teens. I dont

Alisvolatpropiis · 02/12/2012 19:43

Giving a bottle of vodka to a 14 year old is ridiculous.

But my parents would buy me a couple of alcopops at not much older. My friends and I were allowed to drink,in each others houses,whilst adults were present.

As opposed to half the school year who were drinking vodka in public places like parks and regularly being taken home by the police.

I personally think my parents and my friends parents were being less careless than the majority actually.

Also...no point calling the social services re a 14 year

Alisvolatpropiis · 02/12/2012 19:44

*iphone typing

...14 year old being allowed to drink. Children can legally drink in their homes from age 5 in the UK.

Coconutty · 02/12/2012 19:44

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Alisvolatpropiis · 02/12/2012 19:45

Oh and my parents were far and away removed from the "wanton to be their child's friend" type. They were nothing of the sort.

LineRunner · 02/12/2012 19:49

We were allowed beer, and lager and lime / lager 'top', from about 14 - 15. Only in small amounts. Maybe a couple of halves at around 16 or 17.

zukiecat · 02/12/2012 19:52

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Saski · 02/12/2012 19:53

OK someone's going to have to explain to me how kids get out during school time without their parents knowing.

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