To think it's not on to turn up to lunch 40 mins late and drunk?

[MummyPig24]

Which is precisely what my dad did today when he came for lunch at our house. Then proceeded to wind the children up until they were wild and breathe his horrid wine fumes all over them. Oh yes, and I don't believe IABU to think you shouldn't drink and drive either?! Why, oh why can't I grow a backbone and tell him to sod off?

Next time call the police! He's putting people's lives at risk - how are you condoning this?!

Uh, yeah not cool.

Call the police and tip them off. They'd be discrete and you would be giving him a much needed wake up call whilst stopping others lives being put at risk.

YABU for letting him in.

You're right I should call the police. I'm getting fecking fed up of him now to be honest.

Sorry but knowingly letting him drive whilst drunk makes you as guilty as him IMHO. Your dad sounds like a scummy wanker

You could call them now and explain, OP. you'd be doing your dad a massive favour- not to mention potentially saving a life. I take it that this is normal for him? Do the police a favour and let them know who to stop and breatherlise. It doesn't matter that the time has passed- there is next time. Act now and be surprised by the power you'll feel in taking a positive step in protecting yourself and others from your father.

Realistically,it's unlikely the OP will report her own father to the police.While it's morally the right thing to do,I really don't think it's going to happen.

Tell him (when he sobers up),that you won't accept him being drunk in front of the grandchildren,and that if he arrives in that state again he is not coming in.

If he does do it again,don't feel one bit awkward about turfing him out,you will have made your position clear.

Thank you everyone for the advice. I didn't know he had been driving until after the event. He lives very close by so walks to our house. I only knew when he told me where he had been and I could tell he had been drinking.

I didn't know I could pre warn police about it, that is useful information.

You can OP and although it might feel daunting, you can do it and it is the right thing to do.

Drinking and driving is well out of order.

Turing up late and drunk and work the city/mejah when you are still in your 20's is forgivable because we hope know they will grow up in the next five years.

Doing this when going to lunch with your own child is ridiculous and rude.

~Sorry, that was a bit garbled, but I think you all got my gist.